Singathanda ukuthuthela kwelinye idolobha, sishintshe imisebenzi, ekugcineni sidlale ezemidlalo futhi sibe sesimweni esihle. Futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi kunezaba ezinhle zokwenza lolu hlelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Indlela yokuyishintsha?
“Uma ngiya endaweni ethile, ngihlale ngi late. Khona-ke ngomzuzu wokugcina ngikhipha i-jeans yami evamile kanye nejezi, ngiqoqa izinwele zami nge-ponytail. Ngizibuka esibukweni futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ngicabanga - kahle, angikwazi ukwenza izinwele zami nge-curling iron entsha futhi ngicoshe ezinye izingubo. Asikho isikhathi, asikho isizathu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngifuna ukwehlisa isisindo kuqala. Ngenxa yalokho, ngiphupha ngokuthi ngizoshintsha kanjani. Kodwa akukho okushintshile empilweni yami,” kuvuma u-Alina.
“Esikhathini esingangonyaka nesigamu esidlule, mina nomkami saqala ibhizinisi lethu futhi kusukela lapho besisebenza kanzima, asikwazi ukuliyeka ibhizinisi,” kusho uMikhail. “Yize konke sekubuyele esimeni kodwa akubonakali kuyisona isikhathi esihle sokuyovakashela iholidi. Onyakeni wesithathu sizithembisa ukuphumula kodwa silokhu sihlehlisa.”
U-Elena uthi ubelokhu ethatha ngokungathi sína ukuzalwa kwezingane: “Kufanele umethembe umlingani wakho, ume ngezinyawo futhi ungazisoli ngokuthi uphuthelwa okuthile empilweni ngenxa yezinkathazo ezintsha. Lapho ngiba neminyaka engu-38, ngabona ukuthi ungayihlehlisa unomphela.”
Bonke laba bantu banento eyodwa abafana ngayo: kubo kubonakala kufanelekile ukulinda kancane, futhi ihora le-X lizofika - leso yisikhathi esifanele, esingcono kakhulu sokugcwaliseka kohlelo.
Kungani sihlehlisa amaphupho kamuva?
Ukuphelela
Isifiso sokuletha yonke into ekupheleleni ngokuvamile iyasiphazamisa. Sizizwa singenalo ikhono elanele lokuthola umsebenzi omusha noma ukuqala ibhizinisi. Inqubo yokuzifundisa ingaqhubeka unomphela, kuyilapho ekusebenzeni singavala ngokushesha izikhala ezingaba khona.
Amaphupho ethu ayashabalala ngoba nje asizikholelwa. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuthinta abantu abazali babo ababefuna kubo imiphumela emihle ebuntwaneni. Futhi manje besaba kakhulu ukwehluleka kangangokuthi bakhetha ukungaqali lutho nhlobo.
ukukhathazeka
Ngokuqhubekayo, kuzwakala ngokumelene nesizinda sokwazi kwethu, ukukhathazeka kusibuyisela emuva ezinyathelweni ezintsha. Inkambo evamile yezinto, njengoba kubonakala, iqinisekisa ukuphepha.
Njengomthetho, umuntu okhathazekile uncike isimo sengqondo imvelo, okuyinto, ngokungabaza kwabo kanye negativism, ukondla ukwesaba kwakhe: "Kungani udinga lo msebenzi omusha / imfundo / ezihamba /? Phambili kukhona ukuhlupheka okuqinisekisiwe kanye namabhonasi angabazisa kakhulu.
Ekugcineni, kulula ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi bekungelona ukwesaba okunqobile, kodwa ukubala nje okusangulukisayo.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
- Cabanga sesihambile
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMarina Myaus sithi: “Le nqubo isetshenziswa emsebenzini wokwelapha kwengqondo futhi iklanyelwe ukwenza umuntu azizwe edlula isikhathi sokuphila. — Zama ukucabanga ukuthi usele nenkathi yesikhathi kuphela yokuphila, ozikhethela yona. Ungathanda ukuyisebenzisa kanjani? Uma usukulungele lolu hambo lwangaphakathi, khona-ke ukuzwa ubuthakathaka nokuphuthuma kokuphila, okungathetheleli ukuhlehliselwa ikusasa, kungakunikeza umfutho omusha esenzweni.
- Yamukela (okwesikhashana) ukuntuleka kwenjabulo
Izenzo zangaphandle zingashintsha kakhulu isimo sangaphakathi. Uma uzinqoba futhi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokuya ohlelweni lwakho, kancane kancane uthola injabulo kule nqubo.
Lokhu kwenzeka uma siqala ukudlala ezemidlalo futhi singakholwa ukuthi siyoke sikunambithe. Kodwa-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, sijwayela imithwalo kanye neqiniso lokuthi ngenxa yabo, ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kuyasuswa. Futhi manje nathi ngokwethu silwela ukuvivinya umzimba.
Ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukwenza okuthile, iphupho liba ngokoqobo.
- ukubona ngeso lengqondo isifiso
"Ngalokhu, kuyasiza ukuqala ibhulogi kunethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu," uchwepheshe ukholelwa. - Futhi uma wenza ukufinyelela kuvuleke, khona-ke abafundi bakho bangaba abagqugquzeli bakho. Ukurekhoda izinyathelo zakho zansuku zonke kanye nempumelelo encane kuzosiza ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho-ukuthi lesi sinqumo sizokwenza impilo yakho ibe yimbi nakakhulu.
Ukwengeza, ukubona umsebenzi ngeso lengqondo kuzokuvumela ukuthi uwususe ekuqageleni okuqondile, lapho ubonakala ukude futhi usabisa esikalini sawo, uye endaweni evundlile. Uzoqala ukuya emgomweni ngezinyathelo zansuku zonke nezangempela. Futhi uhlelo lwakho luzobonakala lungenzeka.