I-Psychology

Bazi kahle ukuthi bafunani futhi bani, futhi bayakuthola. Bakhetha ubulili kunokulinda inkosana ehhashi elimhlophe - elikhanyayo, elicebile, elihlukahlukene, bahlukana kalula nabalingani uma beyeka ukuhambisana nabo. BangamaCasanova ngeziketi.

Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, umlingisikazi kanye umethuli we-TV Vera Sotnikova wathi ngaye engxoxweni: "NginguCasanova esiketini." Ngalezo zinsuku, izindinganiso zomndeni zazivame phakathi kwabesifazane, futhi imodeli enjalo yokuziphatha yayibonakala ingavamile kakhulu, ishaqisa futhi ingamadoda. Kodwa konke sekushintshile.

Amaqiniso anamuhla anokhahlo ngokuvamile adinga izimfanelo zesilisa kwabesifazane. Imingcele phakathi kobulili ilufifi, izibonelo zabesifazane nabesilisa ebudlelwaneni ziyasondela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, othintana nabo baya ngokuya bakha phezulu, bekude, futhi kunokwesaba okukhulayo kokuvuleleka, ukusondelana, nokuba sengozini. Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa besaba imizwa enamandla engenakugwema ebudlelwaneni obuseduze. Ihluke kanjani i-Casanovas kuwo wonke umuntu?

1. Bayenga ngobuchule

Abesifazane baseCasanova bayenga kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi basebenzisa amasu asebenzayo, "abesilisa", kodwa lokhu akuvamile: ngokuvamile owesifazane uyenga njengowesifazane - ngobuqili, ngomusa nangokungabonakali. Uyokudakisa ngephunga lamakha, iziketi eziheshazayo, nokubuka okujiyilethi.

Ngeke uqaphele ukubanjwa bese uthandana. Uzomthatha njengowesifazane ofuna ukushada, futhi okwesikhashana uzocabanga ukuthi unesithakazelo kakhulu kuwe kunalokho akudinga ngempela futhi kuncike kuwe. Uzombheka, uchithe imali ngaye. Mhlawumbe uzoqala ukwenza izinhlelo zekusasa elihlangene. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzobonisa ubuso bakhe bangempela.

2. Abafuni ukushada. Bafuna ucansi kuphela

Njengomthetho, abesifazane asebefeze "uhlelo lwabo oluncane lwezenhlalakahle" baba yiCasanovas: babeshadile, banezingane, futhi manje bakhululekile ukuphila ngendlela abafuna ngayo. Umuntu wesifazane onjalo akadingi ukuphila nawe futhi afe ngosuku olulodwa. Unesithakazelo kuphela ku-potency yakho, inkanuko, inganekwane yocansi, injabulo ongamnika yona.

“Ngifuna ucansi nje manje. Okuningi. Kuhle futhi kuhlukahlukene,” kusho uYuliya, 39. “Lapha, ubulili buyindlela enhle yokuxhumana. Kodwa ucansi luza nobudlelwano, okuwumthwalo kimina. Indlela yokuthola ubulili kuphela, ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuhambisanayo? ”- U-Inna, 42, unanela naye.

Akuvamile kakhulu, amantombazane amancane athole ukudumazeka okunamandla othandweni lothando abe yiCasanovas ngokuzenzakalelayo. Njengoba lokhu kungamaski kuphela, kunethemba lokuguqula intombazane enjalo ibe umngane womshado othembekile.

3. Ukukhululeka ezibophweni. Uma umshado, ke civil

Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile ebuhlotsheni nowesifazane waseCasanova, indoda iyaqaphela ukuthi umlingani uziphatha ngendlela engavamile, ephula imibono evamile yokuziphatha kwabesifazane. Akazami ukusungula ukuphila okuhlangene, akaceli izipho, akabizi indoda emsebenzini izikhathi ezinhlanu ngosuku, akazizwa enesifiso esikhulu sokuya ezinkundleni zemidlalo yeshashalazi nezindawo zokudlela, ugwema ukuhlangana nabangane nezihlobo zakhe. Kodwa uhlala ephendula ngentshiseko esicelweni socansi - bonke ubudlelwano behlela kuye kancane kancane.

Muva nje, ngithole izihloko eziningi ezikhuluma ngomshado womphakathi, lapho owesifazane ethulwa khona ohlangothini olulodwa. Ababhali bamdalula njengesisulu sowesilisa «omsebenzisayo». Angivumelani kakhulu nalokhu. Abesifazane abaningi ngokuqaphela bakhetha umshado womphakathi njengendlela ekhululekile kunazo zonke yobudlelwane babo. Yiqiniso, akubona bonke abakwaCasanovas: iningi emshadweni womphakathi lakha ubuhlobo obunzima.

Ngokunokwenzeka, owesifazane waseCasanova uzogwema noma yikuphi ukusikisela kokuhlala unomphela, kodwa uma evuma umshado, khona-ke umshado omkhulu womphakathi: uqinisekisa ubulili obuphephile, kodwa ukhulula kwezinye izibopho zokubambisana owesifazane onjalo azibona njengezingadingekile.

4. "Ngigwinywe futhi ngiyeke"

Imodeli enjalo yokuziphatha iyekile ukuba yilungelo lengxenye eqinile yesintu. Owesifazane angakwazi ukushiya ngokuthula owesilisa oyekile ukumanelisa ocansini, noma amthathele umlingani ofaneleka kakhulu - njengoba nje amadoda eshiya abesifazane ngenxa yokunganeliseki ngokocansi noma ukuhlangana nomuntu obajabulisa kakhulu.

Kungani abesifazane baseCasanova belungile?

Kumelwe ukuba la madoda ayifunda futhi ashaqeka. Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwano nabesifazane abanjalo buthembisa amabhonasi amaningi, ngoba:

  • abalindele lutho kuwe, abakwenzi ube nesibopho ngekusasa lakho;
  • angani “nifanele”, enihlupha ngomhawu nokulawula;
  • ungathathi indawo yakho siqu: hhayi ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba;
  • ungadali ukusondelana, cishe njalo kunobuhlungu, akukho lutho lomuntu siqu, ubulili kuphela;
  • abanolwazi, inkanuko, abalungile kwezocansi, banemicabango ethuthukisiwe yocansi, nabo ungathola imizwa yocansi emnandi kanye nokuvelayo;
  • bayohlala bezivikela ocansini, ngakho-ke wena;
  • ilungiswe kahle, ilungiswe kahle, iyathandeka.

Ngakho-ke zibuze umbuzo: "Hlobo luni lobudlelwano engibudingayo mina?" Futhi uyiphendule ngobuqotho. Kulabo abafuna ucansi kuphela, owesifazane waseCasanova ungumlingani ophelele. Ubudlelwano naye bulula kakhulu: ubulili kuphela, obuhle futhi obuhlukahlukene. Idili lokuvusa inkanuko, imizwelo. Mhlawumbe yilokhu okudingayo ngempela?

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