Izinto ezihlakazekile, idayari ekhohliwe ekhaya, ukushintsha okulahlekile ... Izingane eziningi, ngokucasula okukhulu kwabazali bazo, ziziphatha ngendlela engahlelekile ngokuphelele. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nokuthuthukiswa kwezingane uVictoria Prudey unikeza izincomo ezilula neziwusizo zokufundisa ingane ukuzimela.
Phakathi neminyaka yokusebenza njenge-psychotherapist, u-Victoria Prudey uhlangane namakhasimende amaningi futhi wezwa cishe zonke izinkinga ezihambisana nokuziphatha nentuthuko yabo. Enye yezinto ezikhathaza abazali kakhulu ukungahleleki kwezingane zabo.
“Lapho abazali abanezingane beza ehhovisi lami, ngiye ngizwe “khumula ibhantshi, bopha ibhantshi lakho, khumula izicathulo zakho, uye endlini yangasese, ugeze izandla zakho”, futhi ngemva kwemizuzu embalwa bona abazali abafanayo bayakhala kimi. ukuthi indodana noma indodakazi yabo ihlale ikhohlwa ibhokisi lokudla ekhaya, idayari noma izincwadi zokubhalela, bahlale belahlekelwa izincwadi, izigqoko namabhodlela amanzi, bakhohlwe ukwenza umsebenzi wabo wesikole,” usho kanje. Isincomo sakhe esiyinhloko, esihlale sibamangaza abazali, ukuthi bayeke. Yeka ukusebenza njenge-GPS yengane yakho. Kungani?
Izikhumbuzo ezivela kwabadala zisebenza ngempela njengohlelo lwangaphandle lokuzulazula lwezingane, oluziqondisa osukwini ngalunye lokuphila. Ngokusebenza ne-GPS enjalo, abazali bathatha umthwalo wemfanelo wengane futhi abamvumeli ukuba athuthukise amakhono okuhlela. Izikhumbuzi ngokwezwi nezwi "zicime" ubuchopho bakhe, futhi ngaphandle kwazo ingane ayisakulungele ukukhumbula nokwenza okuthile ngokusuka kwayo, ayinaso isisusa.
Abazali bathethelela ubuthakathaka bengane abazalwa nayo ngokunikeza inzalo isiqondiso esiqhubekayo.
Kodwa empilweni yangempela, ngeke abe ne-GPS yangaphandle, ehlale ekulungele ukusiza ukufeza imisebenzi edingekayo nokwenza izinhlelo. Ngokwesibonelo, uthisha wesikole unesilinganiso sabafundi abangu-25 ekilasini, futhi akakwazi ukunaka ngokukhethekile wonke umuntu. Maye, izingane ezijwayele ukulawula kwangaphandle zilahlekile lapho zingekho, ubuchopho babo abulungiswanga ukuze baxazulule ngokuzimela izinkinga ezinjalo.
“Abazali bavame ukugcizelela ukuthi kumelwe bakhunjuzwe ngokuqondile ngoba ingane ayihlelekile,” kuphawula uVictoria Prudey. Kodwa uma abazali kule minyaka emihlanu edlule behlale bekhumbuza ingane ukuthi igeze izandla ngemva kokuphuma endlini yangasese, futhi ingasakhumbuli lokhu ngokwakhe, khona-ke isu elinjalo lokukhulisa izingane alisebenzi.
Kunezingane ezingazihleleli ngokwemvelo, nabazali abazitika ngobuthakathaka bazalwa nabo, basebenze njenge-GPS futhi banikeze inzalo imiyalelo eqhubekayo. Nokho, kukhumbuza umelaphi, lawa makhono angafundiswa futhi adinga ukwenziwa njalo, kodwa hhayi ngezikhumbuzo.
UVictoria Pruday unikeza amasu abazali ukusiza indodana noma indodakazi yabo ukusebenzisa ingqondo yabo.
Ngolunye usuku ingane kufanele ibhekane nemiphumela yokungahleleki kwayo futhi ifunde emaphutheni ayo.
- Fundisa ingane yakho ukusebenzisa ikhalenda. Leli khono lizomnika ukuzethemba futhi limsize ukuba azimele ngokuphelele ngosuku lapho kufanele ahlele isikhathi sakhe ngaphandle kwakho.
- Yenza uhlu lwemisebenzi yansuku zonke: ukuzivocavoca ekuseni, ukulungiselela isikole, ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole, ukulungiselela ukulala. Lokhu kuzosiza «ukuvula» inkumbulo yakhe futhi accustom kuye ukulandelana ethile.
- Woza nohlelo lwemiklomelo yempumelelo ezuzwe yindodana noma indodakazi yakho endleleni. Uma uthola ukuthi uhlu lwezinto zokwenziwa luyazenzela futhi ngesikhathi, qiniseka ukuthi uluvuza ngomklomelo noma okungenani igama elinomusa. Ukuqinisa okuhle kusebenza kangcono kunokuqinisa okungekuhle, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthola into ongayincoma kunokuthethisa.
- Msize azinikeze amathuluzi engeziwe okuhlelwa, njengamafolda anezitikha “Umsebenzi wasekhaya. Kwenziwe» futhi «Umsebenzi wasekhaya. Kumele ngikwenze." Engeza ingxenye yokudlala — lapho uthenga izinto ezifanele, vumela ingane ikhethe imibala nezinketho ngokuthanda kwayo.
- Xhuma ingane yakho ezinqubweni zakho zenhlangano — hlanganisa uhlu lokuthenga lomndeni wonke, hlela ilondolo ozoyiwasha, lungisa ukudla ngendlela yokupheka, nokunye.
- Ake enze amaphutha. Kumelwe ngelinye ilanga abhekane nemiphumela yokungahleleki kwakhe futhi afunde emaphutheni akhe. Ungamlandeli esikoleni uphethe idayari noma ibhokisi lokudla uma ezikhohlwa njalo ekhaya.
“Siza ingane yakho ibe i-GPS yayo siqu,” uVictoria Prudey ekhuluma nabazali. Uzomfundisa isifundo esibalulekile esizoba yinzuzo enkulu lapho esekhulile futhi eqala ukubhekana nemithwalo yemfanelo eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.” Uzomangala ukuthi ingane yakho ebonakala ingahlelekile ingazimele kanjani.
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