Okuqukethwe
Enye inkolelo evamile mayelana nobulili. Kuphikiswa ochwepheshe bethu, izazi zocansi u-Alain Eril noMireille Bonyerbal.
U-Alain Eril, isazi se-psychoanalyst, isazi sezocansi:
Ngokombono we-physiology, owesifazane uyakwazi ngempela ukuzwa ama-orgasms amaningi, isikhathi esiphakathi esingadluli imizuzu emi-3. Kodwa kuphela i-20% yabesifazane abafinyelela "i-orgasm eminingi" enjalo, njengoba isici esingokwengqondo lapha sinqoba i-physiology: abesifazane abaningi bakhetha ukungasebenzisi leli khono labo, besaba ngokungazi.
Ngokuqondene nendoda, ngemva kokuphuma isidoda kufanele idlule esigabeni sokululama, lapho ingakwazi ukujabula, ngisho noma isothandweni kuze kube seqophelweni lokusangana.
Amanye amadoda afuna ukwenza owesifazane abe ne-orgasm eminingi ukuze aqiniseke ngobudoda babo.
Lapha, umbuzo othakazelisa kakhulu ubonakala kimi ukuthi indoda ichitha kanjani isikhathi imhlukanisa nesigaba esilandelayo sokuvuka. Angase abheme lapho elinde ukuba imvelo ithathe indawo yayo, noma angase alondoloze ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo nowesifazane osavukwe inkanuko. Esimweni sokugcina, kuzogqugquzelwa isifiso somlingani, futhi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kombhangqwana lokhu kuthela kakhulu.
U-Mireille Bonierbal, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, udokotela wezocansi:
Igama elithi «okungapheli» liyangishaqisa ngoba libeka inkambiso ethile. Ngokombono wokuphila, abesifazane bayakwazi lokhu, kodwa kwabanye, i-orgasm eyodwa yanele. Kodwa-ke, amanye amadoda, agxile kulo mbono we "infinity", ngokuqinisekile afuna ukuphoqa owesifazane ukuba athole ama-orgasms amaningana ukuze azikholise ngobuhle babo bobudoda.
Bese beqhathanisa impumelelo yabo neyabalingani babo. Uma kuvela ukuthi badinga isikhathi esengeziwe sokululama (futhi emadodeni, isigaba sokululama singahlala emaminithini amahlanu kuya kubusuku bonke), bese benquma ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kubo futhi baye kudokotela. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ubulili kubantu abahlukene buhluka kakhulu, kuyilapho buhlala ngaphakathi kwebanga elijwayelekile.