Cishe uhlangane nabo enkundleni yokudlala noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Izingane zabo zihlale ziziphethe kahle, zifunda isiNgisi kusukela zineminyaka emithathu futhi zisiza endlini. "Omama abalungile" ngokwabo bazi konke mayelana nokukhulisa izingane, bayakwazi ukusebenza, banakekele imindeni yabo futhi baye ku-yoga. Kungase kubonakale sengathi bakufanele ukutuswa. Kodwa kunalokho, bacasula abesifazane «abavamile». Mayelana nokuthi kungani, uphikisana nomlobi uMarie Bolda-Von.
Uma ubheka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kanye nomagazini abacwebezelayo, uthola umbono wokuthi ukuba ngumama ojwayelekile ekhulwini lama-XNUMX akusanele. Kuzo zonke izinhlangothi sihlaselwa abesifazane abakhulukazi abaziyo, abakwaziyo futhi benza konke.
Akukhona nje ukuthi avele abe khona, aphinde akhulume ngokuningiliziwe ngokungabi nasici kwawo. Ngehora lesikhombisa ekuseni bafaka isithombe sesidlo sasekuseni esifanele bona nezingane zabo ku-Instagram (inhlangano yontamolukhuni evinjelwe eRussia), ngehora lesishiyagalolunye babika kuTwitter ukuthi kuvulwe ikilabhu yezingane eduze namakilasi ngokwenqubo yesikole. uthisha wezengqondo wemfashini.
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"Omama abalungile" babangela umuzwa wecala kithi ngobukhona bethu obuphakathi nobuvila bethu.
Uma uhlangana “nomama okahle” empilweni yangempela (ebaleni lokudlala, emtholampilo noma esitolo), uzohlanganyela ngenjabulo izimfihlo ezifakazelwe zokukhulisa izingane, atshele ukuthi umntwana wakhe ulele kahle kusukela ekuzalweni, edla kakhulu futhi akakaze ukuganga.
“Ngoba ngenze konke njengokuyalelwa ezincwadini.” Futhi ekugcineni, kuzokumangaza ukuthi awukakhethi isikole, inyuvesi, izifundo zokugibela kanye nomqeqeshi wokubiyela ingane yakho. "Kanjani? Ngeke uthumele indodana noma indodakazi yakho ekubiyeleni? Kusemfashinini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ithuthukisa ukusebenzisana kanye nama-hemispheres wobuchopho! Uke wacabanga nge-gymnastics? Wenzani? Akunampilo. Bonke ochwepheshe bayabhala ngakho!”
Lapha sekuyisikhathi sokuba umama ovamile aziphendulele ukuthi "umama okahle" kufanele azikhohliwe, aqede umsebenzi wakhe, akadingi ukuthola imali, ngakho-ke anganikela amahora angu-24 kuphela ngosuku. ezinganeni. Kodwa cha! Ngeshwa ngathi, lo “mama wenguqulo 2.0” ungumnikazi we-ejensi encane ye-PR, isitolo se-inthanethi semikhiqizo ye-vegan, noma elinye ibhizinisi lemfashini.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uhlale ebukeka emuhle (“yize engakaze abe sesaluni iminyaka eyikhulu”), i-abs yakhe inomona ngisho nomqeqeshi wakhe wokuqina, futhi ungena kalula kumajean ayewagqoka esikoleni esiphakeme (“ asikho isikhathi sokuya esitolo, kwakudingeka ngiwathole ku-mezzanine»).
Kungani, esikhundleni sokutuswa, besicasula? Okokuqala, ngoba "omama abalungile" babangela umuzwa wecala kithi "ngokuphila okungenathalenta." Esikhundleni sesidlo sakusihlwa esilula kodwa esinevithamini somndeni wonke, izolo upheke i-pasta. Si-ode i-pizza ngayizolo.
Esikhundleni se-yoga, saya ekhefi nabangane sadla amakhekhe amathathu lapho. Ngezinye izikhathi awunawo amandla ekuseni, hhayi nje ukwenza isitayela, kodwa vele ugeze izinwele zakho. Ngoba ingane ayizange ilale ubusuku bonke. Awuzange uzihluphe ngokufunda incwadi ekutshela ukuthi ungathola kanjani umntwana ophelele. Noma ufunde, kodwa, ngokusobala, akaqondanga noma wenza okuthile okungalungile.
