Okuqukethwe
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, sifunda ukuzenza othile ukuze sijoyine iqembu, ukuze sithole imvume. Ngokwamukela amaphethini athile okuziphatha, ngokungazi noma ngokuqaphela silwela ukuphepha nokuzinza. Kodwa ukucasha emhlabeni ngaphansi kwesifihla-buso, sizincisha ubuhlobo bangempela nemizwa yangempela. Yiziphi izifihla-buso esizigqokayo ukuze sifihle imibala yethu yangempela?
Yiziphi lezi zimaski? Empeleni, lawa ngamasu okubhekana nesimo - amasu esiwasebenzisayo ukubhekana nezimo ezinzima ekuxhumaneni kwansuku zonke. Zisivikela njengezikhali, kodwa zingaphazamisa ubudlelwano nalabo abasondelene kakhulu nathi. Ngokuqaphela izivikelo esijwayele ukuzisebenzisa, singaqala ukuphola emanxebeni adlule futhi sijabulele ukusondelana kwangempela nabathandekayo.
Yize amasu okubhekana nawo ehlukene njengobuntu bethu, nazi izifihla-buso eziyishumi ezivame kakhulu.
1. Kupholile futhi akuphepheki
Ngokubukeka kwakhe konke, lo muntu ukwenza kucace ukuthi uzohlala ezolile kunoma yisiphi isimo. Egibele ngaphezu kwamagagasi phakathi nezingxabano noma phakathi kwezinxushunxushu, uyakugqolozela ngokuthula kwendela yaseTibet.
Nokho, enye yezinto ezimbili iyenzeka. Imizwa yakhe evalekile ngokushesha noma kamuva iholela ekuphazamisekeni kwemizwa. Noma ucindezela i-valve ngezikhathi ezithile futhi akhiphe isitimu lapho kungekho muntu obukayo. Umphathi ozolile futhi ongalawuleki angase aqhume futhi amemeze othatha imali esitolo esikhulu noma athumele incwadi ehlabayo kumuntu ongaphansi owenze iphutha elincane. Kodwa ungakhathazeki - usasilawula isimo kuleli cala futhi uyazi ukuthi ubani ongakhethwa esikhundleni sokushintshwa nokuthi ubani ongakhethwa.
2. Usomahlaya
Amahlaya ayindlela yokuzivikela ehlakaniphile. Uma uhleka, awusakhali. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi kusabukeka kufana kakhulu. Amahlaya angavimbela ukujwayelana, ngeke akuvumele usondele kakhulu futhi uthole ukuthi yini esemqondweni wakho.
Usomahlaya wenza amahlaya ukuze ingxoxo ingajuli kakhulu futhi ibe ngokoqobo, ukuze kugwenywe ukuxoxisana nokushintshana ngemibono. Akakwazi ukulalela umlingani wakhe kuze kube sekugcineni, ufaka isifihla-buso sikasomahlaya avale isihloko encokola. Ngakho uyayishiya ingxabano, kodwa akayixazululi inkinga. Njengoba ejwayele ukuhleka noma yisiphi isizathu, usomahlaya akavumeli muntu ukuthi asondele kakhulu futhi ngezinye izindlela uhlala yedwa.
3. Umfundi omuhle kakhulu waphakade
Abanye abantu baba ngabafundi be-honours hhayi ngenxa yothando lwama-fives nama-diploma. Kubo, kuyindlela yokuzivikela. Uma konke kwenziwa ngendlela efanele, umhlaba wabo ngeke uhlakazeke ube yizicucu. Kunjalo, zikhona izikhathi ezimnandi empilweni yomfundi omuhle kakhulu.
Uthola isikhathi sakhe senkazimulo nodumo, kodwa ukukhathazeka kuhlala kungumngane wakhe—uhlangothi olungemuva lwalesi sifihla-buso
Empilweni yakamuva kanye nobudlelwano, umfundi omuhle kakhulu waphakade uhlala esaba iphutha. Ngokubambisana, izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle nezingena emlonyeni - ukubekezela, ukukhathazeka ngombono - ngezinye izikhathi zingasebenza ngokumelene naye.
4. Umfelukholo-umsindisi
Abantu abaningi bajwayelene nabantu abashisayo emsebenzini, ngokuzinikela bodwa basindisa umhlaba futhi benza noma yikuphi ukuzidela ngenxa yabathandekayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bayakwazi ukuxhumanisa imindeni nozwelo lwabo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bangalahlekelwa yilabo ababathandayo ngenxa yezindaba ezihlala njalo mayelana nezisulu zabo. Benza okuhle - futhi ngokushesha benza idrama ngakho.
