Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kudinga isinyathelo, kodwa ukuthatha isinyathelo uma sekukudlile kungaba nzima. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nomcabango wokuhamba ngezinyawo noma ukuzivocavoca ungakhandla. Kodwa-ke, izenzo ezinzima kakhulu uma ubuka kuqala yilezo ezisiza ngempela. Isinyathelo sokuqala sihlala sinzima kakhulu, kodwa siyisisekelo sesibili, sesithathu kanye nazo zonke izinyathelo ezilandelayo. Amandla akho agciniwe anele ukuthi uphume kulo kanye lolu hambo noma vele uthathe ucingo ushayele othandekayo wakho. Ngokuthatha izinyathelo ezinhle ezilandelayo nsuku zonke, uzophuma ngokushesha ekucindezelekeni futhi uzizwe unamandla futhi ujabule.
Phuma futhi uhlale uxhumekile
Kubalulekile ukuthola ukwesekwa kubangani nomndeni. Kodwa yona kanye imvelo yokucindezeleka yenza kube nzima ukwamukela usizo, uzihlukanisa nomphakathi, ukuba “kuwena”. Uzizwa ukhathele kakhulu ukuba ungakwazi ukukhuluma futhi ungase ngisho ube namahloni ngesimo sakho futhi uzizwe unecala. Kodwa ukucindezeleka nje. Ukuxhumana nabanye abantu nokuhambela imicimbi eyahlukene kungakukhipha kulesi simo, kwenze owakho umhlaba wehluke kakhulu.
Ukucindezeleka akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka. Akusho ukuthi ungumthwalo osindayo kwabaseduze kwakho. Abantu obathandayo bayakukhathalela futhi bafuna ukukusiza. Khumbula ukuthi sonke sibhekana nokucindezeleka ngezikhathi ezithile. Uma uzizwa sengathi awunamuntu ongaphendukela kuye, akukephuzi kakhulu ukuqala ubungane obusha.
Funa ukwesekwa kubantu abakwenza uzizwe uphephile. Umuntu okhuluma naye kufanele abe isilaleli esihle, angabi umeluleki. Kudingeka ukhulume ukuze ungahlulelwa noma unikezwe iseluleko. Phakathi nengxoxo, wena ngokwakho uzozizwa uthuthuka futhi, cishe, uzothola indlela yokuphuma esimweni sakho. Okubalulekile yisenzo sokuxhumana nomunye umuntu ukuze ungakhulumeli esikhaleni.
Zama ukuhlala usondelene nabantu abanomqondo ofanayo, noma ngabe awuzizwa kanjalo njengamanje. Yebo, ukhululekile ukuba emicabangweni, emicabangweni, njalo njalo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuyakuzuzisa ngempela futhi kukucebise, kodwa hhayi lapho uthatha ijika elingalungile futhi uzimba wena.
Kuhle futhi ukweseka abanye abantu. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi imizwa yakho iphakama nakakhulu uma usiza othile. Ukusiza kukwenza uzizwe udingeka. Ungaba isilaleli, usize abantu ezimweni ezihlukahlukene, futhi unakekele ngisho nezilwane. Konke kuzohamba kahle.
1. Khuluma nomuntu omthandayo ngemizwa yakho
2. Cela ukusiza othile osesimweni esifanayo
3. Yidla isidlo sasemini nomngane
4. Mema othandekayo futhi uqale isiko lokukwenza kanye ngesonto.
5. Thatha abangani bakho uye ekhonsathini, imuvi noma umcimbi
6. Thumela i-imeyili umngane ohlala kude
7. Hamba uyojima nomngane
8. Cabanga futhi ubhale phansi izinhlelo zesonto elizayo
9. Siza abantu ongabazi, joyina iqembu noma umphakathi
10. Xoxa nothisha ongokomoya, umuntu omhloniphayo, noma umqeqeshi wezemidlalo
Yenza lokho okukwenza uzizwe ujabule
Ukuze unqobe ukucindezeleka, kufanele wenze izinto ezikuphumuzayo nezikunika amandla. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukulandela indlela yokuphila enempilo, ukufunda okuthile, ukuzilibazisa, ukuzilibazisa. Zama ukuhambela umcimbi othile ojabulisayo noma wasekuqaleni obungeke uye kuwo empilweni yakho. Nakanjani uzoba nokuthile ongaxoxa ngakho nabangane bakho.
