Okuqukethwe
Ingqikithi ethi YEBO iphinde ibe nekhono lokuqonda izinhloso ezingabonakali ngaso sonke isikhathi zomuntu oxoxa naye.
landa ividiyo
Inhloso ingaphakathi, futhi ingaphakathi alibonakali. Umuntu uziqonda kanjani izinhloso zakhe? Abantu baziqonda kanjani izinhloso zabanye abantu?
Ukwaziswa kwenhloso
Izinhloso zomuntu azihlali zicacile kuye, ikakhulukazi njengoba ngokuvamile aziqondwa ngokwanele ngumkhulumeli. Ukuze uvimbele ukukhohlisa okungazi lutho, ukungezwani nezingxabano, kunconywa ukuthi usebenzise ukuqokwa kwezinhloso kaningi.
Izinga eliphindwe kabili ekuzihloleni wena nabanye
Indlela evamile yokuthi abantu abaningi bakhuphule ukuzethemba kwabo:
- bahlobise izinhloso zabo, bazibonele ngobuhle, noma bazahluleli ngokwabo ngezenzo (ezingaphumeleli), kodwa (ngezinhle)!
- bheka izinhloso zabanye nge-lens engalungile, noma ungahluleli ngezinhloso zabo (ezinhle), kodwa ngezenzo zabo (ezimbi). Bona iDouble standard ekuzahluleleni wena nabanye.
Izindaba ezivela empilweni
ubaba akamubi
Ibhalwe nguLarisa Kim.
Esikhathini esingeside esidlule, ngafunda ukuvuma amaphutha ami futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaqala ukuwenza lapho nginephutha. Ngisho ngokuqondile:Ngenze iphutha. Akwethusi ukwenza amaphutha, kuyathusa ukungawavumi amaphutha. Ngingumuntu ojwayelekile, futhi abantu bayawenza amaphutha. Manje ngizocabanga ukuthi ngingasilungisa kanjani lesi simo». Okubaluleke nakakhulu, kuyangisiza ukuba ngiqonde abanye abantu lapho benza amaphutha - futhi ngingabathukutheleli. Futhi ngisho nokuchazela abanye ukuze bangathukutheli. Ngokumangalisayo, lokhu kulula ukukuchazela izingane, hhayi abantu abadala.
Isimo esilandelayo senzeke muva nje. Umyeni weza esikoleni efundisa indodakazi yakhe, kodwa yayingekho. Wagijima emaphaseji - akukho ngane. Wabuza uthisha ukuthi ikuphi indodakazi yakhe, wathi: «Othile useyithathile. Futhi wangena hysterics. Wangishayela ucingo, ememeza futhi ethuka. Wabe esefonela umkhulu wakhe no wesifazane, wathola ukuthi sebeyithathile, wangabe esakwazi ukuzola. Waya kubo efuna ingane, wamemeza indodakazi yakhe kwaze kwabuhlungu ikhanda.
Ngibuya emsebenzini ingane ikhala izinyembezi, ubaba akaphezi uyayibona uyamemeza. Ekugcineni, wahamba wayopaka imoto, ngamyisa embhedeni, futhi uyangibuza: “Mama, kungani ubaba wethu ethukuthele futhi emubi kangaka?” — Ungathini enganeni? Kungani emubi kangaka? Wamemeza?
Ngathi: “Ubaba akamubi. Wathi uma efika esikoleni wathola ukuthi awusekho, wethuka wafa. Wacabanga into embi kakhulu, ukuthi uthunjiwe. Futhi manje asazi noma siyoke sikuthole yini. Futhi ubaba wagula, akazi ukuthi angaluveza kanjani usizi lwakhe ngendlela ehlukile. Uqala ukuklabalasa, amemeze ngakho konke akuzwayo, asole abanye. Konke lokhu kungenxa yokuthi akazange afundiswe ukukhulula imizwa ngendlela efanele. Akanacala kulokhu, sizomxolela ubaba kulento.
Kodwa sizocabangela ikusasa uma nathi ngokwethu sizithola sisesimweni esingafanele ukusabela ngale ndlela. Akekho olungele lokhu. Ekuqaleni, ubaba wayesaba, manje uzizwa kabi futhi uzizwa enecala, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo akazi ukuthi angacela kanjani intethelelo.
Indodakazi ayikwazanga ukulala lapho umyeni wayo ebuya, yaphuthuma kuye futhi yaqala ukusho ukuthi iyaqonda ukuthi kungani ubaba eklabalasa kangangokuthi akazange amthukuthelele, kodwa wayemthanda kakhulu. Umyeni wavele wathula ngokushesha, wehla umthwalo wecala kuye, futhi naye wayesekwazi ukuchaza ngokuthula ukusabela kwakhe kuye ngokwakhe.