Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo enganeni - kuyini nokuthi kungani kubalulekile. Iseluleko se-Psychologist

UGordon Newfeld, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esidumile saseCanada noPh.D., wabhala encwadini yakhe ethi Keys to the Well-being of Children and Adolescents: “Imizwelo ibamba iqhaza elikhulu ekukhuleni komuntu ngisho nasekukhuleni kobuchopho uqobo. Ubuchopho obungokomzwelo buyisisekelo senhlalakahle. ”Ukufundwa kobuhlakani bemizwa kwaqala ezinsukwini zikaDarwin. Futhi manje bathi ngaphandle kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo obuthuthukisiwe, ngeke uyibone impumelelo - noma emsebenzini wakho, noma empilweni yakho yangasese. Beze negama elithi EQ - ngokufanisa ne-IQ - futhi balinganise lapho kuqashwa.

UValeria Shimanskaya, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane nomlobi wezinye zezinhlelo zokuthuthukiswa kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo "i-Academy of Monsiks", wasisiza ukuthola ukuthi luhlobo luni lobuhlakani, kungani kufanele luthuthukiswe nokuthi lungakwenza kanjani.

1. Kuyini ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo?

Ngenkathi isesiswini sikanina, ingane isivele ikwazi ukuzwa imizwa: imizwa nemizwa kamama idluliselwa kuye. Ngakho-ke, indlela yokuphila kanye nemvelaphi engokomzwelo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuthinta ukwakheka kwesimo sengane. Ngokuzalwa komuntu, ukugeleza okungokomzwelo kukhuphuka izikhathi eziyizinkulungwane, kuvame ukushintsha phakathi nosuku: ingane iyamamatheka futhi ijabule, bese inyathela izinyawo zayo ikhala izinyembezi. Ingane ifunda ukusebenzisana nemizwa - eyabo kanye nalabo ababazungezile. Okuhlangenwe nakho okutholakele kwakha ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo - ulwazi ngemizwa, ikhono lokuyazi nokuyilawula, ukuhlukanisa izinhloso zabanye futhi ubaphendule ngokwanele.

2. Kungani lokhu kubalulekile?

Okokuqala, i-EQ ibhekele ukunethezeka ngokwengqondo komuntu, ngempilo engenangxabano zangaphakathi. Lolu uchungechunge oluphelele: okokuqala, ingane ifunda ukuqonda ukuqonda kwayo nokuziphatha kwayo ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, bese yamukela imizwa yayo, bese iyalawula futhi ihloniphe izifiso nezifiso zayo.

Okwesibili, konke lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uthathe izinqumo ngokucophelela nangokuthula. Ikakhulu, khetha inkambu yomsebenzi umuntu ayithandayo ngempela.

Okwesithathu, abantu abanobuhlakani obungokomzwelo obuthuthukisiwe basebenzisana kahle nabanye abantu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, bayaziqonda izinhloso zabanye nezisusa zezenzo zabo, baphendule ngokwanele ekuziphatheni kwabanye, bayakwazi ukuba nozwelo nozwela.

Nasi isihluthulelo somsebenzi ophumelelayo nokuzwana komuntu siqu.

3. Uyikhuphula kanjani i-EQ?

Izingane ezithuthukise ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo zikuthola kulula kakhulu ukudlula ezinkingeni zeminyaka futhi zivumelane neqembu elisha, endaweni entsha. Ungabhekana nokukhula kwengane ngokwakho, noma leli bhizinisi ungalinikela ezikhungweni ezikhethekile. Sizophakamisa amakhambi alula asekhaya.

Khuluma nengane yakho ngemizwa eziyizwayo. Abazali bavame ukuqamba izinto zengane ahlangana nazo noma azibonayo, kepha cishe bangaze bamtshele ngemizwa ahlangabezana nayo. Ithi: "Ucasulwe ukuthi asilithenganga leli thoyizi", "Ujabule lapho ubona ubaba," "Umangele lapho kufika izivakashi."

Njengoba ingane ikhula, buza umbuzo wokuthi izizwa kanjani, unake ukubukeka kobuso bayo noma izinguquko emzimbeni. Isibonelo: “Uluke iziphequluli zakho. Uzizwa unjani manje? ” Uma ingane ingakwazi ukuphendula umbuzo ngokushesha, zama ukumqondisa: “Mhlawumbe imizwa yakho ifana nentukuthelo? Noma kuseseyinhlamba? "

Izincwadi, opopayi namabhayisikobho nakho kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo. Udinga nje ukukhuluma nengane. Xoxa ngalokhu okubonile noma okufundile: cabanga nengane yakho ngemizwa yabalingiswa, izinhloso zezenzo zabo, ukuthi kungani beziphathe ngaleyo ndlela.

Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngemizwa yakho - abazali, njengabo bonke abantu emhlabeni, bangathukuthela, bacasuke, bacasuke.

Dala izinganekwane zengane noma ndawonye naye, lapho amaqhawe afunda ukubhekana nobunzima ngokulawula imizwa yabo: banqoba ukwesaba, amahloni, futhi bafunde ezikhalazweni zabo. Ezinganekwaneni, ungadlala izindaba ezivela empilweni yengane nomndeni.

Duduza ingane yakho futhi uyivumele ikududuze. Lapho uthulisa ingane yakho, ungashintshi ukunaka kwayo, kodwa umsize aqaphele imizwa ngokuyibiza ngegama. Xoxa ngokuthi uzobhekana kanjani nokuthi kungekudala uzobe esesimweni esihle futhi.

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