Umfel’ ukholo ufuna ukuthatha indawo yakhe emhlabeni futhi ukholelwa ukuthi lokhu angakwenza kuphela uma edlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu. Kodwa lokhu kwenza abantu bazizwe bengakhululekile uma benaye futhi kwenza ubudlelwano bungakhululeki.
5. Inkunzi
Noma yiliphi iqembu lapho bekufanele sisebenze khona, empeleni, liyibanga lesihlanu lesikole samabanga aphezulu ngesikhathi sekhefu. Igceke lesikole elinazo zonke izinhlobo zezinkunzi, zonke izinhlobo nemithunzi.
Izindlela zabo zokulawula zingaba ezicashile kakhulu. Basebenzisa ukukhohlisa okumnene ukuze bakwenze ucabange njengabo, noma ukuhlasela okunonya kuze kube sezingeni elinamandla anonya. UBuller ubonakala engenakungeneka, enikeza wonke umuntu iziyalezo futhi ezibekela eyakhe imithetho, kodwa ngemuva kwalesi sifihla-buso kulele ukungavikeleki nokomela okujulile kokuqashelwa.
U-Buller udinga inhlonipho nokuqashelwa kangangokuthi ukulungele ukukuthola nganoma iziphi izindleko, ephula noma yimiphi imingcele.
6. Umthandi wakho konke ukulawula
Kudingeka aqiniseke ukuthi yonke into isendaweni yayo, ukuthi wonke amabhukwana asongwe kahle ngamakhava namapensela alolwe. Njengesikhukhukazi, akavumeli muntu ukuba asuke emehlweni akhe futhi uzizwa enesibopho kuwo wonke umuntu oseduze kwakhe - ngisho noma engafuni.
Ngokulawula yonke into nawo wonke umuntu, umuntu onjalo ubhekana nokwesaba kwakhe okuyinhloko kokungaziwa, ukungaqiniseki.
Ufuna ukuthola ukuthi ubani endaweni okuyo ogqoke imaski yokulawula i-freak? Uzozibonakalisa ngokushesha uma kukhona okungahambi kahle njengoba ebehlelile.
7. "Samoyed"
Ehlushwa isimo esingelapheki nesithuthuke kakhulu sokungazethembi, engazi ugqugquzela isimo sengqondo esifanayo kwabanye. Lo muntu ujahe ukuzehlisa ngaphambi kokuba omunye enze lokho. Ukholelwa, mhlawumbe ngokungazi, ukuthi ngale ndlela uzozisindisa ezinkingeni nasekudumazekeni. Ugwema noma iyiphi ingozi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo - noma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
8. "Umuntu omuhle kakhulu"
Ukulungele ukwenza noma yini ukuze athole ukuvunyelwa yilabo abamzungezile. Uma kukhona osebenza naye endaweni yakho ohlale ecela iseluleko kubangani, ochwepheshe, abaqeqeshi, khona-ke "ungumuntu omuhle kakhulu".
Imibono yakhe kanye namagugu ngokuvamile alingisa ngosuku olufanayo, kuye ngesimo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi isithombe sakhe siqu sakhiwe ngokuphelele yimibono yabanye abantu, futhi ngaphandle kwayo uvele azilahlekele.
9. ukuthula
Umuntu ongemva kwale maski umane wesaba kakhulu amaphutha nokwaliwa. Uncamela ukubekezelela isizungu kunokuzifaka engozini futhi enze into umuntu angase angayithandi. Athule noma akhulume kancane ngoba esaba ukusho into engalungile.
Njengomuntu ofuna ukuphelela, indoda efaka isifihla-buso esithule ikholelwa ukuthi yonke into eshiwoyo neyenziwayo kulo mhlaba kufanele iphelele. Nakuba umhlaba wonke osizungezile nakho konke ukubukeka kwawo kufakazela okuphambene.
10. Umhambi waphakade
Unabantu abaningi abajwayele, ikhalenda ligcwele lichichima izimemo zemicimbi yokuzijabulisa. Mhlawumbe impilo yakhe ayinanjongo, mhlawumbe ugcwalisa izinsuku zakhe ephuphuma ngamaphathi nemicimbi ukuze kungabi nesikhathi sokucabanga ngakho. Noma ingabe konke kulula, futhi ithalenta lakhe kuphela inkulumo encane?
Umthombo: psychcentral.com