Okuthunyelwe Okungu-10 Ngobudlelwano Akufanele Ukufake Ezinkundleni Zokuxhumana

Lapho abanye bekubuka, ukuphila kuthatha ukuphuthuma nokubaluleka okwengeziwe. Ngingathanda ukwengeza imininingwane eyengeziwe futhi ngihlanganyele nesibukeli esibongayo. Kuphela manje umbukeli, ohlezi ebumnyameni behholo, akabonakali kithi futhi ngezinye izikhathi siyakhohlwa ngaye. Njengoba sikhohlwa mayelana nokuthi imingcele ilele kuphi phakathi kokusondelana, injabulo yethu yomuntu siqu kanye nalokho noma yimuphi umfokazi walabo abanekhompyutha ephathekayo noma i-smartphone ayifundayo ngathi kanye nozakwethu.

1. Okuthunyelwe okuthinta inhliziyo ngozakwethu

Sonke siyawazi umbhangqwana onjalo: njengezinyoni ezimbili ezazakhele isidleke futhi zidonsela kuso noma i-blade yotshani noma intambo, ngakho-ke zihlobisa ngothando amakhasi azo ngezinhliziyo nezinkondlo. Laba yilabo okumele bafake isithombe kuFacebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) ekuqaleni kosuku namagama-ncazo athi “Ngiyakuthanda. Ngilindile". Bonke abangani ngokushisa kwezindaba zasekuseni bazozithola izindaba zakho, ngena ekhasini lakho uthinteke. Mhlawumbe abanye basazophakamisela amehlo abo esibhakabhakeni.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMarcia Berger sithi imibhangqwana ebika njalo ngezimpilo zayo, ihlulela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kokwelulekwa, ayinabo ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu, kodwa ngokuvamile iyaqhubeka nokukholisa yona nabanye ngokuphambene.

2. Izithombe ezishicilelwe ngaphandle kwemvume

Isibonelo, isithombe esivela ephathini yayizolo lapho intombi yakho yenza amehlo "ahlanya". Lalela iseluleko sesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSeth Meyers, owabhala incwadi ethi How to Overcome Relationship Rehearsal Syndrome and Find Love. Ngokushesha buza umlingani wakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuthumela izithombe zakhe ekhasini lakho.

Mhlawumbe le ndoda isivele ikwazile ukwenza isithombe esibi ekhasini layo - ukugijima, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, akukho okunye. Bese umthumela ephethe ikati ezingalweni zakho ... Noma isithombe sakhe "senkosi yewayini nombuso we-vodka" sivela ngokungafanele lapho efaka isicelo somsebenzi.

3. Amahlaya mayelana nokuphumelela kwakhe kwezomnotho kanye nokwehluleka kwakhe

Isobho lakhe lokuqala lemifino noma amehlo ethukile lapho ebona isidumbu senkukhu. Kubangani kanye nakuwe, lezi izinkumbulo ezingenakulibaleka. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi akubona abangani bakho kuphela abathanda amanethiwekhi omphakathi.

Uma ungabeki umkhawulo wokubuka, ngeke wazi ukuthi bangaki abasebenzisi abazofunda okuthunyelwe, kusho u-Aaron Anderson, umelaphi womndeni emtholampilo e-Denver. Izithombe eziphethe isanqante esandleni sakhe namagama-ncazo athi "Iphrojekthi ithunyelwe ukuthi ibuyekezwe" noma ngokuziqhenya kwakho "Endlini yethu, abesifazane abazigezi izitsha" kuyatholakala kozakwabo kanye nabalingani bebhizinisi, futhi ukuqedela abantu angabazi.

4. Ukubika bukhoma endaweni yesigameko

Wenze iphutha izolo. Ekuseni ushiye umyalezo odongeni lwakhe utshela wonke umuntu ukuthi ulale kuphi. Unengqondo, amakhono okunciphisa, futhi ufinyelele iziphetho ezinengqondo ezicacile.

UBrenda Della Casa, uchwepheshe wobudlelwane, ukukhumbuza izinto ezimbili: okokuqala, imizwelo yakho iphakama manje, futhi kulesi simo kungcono ukungashiyi imilayezo ebhaliwe esheshayo. Okwesibili, ungakhohlwa ukuthi empeleni wenza isitatimende somphakathi njengamanje. Kusathuthuka, vele ulinde.

5. Okuthunyelwe ngezimfanelo zomuntu siqu zozakwethu

Kanye nama-eseyi ezithombe esitolo lapho umthengele khona amaphijama amasha kanye nezingubo zangaphansi zikasilika zekamelo lokulala.

6. Uphawula ngokubhalelana kwakhe nalowo wokuqala

Yebo, lokhu kuyiqiniso - abantu abaningi bayaqhubeka nokuxhumana ezinkundleni zokuxhumana nabangaphambili, ngoba bahlala bengabangane nabo. Nsuku zonke bafunda izindaba ezimpilweni zabo futhi ngezinye izikhathi bangena ezingxoxweni. Akumele ukuthande. Kodwa kungcono ukuxoxa ngezindaba ezinjalo mathupha, kusho uchwepheshe kwezobudlelwane uNeely Steinberg. Uma uvela futhi ushiye ukuphawula kwakho okuhlasimulisayo, kubi kuwe, njenganoma iluphi uchuku olungenzi lutho olungakwazi ukuphumela ngaphandle.

7. Imininingwane yezingxabano nemiqhudelwano

I-Res imayelana nezingxabano, emva kwalokho ushintsha ngokushesha isimo sibe "ukungashadile ngokuzumayo" noma ngisho ukumsusa kubangani. Umelaphi womndeni uChristine Wilke weluleka ukugcina izinto ezinjalo ngemva kweminyango evaliwe yekamelo lokulala futhi ungajahi ukuzenza impahla evamile. "Uma usukhiphe ikati esikhwameni, awukwazi ukulibuyisela."

8. Ulwazi Oluningi Kakhulu

Amazwana ocansi alungele imilayezo yangasese. Umlingani wakho uzothotshwa ngokufunda odongeni lwakhe: "Ngivutha isifiso, woza maduze." Futhi abangaphansi kwakhe noma umqeqeshi wengane yakho uzoxakeka ...

9. Amacebo acashile wonke umuntu awaqondayo

Ufunde indatshana ethokozisayo ku-Intanethi - yithi, cishe izimfanelo eziyishumi zomamazala omubi - futhi ushicilele isixhumanisi kuso noma usithumele kubangani namazwana athi "Lokhu kungikhumbuza othile ..." Noma ngabe ngaphambi kwalokho ukhawule ngobuhlakani ukufinyelela ekhasini likamazala wakho, ulwazi luzogcina lutholile iziteshi zokusabalalisa ...

10. Isikhumbuzi sokuthenga ubisi

Inkundla yezokuxhumana iyithuluzi elihle lokuhlanganisa abantu abathanda izinto ezifanayo, ukwabelana ngokushesha ngezindaba ezibalulekile, noma ukuqoqa izimali zosizo. Futhi ukuze uthole isikhumbuzo sokuthengwa kobisi, kungcono ukubiza. Zishiyele isikhala sakho sokuxhumana.