Izimpawu eziyi-15 Umlingani Wakho Uyi-Psychopath

Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, ama-psychopaths abizwa ngokuthi abantu abanomoya oqhumayo noma bamane bangabonakali. Kodwa uma sikhuluma ngokuqinile, i-psychopathy iyisifo sobuntu. Futhi ngokwezibalo, iningi lama-psychopaths ngamadoda.

Zingathandeka kakhulu, zithandeke, futhi zibe nobudlelwano nabantu, kodwa ubudlelwano besikhathi eside nabo buyingozi kakhulu kubalingani babo.

Indlela yokuqonda ukuthi sibhekene ne-psychopath, hhayi nje umuntu onohlamvu oluyinkimbinkimbi? Yiqiniso, uchwepheshe kuphela ongakwazi ukuxilonga, kodwa nazi izimpawu ezishaqisayo okufanele uzinake.

1. Ukubukela phansi.

I-psychopath igcizelela ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile ukuphakama kwakhe kunozakwethu okusolwa ukuthi uyasilela ezingeni lakhe: “Uyisiphukuphuku futhi awufundile”, “Unemizwa kakhulu”, “Ukhuluphele futhi udume kabi.”

Eduze kobuntu be-psychopathic, umlingani uzizwa "njengomncane ngesikhundla", engenamsebenzi futhi engafaneleki, umsebenzi wakhe uwukujabulisa nokujabulisa isithixo sakhe.

2. Izimemezelo zakhe zothando zithathelwa indawo ngokushesha ukunganaki.

Angakwazi ukukunakekela kahle, futhi i-honeymoon yakho izoba nothando ... Kodwa ngokushesha uyaphola futhi aqale ukukuphatha ngokunganaki. Ubudlelwano ne-psychopath bufana ne-roller coaster: uthanda noma uzonda, izingxabano zishintshana nokubuyisana okuneziphepho. Ukungahloniphi kusheshe kuphenduke inhlamba.

Ngomuntu oyisisulu sakhe, lesi simo sibuhlungu ngempela futhi sigcwele ukucindezeleka, i-neurosis, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala. Futhi kunoma yikuphi - i-post-traumatic syndrome.

3.Akazi ukuvuma icala lakhe

Akalokothi aphendule ngokwenzekayo nangezenzo zakhe - abanye yibona abahlale benecala. Ngisho nalapho icala lakhe lisobala, uyahlanekezela ngobuqili futhi aveze okwenzekile njengephutha noma ihlaya elizenzakalelayo. Noma eqinisekisa ukuthi akaqondwanga. Noma ukuthi umlingani umane uzwela kakhulu. Ngamafuphi, wenza konke ukuze anciphise umthwalo wakhe wemfanelo.

4. Usebenzisa ukukhohlisa ukuze akunqobe.

Ku-psychopath, ukuqomisana kungumdlalo noma umdlalo kuphela: uyenga ngamaqhinga akhohlisayo angenabuthukuthezi noma aqotho. Umusa, ukunakwa, ukunakekelwa, izipho, ukuhamba kuyindlela nje yokuthi athole lokho akufunayo. Ulindele ukuthi kamuva, lapho isikhathi se-candy-bouquet sesiphelile, umlingani uzokhokha konke lokhu ngokulalela.

5. Umlingani oyedwa akanele kuye.

I-psychopath ayikwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze, obuqotho, isheshe ikhungatheke futhi ihambe iyofuna izinto ezintsha. Lokhu akusho ukuthi uzoshiya isisulu esicasulayo ngokushesha - abantu abanjalo bayazi ukuthi bangahlanganisa kanjani amanoveli amaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa.

6. Usabela ngobudlova kunoma yikuphi ukugxekwa.

Ngaphandle, unikeza umbono womuntu ongenangqondo, ongenangqondo futhi ongenandaba nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Kodwa yeka indlela abukhali ngayo nangaluphi ulaka asabela ngalo lapho egxekwa, ebuzwa noma enganakwa!

Isizathu akukona ukuthi akazithembi noma udinga ukuvunyelwa abanye. Cha, iphuzu eliphelele liwukuthi ukholelwa ekuphakameni kwakhe namandla ngaphezu kwabanye. Ngakho-ke, akakwazi ukukumela uma othile eveza ubuthakathaka bakhe noma “ngokungalungile” ekhuluma naye.