Nakuba kunzima kuwe ukuziphoqa ukuthi uzijabulise njengamanje, kukhona okumele ukwenze, ngisho noma ungakuthandi. Uzomangala ukuthi uzizwa ungcono kangakanani ukuba lapha emhlabeni. Kancane kancane, uzoba namandla futhi ube nethemba. Ziveze ngobuciko ngomculo, ubuciko noma ngokubhala, buyela emdlalweni obuwuthanda noma uzame omusha, hlangana nabangane, vakashela iminyuziyamu, hamba uye ezintabeni. Yenza okuthandayo.
Lala ngokwanele futhi uhlale unempilo. Uma ulala kancane kakhulu noma kakhulu, khona-ke isimo sakho sengqondo siyahlupheka. Landela ukucindezeleka kwakho. Thola ukuthi yini ekukhathazayo futhi uyisuse. Kwenze umkhuba ukuzijwayeza ukuphumula. Zama i-yoga, imikhuba yokuphefumula, ukuphumula nokuzindla.
Woza nohlu lwezinto ezingathuthukisa umoya wakho bese uzama ukuzisebenzisa. Uma kungekho okufikayo engqondweni, zama okuthile ohlwini lwethu:
1. Chitha isikhathi emvelweni, yiba nepikiniki ehlathini noma echibini
2. Yenza uhlu lwezinto ozithandayo ngawe.
3. Funda incwadi enhle
4. Buka amahlaya noma uhlelo lwe-TV
5. Hlala endaweni efudumele yebhamuza enamafutha abalulekile
6. Gcoba izilwane ezifuywayo, zigeze, zikame, ziyise kudokotela wezilwane ukuze zihlolwe
I-7. Lalela umculo
8. Hlangana ngokuzenzakalelayo nomngane noma uye emcimbini
Hambisa
Lapho ucindezelekile, ungase ube nobunzima bokuvuka embhedeni, ingasaphathwa eyokuvivinya umzimba. Kodwa ukuvivinya umzimba kuyisilwi esinamandla sokucindezeleka futhi elinye lamathuluzi okubuyisela asebenza kahle kakhulu. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukuvivinya umzimba njalo kungaba yimpumelelo njengemithi yokudambisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Ziphinde zisize ekuvimbeleni ukuphindela emuva ngemva kokululama.
Zijwayeze okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku. Qala ngokuhamba ngezinyawo imizuzu eyi-10, bese uyakha. Ukukhathala kwakho kuzophela, amazinga akho amandla azothuthuka futhi uzozizwa ukhathele kancane. Thola okuthandayo futhi ukwenze. Ukukhetha kuhle: ukuhamba, ukudansa, ukuqeqeshwa kwamandla, ukubhukuda, ubuciko bokulwa, i-yoga. Into esemqoka ukunyakaza.
Engeza isici sokucabangela emisebenzini yakho, ikakhulukazi uma ukucindezeleka kwakho kubangelwa inkinga engaxazululiwe noma ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo. Gxila endleleni umzimba wakho ozizwa ngayo, bukela imizwa emilenzeni yakho, ezingalweni nasezithweni zokuphefumula.
Yidla ukudla okunempilo
Okudlayo kunomthelela oqondile endleleni ozizwa ngayo. Yehlisa ukudla okungaba nomthelela ongemuhle ebuchosheni bakho nomoya wakho, okuhlanganisa i-caffeine, utshwala, amafutha e-trans, nokudla okunezivikeli makhemikhali eziphakeme namahomoni.
