“Ngizogula futhi ngife,” kunquma umfana (noma mhlawumbe intombazane). "Ngizofa, futhi bonke bazokwazi ukuthi kuzoba kubi kanjani kubo ngaphandle kwami."
(Kusukela emicabangweni eyimfihlo yabafana namantombazane amaningi, kanye nomalume no-anti abangabadala)
Mhlawumbe, wonke umuntu okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wayenephupho elinjalo ngokugula nokufa kwakhe. Kulapho-ke kubukeka sengathi akasakudingi, wonke umuntu usekhohliwe ngawe futhi inhlanhla isikushiyile. Futhi ngifuna bonke ubuso obuthandekayo kuwe buphendukele kuwe ngothando nokukhathazeka. Ngamafuphi, imicabango enjalo ayiveli ekuphileni okuhle. Hhayi-ke, mhlawumbe phakathi komdlalo ojabulisayo noma ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, lapho unikezwa yona kanye into obuphupha ngayo kakhulu, ingabe imicabango enjalo edangele iyafika? Kimina, isibonelo, cha. Futhi akekho noyedwa wabangane bami.
Imicabango enjalo eyinkimbinkimbi ayenzeki ezinganeni ezincane kakhulu, lezo ezingakafundi esikoleni. Abazi okuningi ngokufa. Kubo kubonakala sengathi bebelokhu bephila, abafuni ukuqonda ukuthi abakaze babe khona, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu ukuthi ngeke babe khona. Izingane ezinjalo azicabangi ngalesi sifo, njengomthetho, azicabangi ukuthi zigula futhi ngeke ziphazamise imisebenzi yazo ethakazelisayo ngenxa yohlobo oluthile lomphimbo obuhlungu. Kodwa yeka ukuthi kuhle kangakanani lapho umama wakho ehlala nawe ekhaya, engayi emsebenzini wakhe futhi ezwa isiphongo sakho usuku lonke, ufunda izinganekwane futhi unikeza okuthile okumnandi. Futhi-ke (uma uyintombazane), ukhathazekile ngokushisa kwakho okuphezulu, ifolda, lapho ufika ekhaya evela emsebenzini, uthembisa ngokungananazi ukukunikeza amacici egolide, amahle kakhulu. Bese ebaletha begijima besuka endaweni esithekile. Futhi uma ungumfana onobuqili, khona-ke eduze nombhede wakho odabukisayo, umama nobaba bangakwazi ukubuyisana kuze kube phakade, abangakakwazi ukuthola isehlukaniso, kodwa bacishe bahlangana. Futhi lapho usuvele uyalulama, bazokuthengela zonke izinhlobo zezinto wena, onempilo, ongakwazi ngisho nokucabanga ngazo.
Ngakho cabanga ukuthi kufanelekile yini ukuhlala unempilo isikhathi eside lapho kungekho muntu okhumbula ngawe usuku lonke. Wonke umuntu umatasa ngezinto zakhe ezibalulekile, isibonelo, umsebenzi, abazali abavame ukuza bethukuthele, ababi, futhi wazi nje ukuthi bathola iphutha ezindlebeni zakho ezingageziwe, bese bephuka amadolo, sengathi bazigezile futhi abazange abashaye ebuntwaneni. Okusho ukuthi, uma beqaphela ubukhona bakho nhlobo. Futhi-ke omunye wacasha kuwo wonke umuntu ngaphansi kwephephandaba, "umama ungumfazi onjalo" (kusuka kumfanekiso wentombazanyana eshiwo ngu-KI Chukovsky encwadini ethi "From Two to Five") waya endlini yokugezela ukuze ageze, futhi awunayo. eyodwa ukukhombisa idayari yakho ngezihlanu.
Cha, lapho ugula, nakanjani impilo inezinhlangothi zayo ezinhle. Noma iyiphi ingane ehlakaniphile ingasonta izintambo kubazali bayo. Noma izintambo. Mhlawumbe yingakho, ku-slang yentsha, abazali ngezinye izikhathi babizwa kanjalo - izintambo zezicathulo? Angazi ngokuqinisekile, kodwa ngiyaqagela.
