Okuqukethwe
Izikhathi ziyashintsha, isimo sengqondo kwabanye kanye nathi siyashintsha. Kodwa le nkolelo-mbono mayelana nobulili ngandlela-thile iyaqhubeka. Kuphikiswa ochwepheshe bethu - izazi zocansi u-Alain Eril noMireille Bonyerbal.
Sekunesikhathi eside kugxilile emphakathini ukuthi amadoda ajwayele ukuzwa isidingo sokuya ocansini, abe nabantu abathandana nabo ocansini abaningi futhi abakhethi kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke, amadoda ngokwawo aya ngokuya esho ukuthi ahlangabezana nokuntuleka kokuxhumana okungokomzwelo nomlingani kanye nokuzwelana phakathi kobudlelwano. Imuphi kule mibono oseduze neqiniso?
“Abesifazane bazimisele kakhulu ukuya ocansini lapho bethomba”
Alain Eriel, psychoanalyst, sexologist
Ngokombono we-physiology, i-ejaculation yansuku zonke iyadingeka ukuze owesilisa asebenze kahle amasende kanye ne-prostate. Ezinye iziguli zelulekwa ngodokotela bomchamo ukuthi bashaye indlwabu kanye ngosuku. Kuyinqubo yezokwelapha! Kwabesifazane, izindlela ezibangela isifiso zihlobene kakhulu nezinto ezifana nesimo sezulu, isimo, amaphupho akhe.
Isifiso sowesifazane sinqunywa kancane nge-anatomy futhi ngaphezulu ngesizathu. Izidingo zakhe zocansi ziyingxenye yokukhula kwakhe; ngalo mqondo, owesifazane cishe uhlelwe ngokuvumelana nesimiso "sokuba". Owesilisa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ulungele ukuncintisana, ukuncintisana, isifiso "sokuba" sinqoba kuye.
“Endodeni, ucansi luyindlela yokuthi “ngiyakuthanda”
U-Mireille Bonierbal, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, udokotela wezocansi
Lesi sitatimende siyiqiniso, kodwa okuningi lapha kuncike eminyakeni yobudala. Kuze kube yiminyaka engu-35, amadoda angaphansi kwethonya lamahomoni ocansi awahlulayo. Benza njengabazingeli. Khona-ke izinga le-testosterone liyehla.
Abesifazane abasebasha abakho ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kwebhayoloji; lapho kuqala ukuvuthwa, lapho ukuvinjelwa kwangaphakathi kanye ne-taboos kunyamalala, bazimisele kakhulu ukuya ocansini.
Noma kunjalo, uma owesifazane ethole uthando lwakhe, khona-ke kunoma yisiphi isikhathi sokuphila kwakhe kulula ukwenza ngaphandle kocansi kunomuntu. Endodeni evame ukuncisha amagama, ucansi luba yindlela yokuthi "ngiyakuthanda."