7. Kubalulekile ukuthi azizwe engumnqobi kukho konke.

Ngokubona kwakhe, umhlaba uhlukene waba abawinile nabahluliwe. Futhi kubaluleke kakhulu kuye ukuba abe ngowokuqala kukho konke, ngisho nasezintweni ezincane. Lesi simo sengqondo asihambisani nobudlelwano obunempilo obuhlanganisa ukubambisana, ukuyekethisa, kanye nekhono lokuphenduka.

8. Eduze kwakhe ulahlekelwa ikhono lokucabanga.

Ngobudlelwane obude ngokwanele, umlingani we-psychopath uqala ukuzwa ukukhubazeka kwengqondo: angase abe nezinkinga zenkumbulo, ukugxilisa ingqondo, ukunaka, ugqozi, nokuzihlela. Uyaphazamiseka, angasebenzi kahle, futhi ukukhathazeka kumgaqele.

9. Ufuna ukubusa

I-psychopath ithanda ukululaza, ukulawula kanye nokululaza abanye - yile ndlela iqinisekisa ngayo amandla akhe phezu kwakho. Kodwa akakwazi ukubekezelela uma bezama ukukhomba ukuziphatha kwakhe kuye, futhi uwela ngolaka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzama ukuziphindiselela «umenzi».

10. Uvame ukufihla iqiniso

Lokhu ngokunye ukubonakaliswa kokuthambekela kwakhe kobuqili. Angathula nje ngento ethile noma aqambe amanga ebusweni bakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amanga angathinta kokubili izinto ezincane nezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu - ingane eceleni, umlingani ohlala njalo noma isimo somshado.

11. Akanasimilo

I-psychopath iyazilahla izinkambiso zomphakathi nemithetho yokuziphatha futhi iyazinyathela kalula. Ukukhohlisa kwazo zonke izinhlobo, ukweba, ukuhlukumeza, ukwesabisa, ukuziphindiselela kulabo abame endleleni yakhe - zonke izindlela zilungile kuye.

12. Akakwazi ukuba nemizwa ejulile.

Ngokujwayelana okukha phezulu, angakhanga futhi abonise uzwela, angakwazi ngempela ukukwenza. Ekusebenzelaneni nomuntu ongamazi, i-psychopath ingaba ngcono kakhulu kunalokho esetshenziselwa ukuziphatha nomlingani - ikakhulukazi uma idinga ukujabulisa umuntu onamandla noma ukubangela umona.

13. Uzitshela ukuthi uyisisulu

Lolu uhlobo olujwayelekile lokukhohlisa lapho ama-psychopaths exhumana nomuntu ojwayelekile onozwela. Basebenzisa amandla ethu okuzwela nobubele, beziveza njengezisulu ezineshwa - futhi bathole intethelelo kunoma yiziphi iziphambeko. Lokhu kubavumela ukuthi bagweme ukusola nomthwalo wemfanelo futhi bafeze izinhloso zabo.

14. Umusa nenhlonipho kuyinto engajwayelekile kuye

Abanawo umuzwa othuthukisiwe wozwela, ngakho umlingani uyaphoqeleka isikhathi ngasinye ukuba amchazele kabusha indlela yokuphatha abanye abantu kanye nalokho akulindele kuye ngokwakhe: “Ungangikhulumisi kanjalo! Ngicela uyeke ukuqamba amanga! Kungani unesihluku futhi ungidelele kangaka?"

15. Uzizwa sengathi awusoze walungela.

I-psychopath ivame ukusola, ukugxeka, futhi ngaleyo ndlela ilulaze umlingani wakhe: "Ugqoke njengomuntu ohambahambayo! Awuhlanzanga kahle indlu! Uyisimungulu! Ungasho lutho kuwe! Cabanga ukuthi usengozini kangakanani! Yeka ukuthi kucasula kanjani!” Uhumusha noma yiziphi izicelo noma izimfuno zozakwethu njengemizamo yokumlawula futhi abone ngobutha.

Mayelana nombhali: U-Rhonda Freeman uyi-clinical neuropsychologist.