Bonke bangenwa kalula yimizwa nezenzo zabanye abantu. Bakhetha ukuthula futhi bafuna ukusiza abanye abantu. Bacasulwa izindawo eziminyene kanye nephunga elinamandla. Nokho, udokotela wengqondo uJudith Orloff ugcizelela ukuthi ukuzwelana kunezici zabo ezihlukile. Ake sizame ukukuqonda.
Njengodokotela wezifo zengqondo nozwela, ngivame ukubuzwa lo mbuzo: "Uyini umehluko phakathi kokuzwelana nabantu abanozwela kakhulu?" Lezi zinhlobo ezingokomzwelo zivame ukudideka ngoba kunokuningi okufanayo.
Kokubili kunomkhawulo oncishisiwe wokuzwela, ngakho-ke noma yisiphi isikhuthazo sizwakala kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokhu, babona ukukhanya okubukhali kakhulu, imisindo ephezulu, iphunga elimnandi. Bobabili bazizwa benesidingo sokuba bodwa isikhathi esithile futhi abakwazi ukubekezelela izixuku ezinkulu zabantu.
Kodwa abantu abane-hypersensitive badinga isikhathi esengeziwe sokululama osukwini olucindezelayo futhi bazivumelanise nendawo ezolile. Cishe zonke zingama-introverts, kanti phakathi kwama-empaths kukhona nama-extroverts.
Ama-Empaths abelana ngothando lwemvelo oluzwela kakhulu nendawo ezungezile enokuthula, kanye nesifiso sabo sokusiza abanye. Bobabili banempilo yangaphakathi ecebile.
Nokho, ukuzwelana kuphila konke okwenzekayo kubo, omunye angase athi, ezingeni eliphakeme. Bachayeka emandleni acashile - emasikweni aseMpumalanga abizwa ngokuthi ama-shakti noma ama-prana - futhi awamunce ngokoqobo kwabanye abantu, awasuse endaweni ezungezile. Abantu abane-hypersensitive, njengomthetho, abakwazi ukwenza lokhu.
Ukuzwela okuningi kunokuxhumana okujulile okungokomoya nemvelo kanye nezilwane zasendle.
Ama-Empaths afana nensimbi ezwela kakhulu, eshuthekwe kahle uma kuziwa emizweni. Bafana nesipontshi esicwilisa izinkathazo zomunye umuntu, ubuhlungu nokukhathazeka. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi akulula kubo ukubona ukuthi yini ebangele ukungakhululeki - okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abantu noma okwabo.
Nokho, bayayibona imizwa emihle yalabo ababazungezile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzwelana okuningi kunokuxhumana okujulile okungokomoya nemvelo, izwe lezilwane, okuyinto, njengomthetho, ayikwazi ukusho ngabantu abane-hypersensitivity.
Nokho, lezi zinhlobo ezingokomzwelo azikhipheli ngaphandle, futhi zinokufana okuningi kunokwehluka. Kuyenzeka ukuthi umuntu oyedwa abe ngumuntu onozwelo futhi abe nozwelo kakhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kodwa uma ulinganisa bonke abantu ukuze ukhulise ikhono lokuzwelana, uthola isithombe esilandelayo:
Kulolu hlu, ukuzwelana kuphambene ncamashi nama-narcissists kanye ne-sociopaths, abaziwa ngokuthi abanalo uzwelo. Phakathi kwalesi sikali kubekwe lezo zimo ezifanayo ezizwelayo kanye nabantu abanekhono elanele nelizinzile lokubonisa uzwela.
Ingabe nginozwela?
Uma ufunda incazelo, wacabanga ukuthi konke lokhu kukukhumbuza wena? Ukuze uhlole ukuthi ingabe ungumuntu ozwelayo ngempela, zibuze le mibuzo:
Ingabe abantu bacabanga ukuthi “nginemizwa kakhulu” noma ngizwela ngokweqile?
Uma umngane edidekile futhi ekhungathekile, ingabe nami ngiqala ukuzizwa ngendlela efanayo?
Ingabe ngilimala kalula?
Ingabe ngikhathele ukuba phakathi kwesixuku kangangokuthi kuthatha isikhathi ukuba ngilulame?
Ingabe ngiphazanyiswa umsindo, iphunga noma izingxoxo ezinomsindo?
Ngincamela ukuza emicimbini ngemoto yami ukuze ngihambe noma nini lapho ngithanda?
Ingabe ngidla ngokweqile ukuze ngibhekane nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo?
Ingabe ngesaba ukuthi ngizodliwa ngokuphelele ubudlelwano obuseduze?
Uma uphendule ngoyebo emibuzweni engaphezu kwemi-3, uthole uhlobo lwakho lwemizwa.