Okuqukethwe
Kwesinye isikhathi ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile ukusho izwi ngesikhathi, kwesinye isikhathi ukuthula kuba yigolide. Kodwa kusenemicabango engashiwongo efika njalo ezingqondweni zethu. Futhi lapha bayakwazi ukubukela phansi ubudlelwano ngendlela engabonakali. Yini engcono ukuthi ungacabangi ngesikhathi socansi?
1. "Kwenzekeni kithi?"
Noma njengalokhu - "Kwenzekani othandweni lwethu?"
Kwakunezikhathi lapho wawungakwazi ukukhuluma ngokwanele futhi ungahlukanisi izandla zakho. Indlela yokuzibuyisela? Akunakwenzeka. Lokho okusha kanye nomdlandla ebuhlotsheni, okwakusekuqaleni, usuku ngalunye olusha luzothathelwa indawo yimizwa emisha. Kuyoba nezinselele ezintsha nezinjabulo ezintsha.
Kubalulekile ukwazisa okwedlule futhi uqonde ukuthi akekho ozobuyela lapho futhi. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ngesehlukaniso u-Abby Rodman uyeluleka — bheka okwedlule ngeso elifanele: ngokumomotheka, kodwa hhayi ngezinyembezi.
Vele wamukele ukuthi akukho ukudabuka emshweni othi "Uthando lwethu aluyona into eyayiyiyo ekuqaleni." Kuyiqiniso—uthando lwakho luyakhula futhi lushintshe nawe.
U-Abby Rodman uthi: “Ngezinye izikhathi ngibheka emuva bese ngithi kumngane wami womshado: “Usakhumbula ukuthi sasinjani mina nawe? ..”
Uyamamatheka bese ethi, “Yebo. Bekukuhle lokho". Kodwa akakaze angitshele ukuthi, "Kungani singasakwenzi lokhu?" Noma: “… Yebo, ngiyakhumbula. Kwenzekeni kithi nasothandweni lwethu?
Futhi ngokubona kwami, lesi yisixazululo esingcono kakhulu.
2. "Kazi u-N unjani embhedeni?"
Ukucabanga okunjalo, lapho umlingani ongaqaphile elele eduze, kungaphazamisa ubuhlobo ngokushesha kakhulu kunanoma yini enye, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uKurt Smith. Weluleka amadoda, ngakho iseluleko sakhe sisebenza ngokuyinhloko kuwo. “Akukhona kude emcabangweni kuya esenzweni njengoba ucabanga,” uyachaza.
3. "Ukube ubefana no-N"
Ngokudabukisayo, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zomndeni zibheka imicabango enjalo njengengenacala. Ngoba ngokuvamile babonisa abalingisi nabanye osaziwayo, umuntu osanda kuhlanganyela, noma i-crush yakudala yasesikoleni esiphakeme.
Ungavumeli amaphupho akho akuyise kude kakhulu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kungase kuvele ukuthi lezo zici ezijabulisayo kuzo nazo zikumlingani wakho - mhlawumbe kancane kancane, kodwa konke kusezandleni zakho!
4. "Uhlale ejahile"
Ungasebenza ngokungafani kusigqi sakho socansi, ucansi ngokuvamile luyinkundla engcono kakhulu yokuhlola. Kodwa i-grouchiness futhi, uma ubiza i-spade nge-spade, ukukhathala akufanele kuvunyelwe kuphela embundwini wekamelo lokulala, kodwa ngokujwayelekile endlini yakho.
5. “Ngeke ngiphendule. Myeke ahlupheke»
Kodwa lokho akulungile! Wathinteka, ufuna ukubuyisana, musa ukusunduza futhi ungaphumi ekugoneni. Umomotheka — ukumamatheka futhi. Udinga ukubuyisana ngokushesha kakhulu.
Ukujezisa ngokuncishwa ucansi, ukudla noma ukumomotheka akukona okungathí sina. Kuningi ukuhlakanipha esisho seBhayibheli esithi, “Ilanga malingashoni nisathukuthele.”
6. "Akasangithandi"
Uma ucabanga ngakho kaningi, ungagcina usuqala ukungabaza uthando oluzinikele kakhulu. Kukhona enye indlela nenhle. Ungabuzi umlingani wakho: "Ngitshele, uyangithanda?" Qeda ingxoxo yocingo no-"I love you" noma vele umqabule.