Eqinisweni, kule minyaka emibili edlule ngiye ngazama izikhathi eziningana ukuzindla, kodwa manje sengikwazile ukwenza ukuzindla kube umkhuba wami wansuku zonke. Ukuqala ukwenza into entsha njalo kuyinselele impela, kodwa ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi iseluleko sami sizosiza ngisho nabavilaphayo. Ukuzindla kuwumsebenzi onenzuzo kakhulu, futhi lapho ukuprakthiza kakhulu, yilapho uqaphela ngokwengeziwe ngakho. Ngokuzindla, ungathola lapho ukucindezeleka kucashe khona emzimbeni wakho: imihlathi eqinile, izingalo, imilenze… uhlu luyaqhubeka. Istress sami besicashe emihlathini. Ngemva kokuba ngiqale ukuzindla njalo, ngawuqaphela umzimba wami kangangokuthi manje sengiyakwazi ukulandelela ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuzalwa kanjani futhi ngingakuvumeli ukuba kungilawule. Nawa amathiphu amahlanu angakusiza wenze ukuzindla kube wumkhuba ojwayelekile. 1. Thola uthisha Elinye lamaqembu awusizo kakhulu engaya kuwo kwakuyiqembu elithi Indlela Yokuphatha Ukucindezeleka (lalinegama elimangalisayo lezemfundo, kodwa ngilikhohliwe). Sasebenza ekucabangeni, ukucabanga okuhle nokuzindla. Njengomuntu waseNew York wangempela, ngafika esimisweni sokuqala nginokungabaza, kodwa ngemva kokuzindla kokuqala ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukathisha wethu, zonke izinkolelo zami ezingamanga zashabalala. Ukuzindla ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukathisha kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, ikakhulukazi kwabaqalayo. Ikuvumela ukuthi uhlale ugxile futhi ugxile ekuphefumuleni kwakho, okuthinta kakhulu isimo somqondo nomzimba. Imikhuba yokuphefumula iyindlela ephumelela kakhulu yokubhekana nokucindezeleka. Ufuna ukuzama? Khona-ke manje, donsa umoya kanye ngamakhala akho (ujule kangangokuthi ungakwazi ukuzwa amaphaphu akho)… bamba umoya wakho imizuzwana emi-2… bese ukhipha umoya kancane ngomlomo wakho. Yenza okufanayo izikhathi ezinhlanu. Woza, phefumula, akekho okubhekile. Ngempela, akunzima, akunjalo? Kodwa umuzwa uhluke ngokuphelele! Uthisha wami wayengenakuqhathaniswa - ngangifuna ukuzindla nsuku zonke, futhi ngaqala ukusesha ku-inthanethi ukuze ngithole ukuzindla okulalelwayo. Zaba ziningi kakhulu futhi zihlukile: zihlala imizuzu emi-2 kuye kwengama-20. 2. Thola okukusebenzelayo Ukuzindla ngomsindo kuyibhodi elihle kakhulu, kodwa ungathola okunye ukuzindla kusebenza kangcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kule minyaka emibili edlule, ngizamile amasu ahlukene ayishumi nambili futhi ngifinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi ukuzindla okungitshela ukuthi ngenzeni kungifanele kakhulu. Ngimane ngilandele imiyalelo futhi ngiphumule. 3. Beka eceleni imizuzu eyi-10 nje ngosuku ukuze uzindle. Wonke umuntu angabekela eceleni imizuzu eyi-10 ngosuku yokuzindla. Zama ukuzindla ekuseni, ntambama nakusihlwa futhi uthole isikhathi sakho. Okungcono, uma ukwazi ukuzindla ekuseni ngaphambi kokuya emsebenzini. Zindla esihlalweni, khona-ke ngeke ulale futhi ngeke wephuze emsebenzini. Lapho uqeda ukuzijwayeza kwakho, zama ukuthwala lo mqondo wokuthula usuku lonke. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ungabandakanyeki kukho konke okwenzeka ehhovisi, futhi ngale ndlela, uzozivikela ekucindezelekeni. 4. Ungaphatheki kabi uma ungazidli ngezinye izinsuku Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani, kuzoba nezinsuku lapho ungeke ukwazi ukuzindla. Lokhu kwenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu. Ungakhathazeki. Qhubeka nje uzindla. 5. Khumbula ukuphefumula Noma nini lapho uzwa ukukhathazeka kungena, phefumula kancane kancane, ujule futhi uqaphele lapho ukucindezeleka kwakha khona emzimbeni wakho. Uma uthola le ndawo, phefumula kuyo futhi uzozizwa ukhululekile ngokushesha. Futhi khumbula, iqiniso alibi njengoba ngezinye izikhathi sicabanga. Umthombo: Robert Maisano, businessinsider.com Translation: Lakshmi
2022-11-11