Okusho ukuthi, ingane iyagula, yebo, hhayi ngamabomu. Akasho iziphonso ezimbi, akenzi amapasi emilingo, kodwa uhlelo lwangaphakathi lwenzuzo yesifo ngezikhathi ezithile luziqala lapho kungenakwenzeka ukufeza ukuqashelwa phakathi kwezihlobo zabo ngenye indlela.
Indlela yale nqubo ilula. Okuzuzisa umzimba nobuntu ngandlela thize kubonakala ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinganeni, futhi cishe kubo bonke abantu abadala, akubonakali. Ekulapheni kwengqondo, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi i-annuity (okungukuthi, uphawu lokunikeza inzuzo).
Omunye wozakwethu wake wachaza icala lasemtholampilo nowesifazane osemusha owagula isifuba somoya. Kwenzeka ngendlela elandelayo. Umyeni wakhe wamshiya waya komunye. U-Olga (njengoba sizombiza kanjalo) wayenamathele kakhulu kumyeni wakhe futhi waphelelwa yithemba. Khona-ke wangenwa umkhuhlane, futhi ngokokuqala ngqá ekuphileni kwakhe waba nesifuba somoya, esibi kangangokuthi umyeni ongathembekile owayethukile wabuyela kuye. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, wayesenze imizamo enjalo ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa akakwazanga ukunquma ukushiya umkakhe ogulayo, okuhlaselwa kwakhe kwakuya kuba kubi. Ngakho-ke bahlala ndawonye - yena, evuvukele ngenxa yamahomoni, futhi yena - ephansi futhi echotshoziwe.
Uma umyeni eba nesibindi (komunye umongo bekuyobizwa ngokuthi ukudelela) ukungabuyi, ukusungula ukuxhumana okunonya nokuqinile phakathi kwesifo kanye nethuba lokuba nento ethandwayo, bangaphumelela, njengomnye umndeni isimo esifanayo. Wamshiya egula, enomkhuhlane omkhulu, egone abantwana. Wahamba akabange esabuya. Yena, lapho esesangulukile futhi ebhekene nesidingo esinonya sokuziphilela, ekuqaleni wacishe walahlekelwa ingqondo, wabe esekhanyisa ingqondo yakhe. Waze wathola amakhono ayengazi ngaphambili - ukudweba, izinkondlo. Umyeni wabe esebuyela kuye, kulowo ongesabi ukuhamba, ngakho-ke akafuni ukuhamba, okuyinto ethakazelisayo futhi enokwethenjelwa eduze kwakhe. Okungakulayishi endleleni, kodwa kukusiza ukuthi uhambe.
Pho sibaphatha kanjani abayeni kulesi simo? Ngicabanga ukuthi akubona abayeni kakhulu, kodwa izikhundla ezehlukene ezithathwe abesifazane. Omunye wabo wathatha indlela yokungazikhetheli futhi equlekile ngokomzwelo, omunye wasebenzisa ubunzima obavela njengethuba lokuthi abe nguye, owangempela. Ngokuphila kwakhe, waqaphela umthetho oyisisekelo we-defectology: noma yikuphi ukukhubazeka, ukushiyeka, kuyisisusa sokuthuthukiswa komuntu ngamunye, isinxephezelo sokukhubazeka.
Futhi, sibuyela enganeni egulayo, sizokubona lokho eqinisweni, angase adinge ukugula ukuze afune ukuba nempilo enhle, akufanele kumlethele amalungelo nesimo sengqondo esingcono kunomuntu ophile kahle. Futhi izidakamizwa akufanele zibe mnandi, kodwa zibe zimbi. Kokubili e-sanatorium nasesibhedlela akufanele kube ngcono kunasekhaya. Futhi umama udinga ukujabula ngengane enempilo, futhi angamenzi aphuphe ngokugula njengendlela eya enhliziyweni yakhe.
