Okuqukethwe
Abazali abaningi bayaqiniseka ukuthi ukulalela izindebe kulimaza ingane - kuphazamisa ukuthuthukiswa kwenkulumo yakhe, kumfundisa ukuhlanekezela amagama futhi ngokuvamile kubambezela ukuvuthwa kobuntu. Ingabe kunjalo? Ake silalele umbono kachwepheshe, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esibelethweni u-Elena Patrikeyeva.
Inkulumo yezingane iwulimi olusetshenziswa abazali emazweni amaningi ahlukahlukene. Lapho bekhuluma nezingane, bandisa onkamisa bengathandi, bahlanekezele imisindo (okubenza babe “ngeyengane” futhi bangacace kahle), futhi inkulumo ngokuvamile iba emnandi kakhulu.
Labo abakhuluma isiRashiya basebenzisa izijobelelo ezinciphayo (inkinobho, ibhodlela, ibhanisi). Futhi-ke, "i-lisping" (zonke izinhlobo ze-"usi-pusi", "bibika" ne-"lyalka"), okunzima ukuyihumusha.
Lena yindlela abazali abaningi abakhuluma ngayo nezingane zabo. Kungani futhi kungani?
Okokuqala nje, lena inkulumo enombala ongokomzwelo eqondiswe enganeni. Uzwakala ethambile futhi efudumele. Ephelezelwa ukumamatheka.
Yilokhu esisungula ukuxhumana nengane, imthobe.
Ngakho sibika ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle, wamukelekile lapha futhi uphephile lapha.
Kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo, abazali emasikweni ahlukene babenemilolozelo esetshenziswayo. Futhi akekho owayenombuzo, kodwa kuyadingeka, kodwa kungenzeka, futhi akuyingozi yini ukukhuluma nokuxhumana kanjalo nengane. Empirically, abantu bathola ukuthi izingane zizolile, zigxile kumuntu omdala, zilandele ngamehlo abo, bese kuthi, inyanga nesigamu, zimnike ukumomotheka kokuqala. Ulimi olunjalo luwumgomo ophelele wokuxhumana nezingane.
Manje sesikwazi ukufinyelela enanini lolwazi kuze kube manje obekungakabonakali, okuphakamisa ukukhathazeka nakanjani. Ngoba ulwazi luyaphikisana ezindaweni. Futhi kuzo zonke izici zokuphikisana, kufanele wenze uhlobo oluthile lwesinqumo uwedwa.
Futhi manje abazali baqala ukubuza imibuzo: ingabe ngokuvamile kuvamile ukuthi ngivele ngiwele ebuntwaneni emshinini ngokuzalwa kwengane yami futhi ngaqala ukukhala? Kuthiwani uma ekhula ethambile futhi etotoswa ngenxa yalokhu? Kuthiwani uma ingane ingazizwa njengomuntu? Kuthiwani uma, ngihlanekezela amagama, ngiwonakalise ukusho kwakhe?
Ngizophendula kafushane. Kuhle. Cha. Cha.
Futhi manje okwengeziwe.
Isimilo, ubuntu kanye nolimi
Ngiyaphinda: ulimi oluthile olunjalo luyadingeka ekukhulumisaneni ngokomzwelo. Futhi kuyisiqinisekiso sokuphepha kwengane, futhi yingakho ukukhula kwayo okuvamile. Ingabe kuthinta ukwakheka komlingiswa?
Ake sicacise: isisekelo somlingiswa (izici zobuntu namaphethini okuphendula ezimweni ezihlukahlukene) sibekwe ngokwemibandela kuze kube iminyaka emihlanu. Futhi izingane zisenezici zokuziphatha kanye nokusebenza kwesimiso sezinzwa kuphela. Futhi isikhathi eside impela, ngokuziphatha kwethu, sinxephezela kuphela noma siqinise lokhu kubonakaliswa. Kancane kancane, njengoba ingane ikhula, thina, ngokusabela kwethu ezenzweni zakhe (ngokuhambisana nezici zakhe), siqala ukubumba umlingiswa.
