Okuqukethwe
Ingabe uvame ukusho ukuthi iziphathimandla zibeka icala ngezinkinga zakho? Kubantu abaningi, isikhundla "sezingane ezicasuliwe" sifanelekile. Ikuvumela ukuthi uzithathele umthwalo wemfanelo, hhayi ukwenza imizamo yokwenza impilo yakho ibe ngcono. Kungani thina, njengabancane, silindele ukuthi kufike othile ngokuzumayo futhi asijabulise? Futhi kusilimaza kanjani?
Igama elithi «amandla» linezincazelo eziningi. Zonke sezizonke zehlela entweni eyodwa: leli yikhono lokulahla nokuphoqelela intando yakho kwabanye abantu. Ukuxhumana kokuqala komuntu onamandla (umzali) kwenzeka ebuntwaneni. Isikhundla sakhe sesikhathi esizayo maqondana nezibalo ezigunyaziwe zamazinga ahlukahlukene naso sincike kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho.
Ukusebenzelana kwethu neziphathimandla kufundwa yi-social psychology. Ososayensi bathole ukuthi noma yiliphi iqembu labantu endaweni efanayo lidlula ezigabeni ezijwayelekile zokuthuthuka. Bacwaningwa futhi bafundwa ekuqaleni kwekhulu lesi-XNUMX. Ngakho-ke, ukuze wembule amaphethini ajwayelekile anamuhla, kwanele ukubheka emuva futhi ufunde umlando.
Imisebenzi yamandla
Ngayo yonke inhlobonhlobo yemisebenzi yamandla, singakhetha izindawo ezimbili ezibalulekile - lokhu ukuvikela nokuchuma kwabantu abaphathiswe wona.
Ake sicabange ukuthi umuntu osesikhundleni unezimfanelo zomholi omuhle. Ubhekene neqembu labantu abaphathiswe kuye. Uma kusengozini (isibonelo, abantu besongelwa isitha sangaphandle), khona-ke uthatha isinyathelo ukuze alondoloze izinzuzo zaleli qembu ngangokunokwenzeka. "Ivula" ukuzivikela, isekela ukuhlukaniswa nokuhlangana.
Ngezikhathi ezivumayo, umholi onjalo uqinisekisa ukuthuthukiswa kweqembu nokuchuma kwalo, ukuze ilungu ngalinye libe lihle ngangokunokwenzeka.
Futhi umsebenzi oyinhloko womuntu onikwe amandla ukuhlukanisa isimo esisodwa kwesinye.
Kungani abazali belapha?
Izikhombisi-ndlela ezimbili eziyinhloko zamandla ombuso ukuqinisekisa ukuvikelwa nokuchuma kwabantu, futhi kumzali - ngokufanisa, ukuphepha nokuthuthuka kwengane.
Kuze kufike esigabeni esithile, abantu abadala ababalulekile baqagela izidingo zethu ngathi: sinikeze ukuvikeleka, okuphakelayo, lawula umsebenzi nezikhathi zokulala, ukwakha okunamathiselwe, ukufundisa, ukubeka imingcele. Futhi uma umuntu "ecatshangelwa" kakhulu, wabe eseyeka, uzobe esenkingeni.
Kuyini ukuzimela? Lapho umuntu omdala ezazi yena futhi ehlukanisa lapho izisusa nemicabango yakhe, futhi kuphi - omunye umuntu. Ulalela izifiso zakhe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uyaqaphela izindinganiso zabanye abantu kanye neqiniso lokuthi abantu bangaba nombono wabo siqu. Umuntu onjalo uyakwazi ukungena ezingxoxweni futhi acabangele izithakazelo zabanye.
Uma singahlukananga nabazali bethu futhi sibe nokuzimela, khona-ke sinezisekelo ezimbalwa zokuphila noma azikho nhlobo. Futhi-ke kunoma yisiphi isimo esicindezelayo, sizolinda usizo lomuntu ogunyaziwe. Futhi sizocasuka kakhulu uma lesi sibalo singayifezi imisebenzi esiyinikeza yona. Ngakho ubuhlobo bethu bomuntu siqu neziphathimandla bubonisa izigaba esingakadluli ebuhlotsheni bethu nabazali bethu.
