Okuqukethwe
Ekugcineni, ingane yakho ineminyaka emithathu ncamashi. Usecishe wazimele: uyahamba, uyagijima futhi akhulume ... Angathenjelwa ezintweni eziningi yena. Izimfuno zakho ziyanda ngokuzenzakalelayo. Uzama ukukusiza kukho konke.
Futhi kungazelelwe ... kungazelelwe ... Kukhona okwenzekayo esilwaneni sakho. Ishintsha phambi kwamehlo ethu. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kokubi kakhulu. Njengokungathi othile esikhundleni somntwana futhi esikhundleni sendoda ethobelayo, ethambile futhi ethambile, njenge-plasticine, ukushelela isidalwa esiyingozi, esinhlanhlathayo, esinenkani, esingenangqondo.
“Marinochka, ngicela uphathe incwadi,” kubuza umama ngothando.
“Hhayi I-Plyness,” kuphendula uMarinka ngokuqinile.
- Nikeza, mzukulu, ngizokusiza, - njengenhlalayenza, ugogo unikeza.
“Cha, mina,” umzukulu ephika ngenkani.
— Ake sihambe.
— Ngeke ahambe.
— Yiya esidlweni sakusihlwa.
- Angifuni.
— Ake silalele indaba.
- Ngeke…
Ngakho-ke usuku lonke, isonto, inyanga, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nonyaka, umzuzu nomzuzu, njalo ngomzuzwana ... Njengokungathi indlu ayiseyona ingane, kodwa uhlobo oluthile "lwe-nervous rettle". Uyala into ahlala eyithanda kakhulu. Wenza konke ukuze adelele wonke umuntu, ubonisa ukungalaleli kukho konke, ngisho nokulimaza izithakazelo zakhe. Futhi ucasuka kanjani lapho imigilingwane yakhe imiswa ... Uhlola kabili noma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa. Kuphakathi kokuthi aqale ukucabanga, abese eyeka ukukhuluma… Ngokungazelele wenqaba ibhodwe … njengerobhothi, elihleliwe, ngaphandle kokulalela imibuzo nezicelo, uphendula wonke umuntu: “cha”, “angikwazi”, “angifuni. ”, “Ngeke”. “Zizophela nini lezi zimanga ekugcineni? kubuza abazali. — Yini okumele uyenze naye? Ukungalawuleki, ubugovu, inkani .. Ufuna yonke into ngokwakhe, kodwa namanje akazi kanjani. “Ingabe umama nobaba abaqondi ukuthi angiludingi usizo lwabo?” - ingane icabanga, igomela ngokuthi "Mina". “Ababoni yini ukuthi ngihlakaniphe kanjani, ngimuhle kanjani! Ngingovelele!" - Ingane iyazincoma ngesikhathi "sothando lokuqala", izwa umuzwa omusha odizzy - "Mina ngokwami!" Wazigqamisa ngokuthi «Mina» phakathi kwabantu abaningi ababemzungezile, waphikisana naye. Ufuna ukugcizelela umehluko wakhe kubo.
- "Mina mina!"
- "Mina uqobo!"
- "Mina uqobo" ...
Futhi lesi sitatimende se-«I-system» siyisisekelo sobuntu ekupheleni kobuntwana. Ukweqa kusuka kumuntu wamaqiniso kuya kumphuphi kugcina "ngenkathi yenkani." Ngenkani, ungaguqula amaphupho akho abe ngokoqobo futhi uwavikele.
Lapho beneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, izingane zilindele ukuthi umndeni ubone ukuzimela nokuzimela. Ingane ifuna ukubuzwa umbono wayo, ithintwe. Futhi akakwazi ukulinda ukuthi kwenzeke esikhathini esizayo. Akakasiqondi isikhathi esizayo. Udinga konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngokushesha, manje. Futhi uzama nganoma iyiphi indlela ukuze athole ukuzimela futhi azigomele ngokunqoba, ngisho noma kuletha ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yokungqubuzana nabathandekayo.
Izidingo ezandisiwe zengane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala azisakwazi ukwaneliseka ngesitayela sangaphambili sokuxhumana naye, kanye nendlela yokuphila yangaphambili. Futhi ngokuphikisana, evikela "Mina", umntwana uziphatha "ngokuphambene nabazali bakhe", ehlangabezana nokungqubuzana phakathi kokuthi "Ngifuna" nokuthi "Kumelwe".
