Opopayi bezingane bavame ukubonwa ngendlela ehlukile abantu abadala. Abalingiswa abahle bayacasula, ababi bayazwelana, futhi iziqephu ezilula azisabonakali zilula kangako. Kanye ne-psychotherapist, siyaqonda izincazelo ezifihliwe zalezi zindaba.
"I-Lion King"
I-cartoon eyintandokazi yezingane eziningi nabantu abadala. Kodwa lena akuyona nje idrama ngempilo yasehlathini, kodwa futhi indaba emayelana nokungqubuzana kwangaphakathi uSimba ayenakho.
Indaba yayingaba nesiphetho esihlukile ukube iqhawe lethu linesistimu yalo yenani, elingabekwa muntu, likwazi ukuyeka ngesikhathi ukuze "licabange" futhi lizibuze imibuzo ethi "ngifuna lokhu?" futhi “ingabe ngiyayidinga ngempela?” futhi ubengazivumela okungenani ukuthi aphile ngokukhululeka.
Futhi kuyindaba yokuzibalekela - ngemva kokushona kukayise, uSimba ubanjwe amahloni, futhi uthola inkampani entsha, i-Timon nePumbaa. Ibhubesi lidla amacimbi futhi ngazo zonke izindlela liphika ingqikithi yalo. Kodwa ekugcineni, uyaqaphela ukuthi lokhu akukwazi ukuqhubeka, futhi uqala ukufuna ubuyena bangempela.
"Aladdin"
Indaba emnandi yothando, empeleni, okungenzeka ukuthi izohluleka. U-Aladdin uhlangana noJasmine futhi ngazo zonke izindlela uzama ukumthola, futhi unquma ukukwenza ngokukhohlisa.
Kodwa esikubonayo: U-Aladdin unomphefumulo ocashile kakhulu, futhi unamahloni ngaye ngokwakhe. Imfihlo yakhe idaluliwe, uJasmine uyamxolela. Imodeli enjalo yobudlelwane - "inkunzi nenkosazana" - ivame ukutholakala empilweni, futhi kukhathuni isithombe se-bandit-Aladdin sithathwa ngothando.
Ingabe ubuhlobo obakhelwe phezu kwenkohliso bungajabula? Akunakwenzeka. Kodwa ngaphandle kwalokhu, kufanelekile ukunaka izindinganiso eziphindwe kabili lapha: yiqiniso, ukweba nokukhohlisa kubi, kodwa uma ukumboza ngesisusa esihle, kuvunyelwe?
"Ubuhle Nesilwane"
Ubudlelwano phakathi kuka-Adamu (Isilo) kanye no-Belle (Ubuhle) buyisibonelo sobudlelwane obuncikene phakathi kwe-narcissist kanye nesisulu. Naphezu kokuthi u-Adamu uthumba futhi ubambe u-Belle ngenkani, ngokwengqondo ubeka ingcindezi kuye, isithombe sakhe sibangela uzwela.
Sithethelela ukuziphatha kwakhe ngesiphetho esinzima nokuzisola, okuthathelwa indawo ulaka nokukhwabanisa, kodwa empeleni lokhu kuwuphawu oluqondile lwe-narcissism kanye nokuntuleka komthwalo wemfanelo wokuphila komuntu.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, u-Belle angase abonakale enenkani, enenkani futhi eyisiphukuphuku: akaboni yini ukuthi uyamthanda futhi ulungele ukumenzela noma yini? Futhi yena, naphezu kobuhlakani bakhe nobubanzi bokucabanga, usawela ekubanjweni kwe-narcissist futhi abe yisisulu.
Kunjalo, indaba iphetha ngesiphetho esijabulisayo: Isilo siba inkosana ebukekayo, futhi yena noNobuhle baphila kamnandi. Eqinisweni, ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo obuncike kumuntu buphelile, futhi akufanele ufune izaba zokuziphatha okunjalo komuntu.
Ungawabuka kanjani amakhathuni nengane
- Buza imibuzo enganeni. Yiba nentshisekelo yokuthi yimuphi kubadlali abathandayo nokuthi kungani, ubani obonakala eyiqhawe elibi, ukuthi uhlobana kanjani nezenzo ezithile. Kusukela ekuphakameni kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, wena nengane yakho ningabheka izimo ezifanayo ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kuyafaneleka ukumchazela ngobumnene umbono wakho walesi simo futhi nixoxe ngenkinga ngezindlela ezahlukene.
- Xoxa ngezimo eningazivumeli kwezemfundo nasekuxhumaneni. Chaza ukuthi kungani lokhu kungamukeleki nokuthi kufanele uziphathe kanjani esimweni esithile. Ngokwesibonelo, ubudlova obungokomzimba noma ukuhlukunyezwa emakhathuni ngezinye izikhathi kwenziwa kube okothando, futhi ingane ingase ibe nombono wokuthi kwamukelekile ngaphansi kwezimo ezingavamile.
- Chaza isikhundla sakho enganeni - ngobumnene nangokucophelela, ngaphandle kokumphoqa noma ukumthethisa ngokungaqondi okuthile. Ungayizibi imibuzo ephikisayo. Ngokuqinisekile uyoba nesithakazelo ukwazi umbono wakho mayelana nabalingiswa, izimo, ukuzwa ngesimo sakho sengqondo kulokho okwenzekayo.
- Buza indodana noma indodakazi yakho ukuthi ixoxe ngokuthi kungani, ngokombono wabo, umlingiswa enze ngale ndlela hhayi ngenye indlela, sasiyini isisusa sakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iyakuvumela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Buza imibuzo eholayo - lokhu ngeke kusize nje ukudweba iziphetho, kodwa futhi kufundise ingane ukucabanga ngokuhlaziya.