Okuqukethwe
Namuhla, abantu abaningi bakhuluma ngokulinganisela kokuphila komsebenzi, kodwa ingabe kuyadingeka ngempela? Yebo, abanye abantu bangena ngamawala emsebenzini noma, ngokuphambene, bamatasatasa nemindeni yabo kuphela, kodwa ingabe kubi kangako ngempela? Nakhu u-Irina Pracheva, umqeqeshi nombhali wohlelo lokuguqula abesifazane, akucabangayo ngakho.
1. Qonda imbangela yokungalingani
Noma yikuphi ukungalingani kunembangela, futhi ukuze kuqedwe, kuyadingeka kuqala kukho konke ukukukhomba. Ngokuvamile abantu bangena emsebenzini ngenxa yokuntuleka kothando, ukuqonda nenhlonipho ekhaya, izinkinga nabathandekayo - okungukuthi, bazama ukukhokhela lokho abangakutholi emndenini ngokulahlekelwa impumelelo yomsebenzi.
Iklayenti lami u-Elena, umphathi ophezulu ophumelelayo nomama wezingane ezintathu, njalo ekuseni akagcini nje ngokuhamba, kodwa undizela ngokoqobo emsebenzini. Lapho, abangaphansi kwakhe bayamkhulekela futhi umholi uyamazisa, umbono wakhe uyalalelwa, futhi izwi lakhe livame ukunquma. Ngemva kokuwela umngcele wehhovisi, u-Elena uzizwa eqiniseka, edingekayo, engenamsebenzi. Uchitha isikhathi esiningi emsebenzini, umnika okungcono kakhulu futhi ukhuphuka ngokushesha isitebhisi somsebenzi.
Futhi umyeni wakhe u-Oleg umlindile ekhaya. Cishe akasebenzi, isikhathi esiningi uchitha ekhompyutheni futhi usola abanye ngokwehluleka kwakhe. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi yena akazange azuze lutho, uqinisekile ukuthi umndeni kufanele umlalele. U-Oleg uhlale edelela u-Elena, uthola amaphutha ekubukekeni nasekuziphatheni kwakhe. Sekuyisikhathi eside kungekho uthando emndenini, u-Elena akahlukanisi nomyeni wakhe ngenxa yezingane. Futhi futhi ngenxa yokuthi akanaso isikhathi sokucabanga ngalokho akufunayo ngempela. U-Elena umane abaleke ekhaya, lapho engajabule kakhulu, ukuze asebenze, lapho ezizwa ejabule khona.
Amaqhawe abalekela izinkinga zomndeni aya ehhovisi. Ngenxa yokunganeliseki ebudlelwaneni kube nokuhlanekezela
Elinye ikhasimende lami, u-Alexander, wakha umsebenzi enkampanini waze waba neminyaka engu-35 ubudala futhi ngasikhathi sinye waqhuba amabhizinisi amaningana, wachitha amahora angu-16-18 emsebenzini, ngisho nezimpelasonto zakhe wayematasa nemihlangano yebhizinisi. Ekugcineni, esezuze konke ayekufisa, u-Alexander waqaphela ukuthi umshado wakhe uneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-13, yena nomkakhe base besukile komunye nomunye futhi babengenalutho lokukhuluma, ngaphandle kwezingane. Ikhasimende lami like lagcizelela ukuthi umkakhe akasebenzi futhi anakekele izingane, kodwa labona ukuthi sekuyisicefe ngalo. Waqala ukubalekela isithukuthezi nezindaba eziphathelene nemisebenzi yasekhaya futhi wachitha isikhathi esiningi nabalingani bebhizinisi.