Kodwa sikhuluma ngokukhula komntwana. Futhi yonke inqubo yentuthuko, ngaphezu koshintsho oluhamba kancane, ibuye ibonakale ngoshintsho oluphuthumayo-izinhlekelele. Ukuqoqwa kancane kancane kwezinguquko ebuntwini bengane kuthathelwa indawo ukuphuka okunobudlova - emva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukubuyisela emuva ukuthuthukiswa. Cabanga ngetshwele elingakachanyuselwa eqandeni. Uphephe kangakanani lapho. Nokho, nakuba engokwemvelo, ubhubhisa igobolondo ukuze aphume. Ngaphandle kwalokho, wayezovele amince ngaphansi kwawo.
Ukunakekela kwethu ingane kuyigobolondo elifanayo. Ufudumele, unethezekile futhi uphephile ukuba ngaphansi kwakhe. Kwesinye isikhathi uyayidinga. Kodwa umntwana wethu uyakhula, eshintsha ngaphakathi, futhi ngokuzumayo kufika isikhathi lapho eqaphela ukuthi igobolondo liphazamisa ukukhula. Ukukhula makube buhlungu ... kodwa nokho umntwana angabe esaba ngokwemvelo, kodwa ngokuqaphela aphule "igobolondo" ukuze ezwe ukuguquguquka kwesiphetho, ukwazi okungaziwa, ukuzwa okungaziwa. Futhi ukutholakala okuyinhloko ukutholakala kwakho. Uzimele, angenza noma yini. Kodwa ... ngenxa yamathuba eminyaka, ingane ayikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komama. Futhi uyamthukuthelela ngalokhu futhi «uyaphindisela» ngezinyembezi, ukuphikisa, whims. Akakwazi ukufihla inkinga yakhe, okuyinto, njengezinaliti ku-hedgehog, iphuma futhi iqondiswe kuphela kubantu abadala abahlala eduze kwakhe, bambheke, baxwayise zonke izifiso zakhe, bengaboni futhi bengaboni ukuthi angakwazi ukwenza noma yini. Zenzele. Nabanye abantu abadala, nontanga, abafowabo nodadewabo, ingane ayizukuxabana.
Ngokusho kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, ingane eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala ibhekene nenye yezinkinga, isiphetho sayo esiphawula isigaba esisha sobuntwana - ingane yasenkulisa.
Izinkinga ziyadingeka. Zifana namandla ashukumisayo entuthuko, izinyathelo zayo ezingavamile, izigaba zoshintsho emsebenzini oholayo wengane.
Eminyakeni emi-3, ukulingisa kuba umsebenzi ohamba phambili. Ingane iqala ukudlala abantu abadala futhi iwalingise.
Umphumela ongemuhle wezinkinga ukwanda kokuzwela kobuchopho emathonyeni emvelo, ukuba sengozini kwesimiso sezinzwa esimaphakathi ngenxa yokuphambuka ekuhlelweni kabusha kohlelo lwe-endocrine kanye ne-metabolism. Ngamanye amazwi, umvuthwandaba wale nkinga kuwukugxuma okuthuthukayo, okusha okunekhwalithi kanye nokungalingani kokusebenza okungeyinhle empilweni yengane.
Ukungalingani kokusebenza kusekelwa futhi ukukhula okusheshayo komzimba wengane, ukwanda kwezitho zayo zangaphakathi. Amakhono okuguqula umzimba wengane ayancishiswa, izingane zingenwa kalula yizifo, ikakhulukazi i-neuropsychiatric. Nakuba izinguquko ezingokomzimba nezezinto eziphilayo zenhlekelele zingadonseli ukunaka ngaso sonke isikhathi, izinguquko ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni komntwana zibonakala kuwo wonke umuntu.
Abazali kufanele baziphathe kanjani ngesikhathi senhlekelele yengane eneminyaka emi-3
Ngomuntu oqondiswe kuye inkinga yengane eneminyaka engu-3, umuntu angahlulela okunamathiselwe kwakhe. Njengomthetho, umama usesikhungweni semicimbi. Futhi umthwalo wemfanelo oyinhloko wendlela efanele yokuphuma kule nkinga uphezu kwakhe. Khumbula ukuthi umntwana uhlushwa yisimo esibucayi ngokwakhe. Kodwa inkinga yeminyaka emi-3 iyisigaba esibalulekile ekukhuleni kwengqondo yengane, okuphawula ukushintshela esigabeni esisha sobuntwana. Ngakho-ke, uma ubona ukuthi isilwane sakho sishintshe kakhulu, futhi hhayi kangcono, zama ukuthuthukisa umugqa olungile wokuziphatha kwakho, ube nezimo eziguquguqukayo emisebenzini yezemfundo, wandise amalungelo nezibopho zengane futhi, ngaphakathi kwesizathu, vumela. unambitha ukuzimela ukuze akujabulele. .
