Khohlwa ukwesaba kwakhe, amahloni akhe okwenza, ukusho, ukubukisa, ukhohlwe ukulawula ukudedela imizwa yakhe. I-Disinhibition ithole umhlaba wayo, lowo wezinkundla zokuxhumana. Phakathi komonakalo nezinzuzo.

Ngokuphikisana nokuvimbela okusho ukulawula indlela osabela ngayo kulokho okwenzeka eduze kwakho, ukuvimbela kumayelana nokusho noma ukwenza okuthile ngokuthanda kwakho, ngaphandle kokucabanga kusenesikhathi ukuthi inkinga ingaba yini. umphumela ongafuneki noma oyingozi. Kukhona futhi enye indlela yokucabanga mayelana nokunqanda ukuvinjelwa: njengokuncipha kokulawula phezu kwemibono yakho noma ama-impulses, okusho ukungakwazi ukumisa, ukubambezeleka noma ukuguqula (“inhibit”) isenzo esingafanele. esimweni ozithola ukuso. Ukuvimbela kungaba:

• ngokomzwelo, ngokuveza kalula imizwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuhle noma kubi (ukukhathazeka, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, uthando, injabulo);
• ngamazwi, ngamazwi, inhlamba, ukuklabalasa noma ukujwayelana;
• i-fantasmatic, ngokuveza amaphupho noma izifiso;
• ngokomzimba, ngokuthinta abanye, ubunqunu noma ukuvezwa komzimba kwemizwa yomuntu;
• ucansi, ngocansi olungalawuleki ngaphandle kwezithiyo.

I-Disinhibition ibonakala ngokuthi:

• ukuntula isizotha nokuzithiba;
• ukuziphatha okujwayelekile kwamazwi noma ngokomzimba;
• ukungabikho konke ukwesaba;
• ubungozi obuthile;
• ukukhulisa ukuzethemba;
• isimo sengqondo esijabulisayo;
• umbukiso;
• imibono engavamile noma ehlaza;
• ukuthinta. 

Izenzo ezivinjiwe noma ezixhamazelayo ngokuvamile ziba nemiphumela engathandeki noma eyingozi. Kungani ? Ngoba abantu abangavinjelwe basukela ekuziphatheni okungafanele, njengokuthatha ukudla epuletini lomunye umuntu kungazelelwe, baye engozini ngokungadingekile futhi eyingozi, njengokweba, umlilo, ukuhlasela ngeziqhumane. yokucasuka noma ukuzilimaza. Ngisho noma ukuvimbela ukuvinjelwa kwenzeka ngezigaba, imizuzwana embalwa ingase idlule phakathi komcabango wesenzo sokuxhamazela kanye nokubulawa kwaso. Umuntu okokuqala uzozwa umuzwa wokwanda kwengcindezi noma isasasa, isifiso. Khona-ke uzokwenza ngokuxhamazela futhi ezwe injabulo, impumuzo noma umuzwa wokwaneliseka, ukwaneliseka. Ngemva kwesenzo, angase azizwe enecala noma azisole. Ukuvinjelwa kuwuphawu lokuluthwa utshwala nezidakamizwa. Umqondo wokungavimbeli ungasiholela ekucabangeni ngephutha ukuthi lokho okungavinjiwe kungokoqobo noma kuyiqiniso kunengxenye yethu evimbelayo.

Siyazi ukuthi ku-inthanethi, abantu bavame ukusho futhi benze lokho abangeke bakwenze futhi abangakusho emhlabeni wezinto ezibonakalayo. Ukungaziwa (akekho ongaziyo, akekho ongangibona, ukuxhumana asynchronous), kusiza ukuvinjelwa. NgokukaJohn R. Suler, uprofesa wezengqondo eRider University (eNew Jersey), abantu bakhululekile, abakwazi ukuzibamba futhi bakhuluma ngokukhululekile. Abanqikazi ukwabelana ngolwazi lomuntu siqu, beveza imizwa yabo, ukwesaba kwabo, izifiso zabo. Bangakwazi ngisho nangezinye izikhathi baze babonise umusa, ukuphana kwabanye. Lokhu kuvinjelwa akuzuzisi kangako ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa futhi sibona ukwanda kwenhlamba, ukugxeka okunokhahlo, intukuthelo, inzondo, ngisho nezinsongo. Umhlaba womshoshaphansi we-inthanethi, indawo yezithombe zocansi, ubugebengu, udlame, umhlaba abangeke bawuhlole emhlabeni wangempela. 

Abanye abantu ezimeni ezithile ze-inthanethi bayazikhulula futhi baveze izici zabo. Kodwa-ke, ngesikhathi esifanayo, bangase bangalwi nezimbangela zalokhu kuvinjelwa futhi ngenxa yalokho baphuthelwe ithuba lokuthola okuthile okubalulekile ngabo, into eyiqiniso kakhulu, kodwa ngokuvamile engazi lutho. . Nakuba ukungaziwa ku-inthanethi kunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwabantu ukuze bakhululeke kakhudlwana ukuziveza, baphinde badlule ingxenye ebalulekile yokuthi bangobani. Izinto ezibalulekile zobuntu zakhelwe kulokhu kukhathazeka.

Yebo, wonke umuntu uba nezikhathi lapho ukuziphatha “okungavinjiwe” kungalimazi futhi kusiza ngisho nokuba nesikhathi esimnandi, njengokudelela endaweni yokudansa ephathini. Abantu abavinjelwa kakhulu futhi abahlushwa yikho bangathola izinzuzo zangempela ngokuya, ngokwesibonelo, ezifundweni zaseshashalazini, izifundo zokudansa. Ngenxa yezinzuzo, ukuzethemba okuthuthukisiwe, ukukhululwa ngokomzwelo, ukukhathazeka okuncishisiwe, ukulala okuthuthukisiwe, ukuhlalisana okungcono, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuthuthukisiwe kanye nokuphila kahle okuvamile. Kukhulula umuntu oba matasa kakhulu futhi ozuza ukuzethemba okungcono.

Ukuvimbela i-inthanethi nakho kunohlangothi oluhle, njengoba kuvumela abanye ukuba benze umzamo wokuziqonda kangcono, ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo. I-Cyberspace iyithuba elihle labantu abanamahloni abangaphumelela lapho uma umphumela wokuvimbela uvumela ukuthi baveze ukuthi "ngempela" bangobani ngaphakathi. Kodwa uma singavele sisuse ingcindezelo, ukucindezela, nezinye izindlela zokuzivikela, sizothola mina “wangempela” ngezansi.