Okuqukethwe
“Yeka indlela abacasula ngayo!”, “Ngimane nje ngididekile”, “Anginasineke esanele” — abaningi bethu bacabanga into efanayo phakathi nosuku lokusebenza. Kodwa ukuqhuma kokucasuka akuyona into ezosiza umsebenzi. Indlela yokubhekana nentukuthelo futhi uzuze ngayo, kusho umqeqeshi uMelody Wilding.
Ngamunye wethu emsebenzini ngokushesha noma kamuva unesizathu sokucasuka.
Sichitha ubusuku emsebenzini othile, obese uthunyelwa kudoti;
iklayenti liqala ukuthethisa wonke umuntu ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo;
ozakwethu, njengenjwayelo, sekwephuzile emhlanganweni, futhi kufanele uthathe wonke umsebenzi wokulungiselela.
Kusukela kulokhu ungabilisa. Futhi awusakwazi ukugxila emsebenzini ophuthumayo nobalulekile.
Umqondo wakho ungena kumodi yokulwa noma yokundiza, bese "usabela," okusho ukuthi ulahlekelwa ukucaca komcabango wakho, usole abanye noma wena ngokwakho, futhi ukhungatheke. Kulesi simo, usengozini yokusho okuthile ozozisola ngakho kamuva.
Kodwa intukuthelo nentukuthelo akukona nje ukonakalisa umsebenzi, kodwa futhi kuwusize, kusho umqeqeshi nodokotela wengqondo uMelody Wilding. Uthi: “Kuvamile ukuba nemizwa ehlukahlukene, kuhlanganise nentukuthelo. - Imizwa engemihle iphakama ngesikhathi somsebenzi ngendlela efanayo nasempilweni yomuntu - futhi lokhu akuyona neze into embi. Ukusebenza ngemizwa yakho (futhi kufanelekile ukufunda!) kuyisihluthulelo sobuhlakani bemizwa, okuzokusiza ube umholi futhi uzuze impumelelo enkulu. Ukufutheka kungashukumisa futhi kunikeze amandla okuxazulula izinkinga zomsebenzi.”
Zitshele: “Engikuzwayo kungokwemvelo, kodwa akungilungele njengamanje.”
Ngokufunda ukulawula intukuthelo yakho, ungenza ukunganeliseki kwakho kwakhe futhi uthole okudingayo ngaphandle kokuzuza idumela lokuba onolaka. UMelody Wilding unikeza izindlela ezinhlanu zokwenza uma okuthile emsebenzini kukucasula.
1. Ungalwi nemizwa yakho
Lapho intukuthelo iqala ukuvela, ngokuvamile siqala ukusola abanye noma sizame ukwehlisa umoya. Kunalokho, vuma ukuthi intukuthelo inelungelo lokuba khona. Kuyindlela yokuziphendukela kwemvelo egxile ngokujulile kithi. Lena indlela yethu yokulwa nezingozi nezinsongo enhlalakahleni.
Ngokuzayo lapho uzwa intukuthelo iza, khumbula ukuthi awukwazi ukuvele uyigweme. Kunalokho, thola indlela yokukhulula intukuthelo yakho kuyilapho ulondoloza ukuzihlonipha futhi ungazilimazi. Zitshele ukuthi, "Engikuzwayo kungokwemvelo, kodwa akungilungele njengamanje." Ukwamukela ukusabela kwakho kungcono kunokulwa nakho ngoba kuyakuthulisa futhi kushintshe ukunaka kwakho ekuxazululeni inkinga.
2. Phakamisa Imicabango Ezenzakalelayo
Uma ubhodla, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuthola indlela yokuphazamisa imicabango ezenzakalelayo ebangelwa intukuthelo. Indlela engokwenyama yokuphuma esimweni izosiza ngalokhu: thatha uhambo, suka kude nedeski lakho bese ubiza umngane wakho, noma uphefumule kancane.
Ukubona ngeso lengqondo kungenye indlela yokubhekana nentukuthelo. Zibone ngeso lengqondo ngesikhathi uthukuthele. Ubukeka kanjani, uzizwa unjani, uthini? Uyasithanda lesi sithombe? Khona-ke cabanga ukuthi ulawula kanjani intukuthelo yakho ngobuhlakani, uxazulula isimo ngomoya ophansi futhi ngendlela eyakhayo.
Ngokucabanga ngengqondo izindlela ezahlukene zokubhekana nentukuthelo, uzoyinqanda futhi ungavumeli ukulawulwa.
3. Funda izinto ezibangela intukuthelo
Yini noma ubani okucasulayo? Naka izimo kanye nabantu abaseduze kwakho ngesikhathi uqala ukuthukuthela ukuze ulindele ukusabela okungenzeka esikhathini esizayo futhi uqale ukukuphatha.
Isibonelo, uma uzakwenu ekucasula, ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho kufanele usebenze naye, zama ukuthatha ikhefu emsebenzini. Bazokwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuphazamisa ukukhula kwezinga lomzwelo uma (noma) ecasula, futhi uzosusa ukusabela okuzenzakalelayo. Akekho othanda ukuthukuthela, futhi ukulindela nokubala izimo eziyingozi kusengaphambili, ungahlala uqoqwe futhi uzolile.
Khuluma nomuntu ophatheke kabi ngendlela (noma) angase ayithanda
4. Khetha Amazwi Akho Ngokucophelela
Uma unquma ukubhekana nomuntu obangela intukuthelo, qaphela futhi uveze imizwa yakho. Kubalulekile ukuwaveza njengoba kunciphisa ukungezwani futhi kusiza ukuqoqa imicabango, imibono kanye nezifiso. Khuluma nomuntu ophatheke kabi ngendlela (noma) angase ayithanda. Isibonelo, uma ekwazisa ukuqondisa nemigomo ecacile, gcina lokho engqondweni lapho uchaza inkinga. Mcele ukuthi achaze isimo ngokombono wakhe. Gcina ingxoxo ivulekile futhi iqondile.
5. Gxila esixazululweni, hhayi inkinga
Ukugxila kulokho okucasulayo kulula futhi kuyajabulisa. Kodwa lokhu kusesekuqaleni kuphela. Ukuhlafuna amagqubu kuyingozi ngoba kuthatha isikhathi namandla ukuxazulula izinkinga, okukubangela ukuba ubambeke ezintweni ezingezinhle. Kunalokho, gxila ezifundweni ongazifunda esimweni ukuze usithuthukise ngokunenzuzo.
Gwema amazwibela njengokuthi «Uhlala efuna ukuthi ngibike ngaphandle kokunginika isikhathi sokuzilungiselela.»
Kunalokho, zama ukuthi, “Ngifike sekwephuzile ngombiko ngoba ngiwucelwe ngomzuzu wokugcina. Lokhu kwenzekile ngaphambili. Singaluthuthukisa kanjani uhlelo ukuze sigweme lokhu esikhathini esizayo?”
Kuwo wonke umsebenzi wakho, uzobhekana nentukuthelo izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa. Ukuze ube umholi, kumele ulawulwe. Qiniseka ukuthi unamakhono adingekayo futhi ubambe intukuthelo ngempumelelo nangobungcweti ngendlela ezoletha izinzuzo zomsebenzi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.