Futhi manje uqala ukuhlushwa yicala ngenxa yobuvila nokungakwazi. Futhi, ngokwemvelo, uthukuthelele umuntu obangele lokhu kuzikhukhumeza. Sonke sifuna ukuba omama abangcono kakhulu bezingane zethu, futhi kuyasilimaza ukuthi asikwazi ukukwenza.
Iseluleko sami: khululeka futhi ukholwe ukuthi ungumama ophelele wengane yakho. Ngeke akushintshele kunoma yimuphi omunye. Uyakuthanda ngaphandle kwezinwele, izimonyo namakhilogremu engeziwe. Futhi uyabonga kuwena (yize engakakwazi ngakho) ukuthi ngeke umphoqe ukuthi umdonsele uthango nasezifundweni zakuqala zesiNgisi. Kunalokho, uzokwemba ngenjabulo ebhokisini lesihlabathi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe, kuzo zonke lezi zindaba mayelana nokuba khona okuhle nokulungile "komama abahle" uzizwa ungamanga. Futhi lesi yisizathu sesibili esenza bacasuke.
Kulungile. Laba besifazane abakhulu banabasizi, ngisho noma bengakhangisi. Futhi akuzona zonke izinsuku ezifana nenganekwane.
Ekuseni, kunzima futhi ukuthi bazidabule embhedeni, ngezinye izikhathi bapheka iphalishi elisheshayo ukuze badle ukudla kwasekuseni (kodwa-ke bathwebula izithombe ezinhle ngezithelo - awukwazi ukubona esithombeni), futhi ngenyanga ezayo. bahlela ukuqala ukudlala ibhola nokudansa (ngoba kuyabiza futhi baqeqeshe kanjalo).
Umkhuba othi "umama okahle" uvele ngokuphendula umbono wendabuko wempilo engenathemba yowesifazane onengane.
Kwabajwayele kanye nabantu abangabazi, kuyajabulisa kubo ukwenza isithombe esiphinde sathintwa sikamama ngaphandle kokuqwasha ebusuku namanabukeni avuzayo.
Umkhuba ngokwawo, obizwa ngokuthi “umama okahle”, uvele ngokuphendula umbono wendabuko wempilo engenathemba yowesifazane onengane encane. “Omama abakahle” wathi: “Cha, asinjalo!” futhi uphakamise isithombe esisha. Abahlali ngaphakathi kwezindonga ezine, kodwa baphila impilo esebenzayo nomntwana. Ngenxa yale ndlela engavamile, baye baduma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Abesifazane abaningi babefuna ukudalula imfihlo yabo, bafane nabo.
Kodwa ngesinye isikhathi kwakukhona "omama abafanelekile" abaningi kakhulu. Impela phakathi kwabangane bakho kukhona okumbalwa kwalokhu. Mhlawumbe abazishicileli izithombe ku-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) ukuze bajabulele izinkulungwane zababhalisile, kodwa ngezikhathi zemihlangano engavamile bayakumangaza ngezindaba ezimayelana nendlela abaphila ngayo kahle, ngaphandle kokucindezeleka nhlobo. Abalokothi bavume ukuthi bakhathele, abanaso isikhathi sento ethile, noma abazi. Phela, le ndlela ayikho kuthrendi.
Futhi nokho, ekuphenduleni lo mkhuba, umkhuba ohluke ngokuphelele usanda kuvela - "omama be-normcore". Cha, abakhonondi ngobunzima bokuba ngumama. Bakhuluma ngaye ngamancoko futhi ngaphandle kokuhlotshiswa okuningi. Bafaka isithombe sengane eyaphuthunyiswa ukuyovakasha igqoke izicathulo ezahlukene, noma uphaya wamahhabhula oshile ngoba yena nendodana yakhe badlala amaNdiya.
«Normkor-mama» unganikezi iseluleko futhi ungafuni ukuba isibonelo kuwo wonke umuntu. Bakhuluma ngokuthi kukhona kokubili izikhathi ezimnandi nezinzima ekukhuliseni izingane. Into eyinhloko ukugcina ikhanda lakho emahlombe akho futhi uphathe yonke into ngamahlaya. Futhi yingakho sibathanda kakhulu.