Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuze siqonde into eyinhloko, sidinga ukulahlekelwa yilokho esinakho. UDane Malin Rydal kwadingeka ashiye idolobha lakubo ukuze athole imfihlo yenjabulo. Le mithetho yokuphila izofanela noma ubani kithi.
AbakwaDanes bangabantu abajabule kakhulu emhlabeni, ngokwezilinganiso nezinhlolovo zemibono. Uchwepheshe we-PR uMalin Rydal wazalelwa eDenmark, kodwa kuphela kude, ehlala kwelinye izwe, wakwazi ukubheka ngokungakhethi imodeli ebenza bajabule. Wakuchaza encwadini ethi Happy Like Danes.
Phakathi kwezinto ezibalulekile azitholile ukwethembana kwezakhamizi komunye nomunye nasembusweni, ukutholakala kwemfundo, ukuntuleka kwesifiso sokuvelela kanye nezidingo ezinkulu zezinto ezibonakalayo, nokungabi nandaba nemali. Ukuzimela komuntu siqu kanye nekhono lokukhetha indlela yakho kusukela esemncane: cishe ama-70% abantu baseDenmark bashiya ikhaya labo labazali eneminyaka engu-18 ukuze baqale ukuzihlalela.
Umbhali uhlanganyela nezimiso zokuphila ezimsiza ukuba ajabule.
1. Umngane wami omkhulu yimina. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzamukela, ngaphandle kwalokho uhambo lwempilo lungaba lude kakhulu futhi lube buhlungu. Ukuzilalela, ukufunda ukuzazi, ukuzinakekela, sakha isisekelo esithembekile sokuphila okujabulisayo.
2. Angisazifanisi nabanye. Uma ungafuni ukuzizwa udabukile, ungaqhathanisi, yeka umjaho wesihogo «ngaphezulu, ngaphezulu, ungalokothi ngokwanele», ungazami ukuthola okungaphezu kwalokho abanye abanakho. Ukuqhathanisa okukodwa kuphela okukhiqizayo - nalabo abanokuncane kunawe. Ungaziboni njengomuntu osezingeni eliphezulu futhi khumbula njalo ukuthi unenhlanhla kangakanani!
Kubalulekile ukukwazi ukukhetha ukulwa ehlombe, ongafundisa okuthile
3. Ngiyakhohlwa yizinkambiso nezingcindezi zomphakathi. Lapho sinenkululeko eyengeziwe yokwenza lokho esicabanga ukuthi kulungile futhi sikwenze ngendlela esifuna ngayo, maningi amathuba okuthi “singene esigabeni” nathi futhi siphile “eyethu” impilo, hhayi le ebilindelwe kithi. .
4. Ngihlale nginepulani B. Lapho umuntu ecabanga ukuthi unendlela eyodwa kuphela yokuphila, uyesaba ukulahlekelwa yilokho anakho. Ukwesaba ngokuvamile kusenza senze izinqumo ezimbi. Njengoba sicabanga ezinye izindlela, sithola kalula isibindi sokuphendula izinselele zoHlelo A lwethu.
5. Ngizikhethela izimpi zami. Silwa nsuku zonke. Enkulu nencane. Kodwa ngeke samukele zonke izinselele. Kubalulekile ukukwazi ukukhetha ukulwa ehlombe, ongafundisa okuthile. Futhi kwezinye izimo, kufanele uthathe isibonelo se-goose, ususa amanzi amaningi emaphikweni awo.
6. Ngithembekile kimi futhi ngiyalamukela iqiniso. Ukuxilongwa okunembile kulandelwa ukwelashwa okufanele: asikho isinqumo esifanele esingasekelwe emangeni.
7. Ngihlakulela umbono omuhle… ongokoqobo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza izinhlelo ezinikeza incazelo yobukhona bethu… sibe silindele izinto ezingokoqobo. Okufanayo kuyasebenza nasebudlelwaneni bethu: uma ulindele okukhulu kakhulu ngokuphathelene nabanye abantu, maningi amathuba okuthi umangale ngokujabulisayo.
Injabulo iyona nto emhlabeni ephindaphindeka kabili uma ihlukene
8. Ngiphila esikhathini samanje. Ukuphila esikhathini samanje kusho ukukhetha ukuya ngaphakathi, ukungacabangi ngendawo oya kuyo, futhi ungazisoli lapho uqala khona. Ngikhumbula ibinzana elashiwo kimina ngowesifazane omuhle: «Umgomo usendleleni, kodwa le ndlela ayinamgomo. Sisendleleni, indawo ikhanya ngaphandle kwefasitela, siya phambili, futhi, empeleni, yilokhu kuphela esinakho. Injabulo ingumvuzo kulowo ohambayo, futhi ekugcineni akuvamile ukwenzeka.
9. Nginemithombo eminingi eyahlukene yokuchuma. Ngamanye amazwi, "angiwabeki wonke amaqanda ami kubhasikidi owodwa." Ukuncika emthonjeni owodwa wenjabulo - umsebenzi noma othandekayo - kuyingozi kakhulu, ngoba ibuthakathaka. Uma unamathele kubantu abaningi, uma uthanda imisebenzi ehlukene, usuku lwakho lwansuku zonke lunokulinganisela ngokuphelele. Kimina, ukuhleka kuwumthombo obalulekile wokulinganisela - kunikeza umuzwa osheshayo wenjabulo.
10. Ngiyabathanda abanye abantu. Ngikholelwa ukuthi imithombo emihle kakhulu yenjabulo uthando, ukwabelana, nokuphana. Ngokwabelana nokupha, umuntu uphindaphinda izikhathi zenjabulo futhi abeke izisekelo zokuchuma kwesikhathi eside. U-Albert Schweitzer, owathola uMklomelo Wokuthula KaNobel ngo-1952, wayeqinisile lapho ethi, “Injabulo iwukuphela kwento emhlabeni ephindaphindeka kabili lapho ihlukene phakathi.”
Umthombo: M. Rydal Happy Like Danes (Phantom Press, 2016).