Futhi uma ingane ingenayo enye indlela yokuthola ngothando lwabazali bayo, ngaphandle kokugula, lokhu kuyinhlekelele yakhe enkulu, futhi abantu abadala badinga ukucabanga ngakho kahle. Ingabe bayakwazi ukwamukela ngothando ingane ephilayo, esebenzayo, egangile, noma uzofaka amahomoni akhe okucindezeleka esithweni esithandwayo ukuze abajabulise futhi bazobe belungele ukudlala indima yesisulu ngethemba lokuthi umbulali uzophinda aphenduke futhi amhawukele?
Emindenini eminingi, kwakhiwa inkolo ekhethekile yalesi sifo. Umuntu olungile, uthatha konke enhliziyweni, inhliziyo yakhe (noma ikhanda) ibuhlungu kukho konke. Lokhu kufana nesibonakaliso somuntu omuhle, ohloniphekile. Futhi omubi akanandaba, yonke into ifana nophizi odongeni, awukwazi ukumehlula noma yini. Futhi akukho okumlimazayo. Bese bezungeza bathi ngokulahla:
"Futhi ikhanda lakho alilimazi nhlobo!"
Ingane enempilo nejabulisayo ingakhula kanjani emndenini onjalo, uma lokhu kungamukeleki ngandlela-thile? Uma ngokuqonda nangozwela bephatha kuphela labo abambozwe amanxeba afanelekayo kanye nezilonda ezivela ekuphileni okunzima, odonsa ngesineke futhi ngokufanelekile isiphambano sakhe esindayo? Manje i-osteochondrosis ithandwa kakhulu, ecishe iphule abanikazi bayo ukuba bakhubazeke, futhi kaningi abanikazi. Futhi wonke umndeni uyagijima uzungeza, ekugcineni wazisa umuntu omuhle eduze kwabo.
Ikhono lami i-psychotherapy. Iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amabili yokuhlangenwe nakho kwezokwelapha nomama, isipiliyoni sokubhekana nezifo zami eziningi ezingapheli, kwaholela esiphethweni:
Izifo eziningi zasebuntwaneni (okuyiqiniso, akuzona ezemvelo yokuzalwa) ziyasebenza, zivumelana nezimo, futhi umuntu kancane kancane ukhula kuzo, njengamabhulukwe amafushane, uma enezinye, izindlela ezakhayo zokuhlobana nezwe. Ngokwesibonelo, ngosizo lokugula, akudingeki ukuba adonse ukunaka kukanina, unina kakade wafunda ukumqaphela enempilo futhi ejabula kuye kanjalo. Noma awudingi ukubuyisana nabazali bakho ngokugula kwakho. Ngisebenze njengodokotela osemusha iminyaka emihlanu, futhi ngahlatshwa yiqiniso elilodwa - umehluko phakathi kokuqukethwe kwamakhadi eziguli ezilashwayo esizithola emitholampilo yezingane kanye nesimo sezempilo esihlosiwe sentsha, esasigadwa njalo iminyaka emibili kuya kwemithathu. . Amakhadi ahlanganisa i-gastritis, i-cholecystitis, zonke izinhlobo ze-dyskinesia ne-dystonia, izilonda kanye neurodermatitis, i-hernia ye-umbilical, njalonjalo. Ngandlela-thile, ekuhlolweni komzimba, umfana oyedwa wayengenayo i-umbilical hernia echazwe ebalazweni. Uthe unina wanikezwa ukuhlinzwa, kodwa akakwazanga ukunquma, futhi okwamanje waqala ukudlala imidlalo (kahle, ungachithi isikhathi, empeleni). Kancane kancane i-hernia yanyamalala ndawana thize. Kwashonaphi isifo sofuba nezinye izifo, intsha ejabule nayo ibingazi. Ngakho kuvela - ngaphandle.