Kungani abantu bedinga umholi esimweni esibucayi
Uma sicindezelekile, si:
- Ukucabanga kancane
Noma yikuphi ukucindezeleka noma inkinga isho ukushintsha kwezimo. Lapho izimo zishintsha, asiqondi ngokushesha ukuthi kufanele senze kanjani esimweni esisha ngokwethu. Ngoba azikho izixazululo esezilungile. Futhi, njengomthetho, endaweni yokucindezeleka okukhulu, umuntu uyahlehla. Okungukuthi, "ibuyela emuva" ekuthuthukisweni, ilahlekelwa ikhono lokuzimela kanye nokuzazi.
- Sifuna ukusekela
Kungakho zonke izinhlobo zethiyori yozungu zithandwa ezimweni ezibucayi ezahlukahlukene. Abantu badinga ukuthola incazelo yalokho okwenzekayo, futhi kunolwazi oluningi kakhulu. Uma ngesikhathi esifanayo umuntu engazi ukuthi angathembela kanjani emizweni namagugu akhe, uqala ukwenza lula kakhulu uhlelo futhi enze amaphuzu amasha okusekela. Ekukhathazekeni kwakhe, ufuna igunya futhi aziqinisekise ngokuthi kukhona “bona” abanecala kukho konke okwenzekayo. Ngakho-ke i-psyche ilwa nesiphithiphithi. Futhi kulula kakhulu ukuba namandla «esabekayo» kunokukhathazeka okungapheli futhi ungazi ukuthi uncike kubani.
- Silahlekelwa ukwanela kokubona
Ngezikhathi ezibucayi zezepolitiki, izinhlekelele kanye nobhubhane, amandla abantu e-apothenia ayanda. Lesi simo, lapho umuntu eqala khona ukubona ubudlelwano phakathi kwezenzakalo ezingahleliwe noma idatha, sigcwalisa amaqiniso ngencazelo ekhethekile. I-Apophenia ivame ukusetshenziselwa ukuchaza i-paranormal.
Isibonelo esingokomlando: ngo-1830, lokho okubizwa ngokuthi izibhelu zekholera kwakhukhula iRussia. Abalimi laba bakholwa kakhulu ukuthi uhulumende wathumela odokotela ezifundazweni ngamabomu ukuyabathelela ngomkhuhlane weCholera ngaleyondlela kwehle imilomo. Umlando, njengoba ubona, uyaziphinda. Ngokumelene nesizinda sobhubhane lwango-2020, izinkolelo-mbono zozungu kanye ne-apothenia nakho kwachuma.
Ubhekephi uhulumeni?
Yebo, uhulumeni akaphelele, akekho uhulumeni onganelisa izidingo zazo zonke izakhamuzi zezwe lakhe. Yebo, kunomqondo wenkontileka yezenhlalakahle, ngokusho kwawo okulindeleke ukuthi uhulumeni aqinisekise ukuthula nokuvikeleka komhlaba wonke. Kodwa futhi kunomqondo wokuzibophezela komuntu siqu ngempilo yomuntu, umsebenzi, kuzo zonke izinqumo nezenzo ezithathiwe. Ukuze ube nenhlalakahle yakho, phela.
Futhi, empeleni, lapho uhulumeni esolwa ngezinkinga nazo zonke izono ezifayo, lesi yisimo esihlehlayo. Leli phethini lobudlelwane liphinda lokho okwabekwa kithi ebuntwaneni bokuqala: lapho kukhona ukuhlupheka kwami kuphela futhi kukhona othile ophethe inhlalakahle yami noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, izinkinga. Nakuba noma yimuphi umuntu omdala ozimele uyakuqonda ukuthi umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakhe nokukhetha kunqunywa nguyena kakhulu.