Ngenhlanhla wabona ukuthi kukhona ubuze ngaphakathi, okusho ukuthi kwase kuyisikhathi sokuthi ayeke, athathe ikhefu emsebenzini wakhe. Wathi eqalaza wabona ukuthi ontanga yakhe abaningi babebhekene nenkinga yempilo ephakathi, behlukanisa namakhosikazi abo. Kodwa wayengafuni ukuphinda lesi simo, kwakubalulekile ukuba abuyisele ubuhlobo nomkakhe. Kungalesi sicelo ukuthi eze kimina ukuze kuboniswane.
Okujwayelekile kulezi zindaba wukuthi abalingisi babaleke ezinkingeni zomndeni baya emahhovisi. Ngenxa yokunganeliseki ebudlelwaneni, kwaba nokuchema emsebenzini kanye nebhizinisi.
2. Ufuna ukushintsha
Ukuze uqede "ukuhlanekezela", udinga ngobuqotho ukufuna ibhalansi. Kuzwakala ku-trite, kodwa ekusebenzeni, ngivame ukuhlangana neqiniso lokuthi amaklayenti akhononda ngokuntuleka kokuzwana phakathi komsebenzi nomndeni, kodwa angazami nje ukukuthola, kodwa, empeleni, awafuni. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, bazizwa bezisola ngoba banikela isikhathi esincane emndenini, noma bacasulwe ukuthi abanazo ezinye izithakazelo ngaphandle komsebenzi. Kodwa uma umuntu esefuna ngempela ukushintsha, konke okunye kuyindaba yesu.
Ngokushesha nje lapho u-Elena no-Alexander beqaphela izimbangela zangempela zokungalingani, baqaphela ukuthi bafuna ukuthola ukuvumelana, bakwazi ukuvuselela ukuphila kwabo ngokushesha.
Ebhizinisini, konke kwakulula kuMaria: wayazi ukuthi yini ayeyifunayo, futhi waya kuyo, ethembele kuye kuphela
Elinye iklayenti, uMaria, lafika ekuxoxisaneni nesicelo esilandelayo: ufuna ukuba hhayi nje umnikazi we-cafe yemfashini kanye nenkanyezi ye-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia), ehlala ehlanganyela izimfihlo zokwakha ibhizinisi eliphumelelayo. izintatheli, kodwa futhi owesifazane othandekayo. Kodwa-ke, phakathi neseshini, kwavela ukuthi uMaria uthanda ukuba inkanyezi yomphakathi webhizinisi wesifazane, futhi uyesaba ukuqala ukwakha ubuhlobo obusha (ngaleso sikhathi iklayenti lami lihlukanisile, wakhulisa amadodana amabili eyedwa futhi akazange akhumbule okokugcina wayesothandweni).
Enhliziyweni, uMaria wayesaba kakhulu ubuhlobo, ekhumbula ubuhlungu ayebangelwa umyeni wakhe wangaphambili. Ukwesaba nezinkolelo ezilinganiselwe kwamvimbela ukuba aqhubekele phambili. Kodwa ebhizinisini, konke kwakulula kuye: uMaria wayazi ukuthi ufunani, futhi waya kukho, ethembele kuye kuphela. Into yokuqala eyayibalulekile kwakuwukuqeda ukwesaba nezinkolelo ezingamanga ngamadoda. Kuphela ngemva kwalokho wavuka isifiso ukuhlangabezana uthando.
3. Zibekele umgomo
Ngokushesha nje lapho u-Elena no-Alexander befuna ukuthola injabulo yomndeni, bazibekela umgomo wokufinyelela ukuzwana phakathi kwemisebenzi yabo nokuphila komuntu siqu. Kubantu abaphumelelayo, ukubeka imigomo kuyithuluzi elicacile nelisebenzayo. Bobabili babeqaphela ukuthi lapho okugxilwe khona ukunaka kwabo, kukhona amandla, ngakho-ke, uma nsuku zonke benaka ukufeza ibhalansi, ekugcineni bazoyifinyelela nakanjani.
