Okuqukethwe
Izingane ezimbili zishiyana ngomnyaka owodwa
Ngaphambi kokuvimbela inzalo, ukukhulelwa kwakuxhunyaniswa ngokusho komusa kaMama Wendalo, kanye Ezimweni ezingama-20%, baby n ° 2 wayekhomba ichopho lekhala ngonyaka ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane endala. Namuhla, imibhangqwana ekhetha igebe elincishisiwe ngokuvamile yenza kanjalo ukuze ithuthukise ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazalwane nodade. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi lapho zikhula, izingane ezimbili ezisondelene kakhulu ziyaguquka njengamawele futhi zihlanganyele izinto eziningi (imisebenzi, abangane, izingubo, njll.). Kuze kube yileso sikhathi ... lapho umntwana omusha efika, elikhulu kunawo wonke likude nokuzimela futhi lokho kudinga ukutshalwa kwezimali nokutholakala ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanye besifazane baqala ngokushesha ukukhulelwa kwesibili, becindezelwa iwashi elidumile lezinto eziphilayo. Ngisho noma sisebancane kakhulu ngeminyaka engama-35, indawo yethu yokugcina amaqanda isiqala ukwehla. Ngakho-ke, uma uqale sekwephuzile owokuqala, kungcono ukuthi ungalindi isikhathi eside ukuze ukhulelwe umntwana wesibili.
Ngaphansi : lapho umama ekhulelwa kabili ngokulandelana, umzimba wakhe awuzange ube nesikhathi esidingekayo sokubuyela esimweni. Abanye basenamakhilogremu ambalwa engeziwe ... kunzima kakhulu ukwehla kamuva. Abanye abakasigcwalisi insimbi yabo. Ngenxa yalokho, ukukhathala okukhulu, noma ngisho nengozi encane ye-anemia.
ISELULEKO ++
Uma ukukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala bekuhambisana nomfutho wegazi ophakeme noma isifo sikashukela, kungcono ukulinda kuze kube yilapho ibhalansi ibuyele kokujwayelekile ngaphambi kokwandisa umndeni. Iseluleko esifanayo kulabo abaye babeletha ngokuhlinzwa, ngoba ukukhulelwa nokubeletha kusondelene kakhulu kungenza buthaka isibazi sesibeletho. Kungakho iKolishi Lodokotela Bezifo Zabesifazane BaseFrance (CNGOF) leluleka ngokukhulelwa okungaphansi konyaka kuya onyakeni nengxenye ngemva kokuhlinzwa.
FUTHI SOHLADWENI LOMNTWANA?
Ukuhlola okwenziwa e-United States kwabonisa ingozi ephakeme yokukhula ngaphambi kwesikhathi lapho ingane yesibili ilandela eyokuqala ngokuseduze kakhulu: izinga lokuzala ngaphambi kwesikhathi (ngaphambi kwamasonto angu-37 e-amenorrhea) lalicishe liphindwe kathathu phakathi kwezingane. unina wakhulelwa kabili ungakapheli unyaka emunye. Ukuze ufaneleke ngoba "lezi zifundo ezenziwa ngaphesheya kwe-Atlantic azidluliseli eFrance", kugcizelela uSolwazi Philippe Deruelle.
“Bengifuna ingane yesibili ngokushesha okukhulu”
Ukukhulelwa kwami kokuqala kanye nokubeletha, angikukhumbuli kahle ngempela… Kodwa lapho ngigone uMargot, kwaba iphupho elafezeka futhi kuwukungaphumi kulezo zikhathi. ngicebile ngokomzwelo ukuthi ngangifuna ingane yesibili ngokushesha okukhulu. Nami ngangingafuni ukuthi indodakazi yami ikhuliswe yodwa. Ngemva kwezinyanga ezinhlanu, ngase ngikhulelwe. Ukukhulelwa kwami kwesibili kwakungiqeda amandla. Ngaleso sikhathi, umyeni wami wayesebuthweni lezempi. Kwadingeka ahambe phesheya kusukela ngenyanga yesi-4 kuya kweyesi-8 yokukhulelwa. Akulula nsuku zonke! Okwesithathu okuncane kwafika "ngokumangala", izinyanga ezingu-17 ngemva kwesibili. Lokhu kukhulelwa kwahamba kahle. Kodwa ngasohlangothini “lobudlelwano” kwakungelula. Njengoba nganginezingane ezintathu ezincane, ngangivame ukuzizwa ngikhishwa inyumbazane. Kunzima ukuya esidlweni sakusihlwa nabangane noma ukuba nendawo yokudlela yothando … Ngokufika komncane kunabo bonke, “abakhulu” bazimele futhi kungazelelwe, ngimsiza kakhulu umntanami. Kuyinjabulo yangempela! ”
UHORTENSE, unina kaMargot, oneminyaka engu-11 1/2 ubudala, uGarance, oneminyaka engu-10 1/2, uVictoire, oneminyaka engu-9, no-Isaure, oneminyaka emine ubudala.
