Izindlela Eziyisi-6 Zokusinda Ngamaholide Uma Ungekho Enkingeni Abazali Bomlingani Wakho

Ingabe ucabanga ngokuvakashela kwabazali bomlingani wakho ngokwesaba? Ingabe amaholide azophinde wonakale? Ngokwezinga elikhulu kuxhomeke kuwe. Nawa amanye amathiphu avela kubalaphi bomndeni.

1. Zithembise ukuthi uzozama ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano.

Akudingekile ukuba uzithembise okuthile ngobusuku bangaphambi koNyaka Omusha. Kanye nomlingani wakho wokuphila, ukhethe abazali bakhe, futhi ngeke ubalahle, ngaphandle kokuthi mhlawumbe ngemva kwesehlukaniso. Zama ukuthi ungakhonondi njalo uma uvakashela umamezala noma umamezala, kodwa uzwane nabo kulo nyaka. Uneminyaka eminingi ngaphambi kwakho, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi iphelele okokuqala. Qala ngesinyathelo esincane, njengokuthi «Ngeke ngikhulume ngokuphuza kukaMalume Umyeni kulo nyaka. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uyothola ukuthi ukukhuluma nabazali bomngane womshado akusewona umthwalo osindayo kuwe. - U-Aaron Anderson, umelaphi womndeni.

2. Khuluma ngokungagwegwesi nomlingani wakho kusengaphambili

Ungakugcini kuyimfihlo ukwesaba kwakho nokukhathazeka kwakho! Khuluma nomngane wakho womshado ngokuthi ucabanga ukuthi umhlangano nabazali uzohamba kanjani. Kodwa ungakhulumi ngesimo sakho sengqondo esingesihle ngabo. Tshela okukuhluphayo ucele usizo. Chaza kahle ukuthi yini oyidingayo. Ngokwesibonelo, mcele ukuba asekele kakhudlwana noma ahlanganyele ngokugcwele ekulungiseleleni umkhosi womkhaya. Cabanga ngale ngxoxo futhi uhlaziye okukukhathazayo. ― UMarnie Fuerman, umelaphi womndeni.

I-3. Zinakekele

Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko esenza siphelelwe isineke ngezivakashi isidingo sokuzigcina zijabulile. Phakathi nemihlangano nabangane noma, ikakhulukazi, izihlobo, ngokuvamile umuntu kufanele angazinaki izifiso zakhe ukuze athole induduzo yomunye. Ngenxa yalokho, simane sikhohlwe ngathi. Futhi nakuba kungase kubonakale sengathi asikho isikhathi sokuzinakekela, lena indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nokucindezeleka nokuhlasela kwendawo yomuntu siqu.

Nakekela impilo yakho, geza ngamanzi aphumule, usheshe ulale, funda endaweni ethule. Lalela umzimba wakho bese uzama ukunaka kakhulu izidingo zakho. ― Alisha Clark, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

4. Hlanganyela nozakwethu

Emshadweni kuvame ukungezwani kubazali bomuntu oshade naye, kwesinye isikhathi uqala ukungabaza ukuthi usohlangothini lukabani. Nobabili senibe amalungu omunye umndeni isikhathi eside, enamasiko enu namasiko eholideyi. Umzabalazo wethonya phakathi kwabazali bomlingani kanye nengxenye yakhe ingagqama ngobuqotho, ngoba womabili «amaphathi» afuna ukumdonsela kubo ngesikhathi samaholide. Ukubambisana nozakwenu kungenye yezindlela zokuqeda le mpi. Khona-ke niyosekelana, hhayi abazali benu.

Kodwa kufanele ume uqine futhi umele umlingani wakho. Le ndlela ingase ibonakale inonya, kodwa kancane kancane abazali bazozivumelanisa nesimo futhi baqonde ukuthi isinqumo esihlangene sabashadile sihlala sihamba phambili. Khumbula ukuthi ukuluphi uhlangothi. Okokuqala ungumyeni, futhi ngemva kwalokho - indodana noma indodakazi. - UDanielle Kepler, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

5. Thola isibindi ngaphambi komhlangano

Ngaphambi kokuhlangana nabazali bomlingani wakho, vivinya ingqondo eyodwa. Ake sithi ugqoke izembatho zempi ezikhethekile ezivikela amandla angalungile. Zitshele ukuthi: "Ngiphephile futhi ngivikelekile, ngiphephile." Ngaleso sikhathi, yiba nesizotha futhi uthandeke ngangokunokwenzeka. Gcina isimo sengqondo esihle futhi wenze ngokukhululeka. Asikho isidingo sokuchitha isikhathi esiyigugu ngokuzisola ngezinto ongeke ukwazi ukuzilawula. ― U-Becky Whetstone, umelaphi womndeni.

6. Khumbula: Kungokwesikhashana

Ngamaholide, ukugeleza kwemibuthano yomndeni nokuvakasha akuwomi. Amaholide azophela, uzobuyela ekhaya futhi ukwazi ukukhohlwa ngakho konke ukuphazamiseka. Asikho isidingo sokugxila kokubi: lokhu kuzongeza kuphela ezinkingeni futhi kungase kube isizathu sokuxabana nomlingani. Ungavumeli abazali bomlingani wakho bachithe impilo yakho futhi babe nomthelela ebuhlotsheni bakho. - U-Aaron Anderson, umelaphi womndeni.