Okulandelayo kungisizile ukugcina umgomo wami ugxile. "Iphupho lami elibi" kwakuyi-heroine yefilimu ethi "Office Romance" uLyudmila Prokopievna, futhi ngazama ukuziqhelelanisa nalesi sithombe ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngihlale ngizibekela umgomo wokuphumelela hhayi kuphela emsebenzini wami, kodwa nasemkhayeni wami, ngilwela ukulinganisela nokuzwana. Ngazibuza: “Yini engingayenza namuhla ukuze ngingabi njengoLyudmila Prokopyevna?” - futhi umbuzo usize ukugcina ukunaka kwami kobufazi nobuhle.
4. Yakha umbono ocacile
Ukusetha umgomo olungile, udinga ukwakha umbono ocacile webhalansi phakathi komsebenzi nomndeni. Kuyafaneleka ukwenza lokhu hhayi yedwa, kodwa nabathandekayo: ngale ndlela uzokwazi kangcono futhi uqonde ukuthi yini ebalulekile emndenini wakho. Le nqubo ihlanganisa, inikeza umuzwa womphakathi. Kweminye imindeni, kuthatha amasonto ambalwa ukwenza umbono wempilo yabo efanelekile: wonke amalungu omndeni afakiwe kunqubo futhi ayijabulele.
Akufanele weqe lesi sinyathelo, ngoba kungase kuvele ukuthi izingane zakho zinezifiso nemibono ehluke ngokuphelele mayelana nokuvumelana. Ukusebenza ngombono wokuphila okuhle, isibonelo, uMikhail wathola ukuthi ukuba khona kwakhe emincintiswaneni kubaluleke kakhulu endodaneni yakhe. Umfana wayefuna ubaba wakhe amgxilise, ameseke, futhi aziqhenye ngezimpumelelo zakhe. Kodwa asikho isidingo sokumyisa ekuqeqesheni ekuseni. Ukube akazange axoxe ngalokhu nendodana yakhe, ngokuqinisekile wayezozama ukuhlela kabusha isimiso sakhe sokuthatha umfana, kodwa wayezoqhubeka nokuphuthelwa umncintiswano.
5. Sebenzisa Indlela Ehlakaniphile
Umgomo wokuqala - ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi komsebenzi nomndeni - kufanele ubekwe ngokuvumelana nobuchwepheshe be-SMART. Uhlamvu ngalunye egameni lufihla umbandela wokusebenza: S (Okucacisiwe) — ngokukhethekile, M (Okulinganisekayo) — kuyalinganiseka, A (Kuyafezeka) — kuyafezeka, R (Kuyafaneleka) — okubalulekile, T (Isikhathi Esinqunyelwe) — silinganiselwe ngesikhathi.
Iphutha elivame kakhulu ukweqisa ibha. Isibonelo, uVladimir uyi-maximalist futhi ujwayele ukuba ngowokuqala kukho konke. Enquma ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nomkakhe, wakwenza umgomo wakhe ukubuyela ekhaya nsuku zonke ngehora lesikhombisa kusihlwa. Lo mgomo wabonakala ungafinyeleleki futhi ungenakwenzeka: iminyaka eminingi wasebenza kuze kube yihora leshumi kusihlwa, ngakho ukushintsha isimiso kungazelelwe kwakusho ukubeka ibhizinisi engozini. Sawulungisa umgomo wakhe: UVladimir wanquma ukuthi kabili ngesonto wayefika ekhaya ngaphambi kwehora lesishiyagalombili ebusuku futhi akhulume nomkakhe. Kubabhangqwana babo, lokhu kwaba intuthuko enkulu, futhi ukwazile ukwenza ngaphandle kokucindezeleka okwengeziwe kanye nemiphumela engemihle emsebenzini.
Ngokubeka umgomo ngokwendlela ye-SMART, ekugcineni singakwazi ukuthatha isinyathelo futhi nsuku zonke sithathe izinyathelo ezincane eziseduze nokuphila okuvumelanayo nokujabulisayo.