Hhayi nje namuhla, ngo-February 23, kodwa nangezinye izinsuku, amadoda amaningi ayazibuza ukuthi ikuphi ezweni elisha elithuthukayo. Akusadingeki ukushayela izimbangi ngenduku, ukubulala ama-mammoths, ukulwa nezilwane ezidla ezinye. Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze? Ungazibonakalisa kanjani futhi ugcine ubudoda bakho? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Alexander Shakhov ubonisa.
Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi umqondo "wendoda yangempela" kusukela ekubukeni kwabesifazane nabesilisa kuyisethi ehlukile yezimfanelo. Uma kwabesifazane kungukuthi: unomthwalo wemfanelo, onothando, onakekelayo, ozwelayo, othembekile, onothando, indoda yomndeni eqinile, khona-ke emhlabeni wesilisa unobudlova, awunikeli izitha, usindisa umhlaba, ongenangqondo, onenhlanhla, ophumelelayo nabesifazane. uhlobo.
Vele ubukele amafilimu esenzo — lona umthombo wamamodeli wesilisa. Abalingiswa abakhulu kubo nguJames Bond, Thor, Iron Man. Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bayasithanda lesi sithombe, umehluko wukuthi abesifazane bafuna ukuthambisa uJames Bond. Kodwa kunzima ukuba yiqhawe, ukukhipha udoti, ngisho nase-tuxedo.
Ibheka abalingisi bamabhayisikobho, indoda iziqhathanisa nabo futhi ithola kwalasha wokungaguquguquki: "Angiyena owangempela, hhayi indlela okufanele ngibe yiyo." Lokhu kungaboni ngaso linye akukwazi ukuxazululwa ngokunengqondo ngokuqaphela ukuthi "yifilimu nje."
Ukuze bakunqobe, abaningi baphendukela otshwaleni - baphuze ibhodlela likabhiya, futhi usuvele unguJames Bond - noma ubalekele imidlalo yekhompiyutha lapho "uyiqhawe" elihlula ama-cartoon villains.
Amadoda adinga izibonelo ezinhle emhlabeni wabantu abaphilayo. Ngaphambi kokuba babe: Chkalov, Chelyuskin, Stakhanov. Benza imisebenzi enzima, kodwa eyabantu. Ukulandela la maphayona, kwavela ukunyakaza kwamadoda wonke: amaChelyuskinite, amaStakhanovite, amaChkalovites. Ziphi izibonelo ezinjalo manje? Kwasala kuphela amaqhawe ezincwadi zamahlaya anamakhono angaphezu kwawomuntu.
Abesilisa abaningi bakhathele ukushuba okungapheli okubangelwa ukuzimisela ukwamukela inselele evela kwabanye abesilisa.
Inqubekelaphambili yesayensi nezobuchwepheshe ilinganise owesilisa emathubeni nowesifazane. Akudingekile ukusindisa umhlaba emzabalazweni, kusekelwa izingxoxo. Thola nokudla, ukulethwa kokudla kusebenza ubusuku nemini. Indoda inenkinga ekhona: kungani idingeka manje njengoba injalo?
Ngivame ukuvakashela eJalimane. Lapha, amadoda asemfashinini anenhlonipho egcizelelwe kwabesifazane, anakekele umndeni. Ngisho nasemapaki anezingane kanye nezinqola, ikakhulukazi amadoda ahamba ngezinyawo. Futhi endaweni ngokwesiko yabesilisa - amagumbi okukhiya ezemidlalo, amabha kabhiya - kukhona umoya onomusa kangangokuthi mina, ngomqondo wami wokusinda kusukela kuma-90s, ngizizwe njenge-Neanderthal eyinsalela kimina, futhi kufanele ngenze umzamo obonakalayo wokumamatheka, khululeka, ncokola.
Ngicabanga ukuthi amadoda amaningi, njengami, akhathele ukushuba okungapheli okubangelwa ukuzimisela ukwamukela inselele kwabanye besilisa. Akulula ukuqeda isithombe “sowesilisa wangempela” esihlakulelwe amashumi eminyaka— onolaka, olunolaka, oluyingozi. Kodwa ngiyazama. Okwakho. Ezomndeni. Ngenxa yomhlaba.