Ungakweqi ukudla. Amakhefu amade phakathi kokudla akwenza uzizwe ucasuka futhi ukhathele. Nciphisa ushukela kanye nama-carbohydrate acwengekile atholakala ekudleni okulula okunoshukela, ezimpahleni ezibhakiwe, pasta, nama-french, okungaholela ngokushesha ekushintsheni kwemizwa kanye namazinga aphansi wamandla.
Faka ukudla okunothe ngamavithamini B ekudleni kwakho. Thatha inkambo yezithako noma udle izithelo ezisawolintshi eziningi, imifino enamaqabunga, nobhontshisi.
Thola umthamo wakho wansuku zonke wokukhanya kwelanga
Ilanga linyusa amazinga e-serotonin futhi lithuthukise isimo sengqondo. Phuma ngaphandle emini futhi uhambe okungenani imizuzu eyi-15 ngosuku. Noma ungaliboni ilanga ngemuva kwamafu, ukukhanya kusakuhle kuwe.
Hamba uyoshaywa umoya ngesikhathi sekhefu lakho lesidlo sasemini, thatha i-thermos yetiye uliphuze ngaphandle, yiba namapikiniki uma isimo sezulu sivuma, hamba nenja yakho izikhathi ezingaphezu kuka kabili ngosuku. Zama ukuhamba ngezinyawo ehlathini, udlale ngaphandle nabangane noma izingane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzoba yini, into eyinhloko ukuthola ukukhanya kwelanga. Khulisa inani lokukhanya kwemvelo ekhaya nasemsebenzini, susa izimpumputhe noma amakhethini, uhlele indawo yokusebenza eduze kwefasitela.
Abanye abantu bacindezelekile ngenxa yokufinyezwa kwamahora okukhanya emini ekwindla nasebusika. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi yi-seasonal affective disorder, okwenza uzizwe ungumuntu ohluke ngokuphelele. Nokho, ziningi izinto ongazenza ngesikhathi esibandayo ezizokwenza uzizwe ungcono.
Inselele ukucabanga okuphambene
Awunamandla futhi ubuthakathaka? Awukwazi ukubhekana nento ebonakala ingelona iphutha lakho? Ingabe uzizwa ungenathemba? Ukucindezeleka kuthinta kabi yonke into, kuhlanganise nendlela ozibona ngayo wena nekusasa lakho.
Uma le micabango ingaphezu kwamandla akho, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lokhu kuwuphawu lokucindezeleka kwakho, futhi le mibono engenangqondo, engenathemba, eyaziwa ngokuthi ukuchema kokuqonda, ayilona iqiniso. Awukwazi ukuphuma kulo mqondo ongenathemba ngokuzitshela ukuthi, “Cabanga kahle nje.” Ngokuvamile kuyingxenye yokucabanga kwempilo osekuzenzekele kangangokuthi awukwazi ngisho nokuqaphela ngokugcwele. Iqhinga liwukuhlonza uhlobo lwemicabango engalungile ebhebhezela ukucindezeleka kwakho bese uyishintsha ngokucabanga okulinganiselayo.
Iba isibukeli sangaphandle semicabango yakho. Zibuze imibuzo:
Lapho ulungisa kabusha imicabango yakho engemihle, ungase umangale ukuthi ibhidlika ngokushesha kangakanani. Kule nqubo, uzothuthukisa umbono olinganiselayo futhi ukusize uphume ekucindezelekeni.
Thola usizo lochwepheshe
Uma uthathe izinyathelo zokuzisiza futhi wenza izinguquko ezinhle endleleni yokuphila futhi usenomuzwa wokuthi ukucindezeleka kwakho kuba kubi kakhulu, funa usizo lochwepheshe. Lokhu ngeke kusho ukuthi ubuthakathaka. Ngezinye izikhathi ukucabanga okungalungile ekucindezelekeni kungakwenza uzizwe ulahlekile, kodwa ukucindezeleka kungelashwa futhi uzozizwa ungcono.
Nokho, ungakhohlwa ngalawa macebiso okuzisiza. Zingaba yingxenye yokwelashwa kwakho, zisheshise ukululama kwakho futhi zivimbele ukudangala ukuthi kungabuyi.