Yazi ukuthi ingane ayigcini nje ngokuphikisana nawe, ihlola isimilo sakho futhi ithole ubuthakathaka kuyo ukuze ibathonye ekuvikeleni ukuzimela kwayo. Uhlola nawe izikhathi eziningana ngosuku ukuthi lokho omenqabelayo kwenqatshelwe ngempela yini, futhi mhlawumbe kungenzeka. Futhi uma kukhona ngisho nethuba elincane lokuthi "kungenzeka", ingane ifinyelela umgomo wayo hhayi kuwe, kodwa kubaba, ugogo nomkhulu. Ungamcasuki ngalokho. Futhi kungcono ukulinganisa imivuzo efanele kanye nezijeziso, uthando nokuqina, kuyilapho ungakhohlwa ukuthi "i-egoism" yengane ayinangqondo. Phela yithina akekho omunye owamfundisa ukuthi izifiso zakhe zifana nomyalo. Futhi ngokuzumayo - ngesizathu esithile akunakwenzeka, into enqatshelwe, into enqatshiwe kuye. Sishintshe uhlelo lwezidingo, futhi kunzima ngengane ukuqonda ukuthi kungani.
Futhi uthi “cha” kuwe ngokuphindisela. Ungamcasuki ngalokho. Ngemva kwakho konke yizwi lakho elijwayelekile uma uliveza. Futhi yena, ezicabangela ukuzimela, ulingisa wena. Ngakho-ke, lapho izifiso zomntwana zidlula kude amathuba angempela, thola indlela yokuphuma emdlalweni wokulingisa, okuthi kusukela eminyakeni engu-3 ibe umsebenzi oholayo wengane.
Ngokwesibonelo, ingane yakho ayifuni ukudla, nakuba ilambile. Awumncengi. Seka itafula bese ubeka ibhere esihlalweni. Cabanga ukuthi ibhere lafika ukuze lidle isidlo sakusihlwa futhi licela ngempela ingane, njengomuntu omdala, ukuthi izame uma isobho lishisa kakhulu, futhi, uma kungenzeka, limfunze. Ingane, njengenkulu, ihlala phansi eduze kwethoyizi futhi, ingabonakali, ngenkathi idlala, idla ukudla kwasemini ngokuphelele nebhere.
Lapho eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ukuzethemba kwengane kuyathopha uma wena ngokwakho umshayela ucingo, uthumele izincwadi ezivela kwelinye idolobha, ucela iseluleko sakhe, noma umnike izipho “zabantu abadala” njengepeni lokubhala.
Ukuthuthukiswa okuvamile komntwana, kuyinto efiselekayo ngesikhathi senhlekelele yeminyaka emi-3 ukuthi ingane ibe nomuzwa wokuthi bonke abantu abadala endlini bayazi ukuthi eduze kwabo akuyona ingane, kodwa umngane wabo olinganayo nomngane.
Inkinga yengane eneminyaka emi-3. Izincomo zabazali
Phakathi nenhlekelele yeminyaka emithathu, umntwana uthola okokuqala ukuthi ungumuntu ofanayo nabanye, ikakhulukazi, njengabazali bakhe. Enye yezibonakaliso zalokhu kutholakala ukubonakala enkulumweni yakhe yesabizwana esithi «Mina» (ngaphambili wayekhuluma ngaye kuphela kumuntu wesithathu futhi wazibiza ngegama, isibonelo, wathi ngaye ngokwakhe: "UMisha wawa"). Ukuziqaphela okusha kubonakala nangesifiso sokulingisa abantu abadala kukho konke, ukulingana nabo ngokuphelele. Ingane iqala ukuphoqa ukuthi ilaliswe ngesikhathi abantu abadala belala, ilwela ukugqoka futhi ikhumule yodwa, njengabo, ngisho noma ingakwazi ukwenza lokhu. Bona →