Phakathi kwezinyanga ezi-18 nezingu-23
Uma ukhetha ukulinda phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingu-23 ngaphambi kokukhulelwa futhi, usendaweni efanele! Kunoma yikuphi isikhathi esifanele sokugwema ukungakabi yisikhathi, isisindo esiphansi kanye nokuphuphuma kwesisu *. Umzimba usululeme kahle futhi usazuza ekuvikelweni okutholwe ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kokuqala. Lokhu akusenjalo nhlobo uma igebe lidlula iminyaka emihlanu (izinyanga ezingama-59 ukunemba). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, olunye ucwaningo luzobonisa ukuthi ukulinda izinyanga ezingu-27 kuya kwezingu-32 kuzonciphisa ingozi yokopha ku-3rd trimester kanye nokutheleleka kwe-urinary tract. Ngasohlangothini olusebenzayo, ungadlulisela izingubo namathoyizi kusukela kweyokuqala kuya kweyesibili, futhi ngisho noma izingane zithatha iminyaka embalwa ukuze zihlanganyele imisebenzi efanayo, omdala ngokuvamile uyaziqhenya ngokukhonza njengesiqondiso kumfowabo noma udadewabo omncane. . Ngokuphazima kweso, kukhulula abazali kancane! * Ucwaningo lwamazwe ngamazwe olubandakanya abesifazane abakhulelwe abayizigidi ezingu-11.
Futhi ngempilo yengane, ingabe kungcono igebe elikhulu?
Ngokusobala akunjalo. Ucwaningo lubonise ukukhubazeka okukhulu kwe-intrauterine ukukhula, isisindo sokuzalwa esiphansi kanye nokukhula ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngaphezu kweminyaka emi-5. Ekugcineni, isimo ngasinye sinezinzuzo nezinkinga zaso. Kukuwe ukuthi ukhethe ngokwesifiso sakho. Okubalulekile ukwamukela lo mntwana omusha ezimweni ezinhle kakhulu, ngokulandelwa okuhle phakathi nokukhulelwa futhi egcwele injabulo engqondweni!
Kuvidiyo: Vala ukukhulelwa: yiziphi izingozi?
Ingane yesibili eneminyaka engu-5 noma ngaphezulu ngemva kweyokuqala
Kwesinye isikhathi kuba yigebe elikhulu phakathi kokukhulelwa okubili kokuqala. Eminye imikhaya ibuyela emuva eminyakeni emihlanu noma eyishumi kamuva. Igcina abazali besesimweni esihle! Awukho umbuzo wokuhudula izinyawo zakho ukuze uphathe ibhayisikili noma isikuta lapho ubuya epaki! Noma ukwenqaba umdlalo webhola likanobhutshuzwayo noma i-volleyball yasebhishi ogwini lapho uzothatha isihlwathi ithawula lakho. Lokhu kukhulelwa kwafika sekwephuzile ngemva kokuqala, kubuyisela ubungqabavu nephimbo! Futhi njengoba sidlule kuzo zonke izimo ngesikhulu, okwesibili, siyayiyeka i-ballast futhi sicindezelekile kancane. Kukhona futhi inzuzo: ungakwazi ngempela ukujabulela ingane ngayinye njengokungathi iwukuphela kwengane, futhi izingxabano phakathi kwazo azivamile.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokwesimo, ngezinye izikhathi sikhathele kakhulu kunabadala: vuka njalo ngemva kwamahora amathathu noma amane, uphathe umbhede ogoqwayo kanye nezikhwama zamanabukeni, ingasaphathwa amazinyo ahlabayo ... kulula ngeminye imibimbi embalwa. Ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ukuthi isigqi sempilo ebesijwayele ukusijwayela sibheke phezulu! Ngamafuphi, akukho okuhlale kuphelele!
“Leli gebe elibalulekile phakathi kwezingane zami ezimbili lalifiswa futhi lihlelwe umbhangqwana wethu. Ngaba nokukhulelwa kokuqala okuyinkimbinkimbi kancane ekugcineni, ngokubeletha ngokuhlinzwa. Kodwa lapho ngiqinisekiswa ngesimo sempilo yengane yami, ngaba nesifiso esisodwa kuphela: ukusisebenzisa ngokugcwele eminyakeni yokuqala. Engikwenzile. Nginomuntu engisebenza naye onezingane ezisondelene naye, futhi uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, angizange ngimmone nakancane. Ngemva kweminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye, njengoba ngase ngineminyaka engu-35, ngacabanga ukuthi kwase kufike isikhathi sokwandisa umkhaya futhi ngikhiphe isivikelo sami sokuvimbela inzalo. Lokhu kukhulelwa kwesibili kwahamba kahle, kodwa ngasekugcineni, ngafakwa ngaphansi kweso elibukhali ukuze ngibheke ukuthi ingane yami yayikhula kahle yini. Ngihlinzwe njengowokuqala, ngoba umlomo wesibeletho awuvulekanga. Namuhla konke kuhamba kahle kakhulu nengane yami. Angicindezelekile kakhulu kunakuqala. Komdala wami, ngangethuka kalula uma kukhona "okungalungile". Lapho, ngihlala zen. Ukuvuthwa okukhulu, akungabazeki! Futhi-ke, indodakazi yami endala ijabulela ukukwazi ukugona udadewabo omncane. Ngiyaqiniseka, naphezu kokuhluka kweminyaka, bazoba nezikhathi ezinhle zokuhlangana eminyakeni embalwa ezayo. ”
UDELPHINE, unina ka-Océane, oneminyaka engu-12, noLéa, onezinyanga ezintathu ubudala.
Ngokwezibalo zakamuva ze-INSEE e-France, isikhawu esimaphakathi phakathi komntwana wokuqala nowesi-1 iminyaka engu-3,9 neminyaka engu-4,3 phakathi kwengane yesi-2 neyesi-3.