Okuqukethwe
Lapho ubuhlobo buqala nje, wawuphupha ngokukhiya umnyango okungenani isikhashana futhi ekugcineni ube wedwa. Ungagijimi noma kuphi, ungavumeli muntu ukuthi angene - zihlukanise nezwe. Futhi manje inganekwane yothando isifezekile, kodwa awusenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ujabulile ngakho.
Wena nothandiweyo wakho nichitha sonke isikhathi ndawonye, nivalelwe endlini eyodwa. Akumangalisi yini? Kungani iphupho labo bonke abathandi laphenduka isihogo kwabaningi?
Ungasheshi ukusola omunye uhhafu wakho, izingane zakho ezifunda ekhaya, noma wena ngokwakho ngokulwa, ukucasuka, nokuhlukana. Isizathu salokhu yisimo esingajwayelekile ebesingasilungiselelanga. Eminyakeni yezimpi nezinhlekelele, siye salalela iqiniso lokuthi esimweni esiyingozi kufanele senze: sigijime, sicashe, silwe.
Ukulinda kancane, ukungakwazi ukuthonya isimo, isimo sokungaqiniseki - asizange sicabange ukuthi ingqondo yethu kufanele idlule kukho konke lokhu.
Kulabo abavalelwe yedwa nomlingani wabo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi endaweni evalekile hhayi kuphela izinkinga zobudlelwane ezikhulayo, kodwa futhi nokukhathazeka komuntu siqu kanye nokuhlukunyezwa kwawo wonke umuntu. Nokho, kusemandleni ethu ukunciphisa ukushuba kwesimo futhi sithole izindlela zokuba lapho. Ngempela, ezikhathini ezinzima, umndeni ungaba umthombo wokusekela kanye nensiza engapheli, uma ugcina isineke, uthando futhi uvule umcabango wakho.
1. Yibani nesikhathi sangempela ndawonye
Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi sichitha isikhathi esiningi nabantu esibathandayo. Eqinisweni, ngokomzimba sisondelene kakhulu kunokujwayelekile, kodwa ngokomzwelo sikude kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, zama okungenani kanye ngosuku ukuchitha isikhathi ukhuluma, ngaphandle kwamagajethi kanye ne-TV. Lalelani omunye nomunye, qiniseka ukuthi ubuza imibuzo, ube nesithakazelo esiqotho ezinkathazweni nasezizweni zomlingani wakho. Msize abhekane nokwesaba, aziqonde, athole indlela yokuphuma esimweni esinzima. Izingxoxo ezinjalo zinikeza umuzwa wokwamukeleka, ukusekela.
Ukubaluleka kobudlelwane bobulili akunakulinganiswa ngokweqile. Zikuvumela ukuthi usondelane ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Kodwa kanjani ukugcina ukukhanga uma nindawonye imini nobusuku?
Yebo, sihlukanisiwe nezwe langaphandle, kodwa sinezwe lamaphupho. Zihlukene ngokungenamkhawulo, ngayinye inezithombe zayo, imibono, amaphupho. Khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nemicabango yakho yocansi. Chaza izithombe ezikujabulisayo, unikele ngokuzenza ziphile, futhi nizosondelana.
Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi fantasy kuyinto «movie» ebonisa equlekile yethu. Asinamandla phezu kwabo. Ngakho-ke, zilungiselele ukubekezelela ngisho nezindaba ezingavamile nezingagwegwesi nezithombe.
I-3. Zinakekele
Ukubukeka kubalulekile. Futhi okokuqala kithi, hhayi umlingani. Ngezingubo ezinhle nezicocekile, sizizwa sikhanga futhi sizethemba. Kunalokho ilungele ukuthintwa nokusondelana. Futhi uma sizithanda thina, sithanda kanye nomlingani.
4. Ngena kwezemidlalo
Ukuntuleka kokusebenza ngokomzimba kuhlobene ngokuqondile nokucindezeleka kwengqondo. Sazithola sisesimweni lapho, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ikhono lokunyakaza lilinganiselwe kunanini ngaphambili, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, isidingo semidlalo siye sakhula.
Kodwa ngisho nemingcele enzima, ungathola ukuthi ungayidlala kanjani imidlalo nomndeni wonke futhi uyijabulele. Ukuzivocavoca okujabulisayo kuzobeka izinzwa zakho ngokuhlelekile, kukujabulise futhi kukuvumele ukuthi uzwe kangcono umzimba wakho.
Khetha izivivinyo zomndeni wonke, yabelana ngokujima ezinkundleni zokuxhumana - shaja ngokuhle futhi ukhuthaze wonke umuntu oseduze.
I-5. Dala
Ukudala kunamandla okuphulukisa amangalisayo. Kusisiza ukuba siphakamele ngaphezu kweqiniso futhi sithintane nokuthile okukhulu kunathi. Ngakho-ke, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuqhamuka nokusebenzisa iphrojekthi yokudala.
Ungapenda isithombe, uhlanganise iphazili enkulu, ulungise ingobo yomlando yezithombe futhi uhlele ngobuciko i-albhamu yezithombe, ungenza ividiyo ngemizwa yakho, ukhulume ngothando ngomunye nomunye.
Vele, kudinga umzamo ukwenza ukuhlala kwakho wedwa kujabulise futhi uqinise ubudlelwano bakho. Hlela indawo, xhumanisa amashejuli. Kwabanye kungase kubonakale sengathi ukuhlela kuphambene nemvelo yemizwa yangempela - ukuzenzela.
Yebo, umfutho, umfutho empeleni kusho lukhulu othandweni. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi asikho isidingo sokulinda ugqozi, ngoba kusemandleni ethu ukwenza ubudlelwano ngendlela esifuna bube ngayo.