Ukuthi ingane izothuthukisa ukuzithiba, izokwakha, njll., kuncike ekutheni abantu abadala bawusekela kanjani umsebenzi wakhe wocwaningo lwemvelo, isinyathelo. Ingabe zizosiza ukufunda izinto ezintsha noma, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, ziyocasha emgodleni wokukhathazeka kwabazali.
Ukubhebha kamnandi akuhlangene nakho. Uma unikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokuhlukana kancane kancane nawe, ukwenza izinqumo, ukubhekana nemiphumela yalezi zinqumo, ungambiza ngokuthi "bubusechka" kuze kube sekugugeni.
Ngokuqhubekayo. Emphakathini wanamuhla wesintu, isimo sengqondo ngomntwana sishintshile. Sizama ukuphatha izingane njengabantu ngabanye kusukela zizalwa. Kodwa ake sithole ukuthi kuyini.
Lokhu ngokuyinhloko kusho ukuthi: “Ngiyazihlonipha izidingo nemizwa yakho, mntanami, futhi ngiyaqaphela ukuthi awuyona impahla yami. Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ungase ube nombono wakho, izithakazelo zakho siqu kanye nokunambitha okuhlukile kokwami. Wena, njenganoma yimuphi umuntu, udinga inhlonipho ngemingcele yakho nokuvikeleka. Awufuni ukuthethiswa, ukushaywa noma ukuthukwa. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, umncane futhi usanda kuzalwa. Futhi esinye sezidingo zakho ukuxhumana okufudumele ngokomzwelo nami, umzali wakho. Futhi ukulalela izindlebe kusinelisa ngokuphelele lesi sidingo.
Inhlonipho inkulu. Ngokweqile kunoma yini - cha.
3D
Ngokuqondene nokukhuluma. Inkulumo yomuntu ikhula ngokulingisa, kuyiqiniso. Yingakho amakhathuni e-2D anomphumela omubi ekuthuthukiseni inkulumo (ezimweni lapho, ngaphandle kwabo, ingane ingenazo ezinye izibonelo).
Udinga imodeli ye-3D. Ukwenza kucace futhi kubonakale ngokucacile ukuthi izindebe nolimi kuhamba kanjani. Ekuqaleni, ingane izothatha le misindo nezithombe kuphela, futhi ukukhala ("inkulumo" yokuqala) kuzokhishwa kuphela ngezinyanga ezingu-2-4. Amagama abhuqayo azovela ezinyangeni eziyisi-7-8.
Futhi ngisho nalapho uhlanekezela igama ngokwalo, ingane ifunda indlela okhuluma ngayo (ibona ukuthi ugoqa kanjani izindebe zakho, lapho ubeka khona ulimi lwakho), futhi uzoqhubeka nokukulingisa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusukela eminyakeni ethile - eqinisweni, kusukela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa - uzokwazi ukugxila kahle ekukhulumeni phakathi kwabantu abadala, phakathi kwabazali nezinye izingane. Futhi lisping yakho, nezingxoxo nje eduze kwakhe - lena imvelo evundile lapho kwakheka inkulumo esikhathini esizayo.
Ingabe i-listing ngokuvamile izohamba nini? Nansi ihaba elinjalo ngonyaka ngokuvamile lihamba lodwa. Kodwa noma ngabe ngemva konyaka ulimi "lwengane" lungapheli, ungasheshi ukulenga amalebula futhi wenze ukuxilongwa. Enye "uphawu" akufanele isetshenziselwe ukuphetha ngalokho okwenzekayo ngenqubo yokuhlukana noma imingcele emndenini.
Ingabe ikhona iminyaka lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka ukuqabula abafana? Bonisa uthando? Ububele nemfudumalo akubandakanyi imingcele enempilo neyanele. Ngamafuphi, ungesabi "ukuthanda ngokweqile" izingane zakho.