Amagugu, izimo zofuzo, izici zomzimba zidluliselwa ngemindeni. Kwezinye izimo, ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo kungenye yazo. Lesi yisizathu sokuthi kungani isihlahla somndeni kwesinye isikhathi sidinga ukususwa ukubethela.

Ukuhlukumezeka kwezizukulwane (okubuye kwaziwe ngokuthi ukuhlukumezeka okuphakathi kwezizukulwane noma ukuhlukumezeka okudlulele kwesinye isikhathi) kuseyindawo entsha yocwaningo, okusho ukuthi kuningi abacwaningi abangakuthola ngomthelela wako nokuthi kuvela kanjani kubantu abaphethwe yikho. Umbono we-psychogenealogy wethulwa ngu-Anne Ancelin Schützenberger, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseFrance, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nezemfundo. “Uma etshelwa iqiniso, ingane ihlale inombono ngendaba yayo. Leli qiniso liyakha ”. Kodwa, emindenini, akuwona wonke amaqiniso amahle ukukhuluma. Imicimbi ethile idluliswa kuthulekile kodwa ikwazi ukungena kuquqaba lomndeni. Futhi siye sahlushwa ukuhlupheka okudlule kungelashwa izizukulwane ngezizukulwane. Amapotimende esiwaphathayo. Ukuzama ukuqonda umlando womndeni, u-Anne Ancelin Schützenberger wayenombono wokudala isayensi, i-psychogenealogy.

Ukufunda ngokuhlukumezeka kwesizukulwane kungasisiza ukuthi sibone ukuthi izehlakalo zesikhathi esidlule esabelana ngazo ziqhubeka kanjani nokuba nomthelela ezimpilweni zethu. Ngokusekelwe ocwaningweni lwe-genosociogram, uhlobo lwesihlahla sozalo olunwetshelwe ezenzakalweni ezibalulekile (ezinhle noma ezimbi) zomndeni womuntu futhi okwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuhlela umlando nezibopho zomndeni, ukuhlaziya okudlulele kwezizukulwane okufunwa okhokho bomuntu okutholwayo kube nemiphumela lesi sakamuva kuze kube seqophelweni lokubangela iziyaluyalu ngokungazi, kungaba ezengqondo noma ngokomzimba.

Enye yemibhalo yokuqala eyaziwayo yalesi simo yanyatheliswa ngo-1966 udokotela wengqondo waseCanada u-Vivian M. Rakoff, MD, lapho yena nethimba lakhe bephawula amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka kwengqondo kubantwana abasinda ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe. Izingane zalaba abasindile ezazisezimeni eziphile kahle ezingokwengqondo zaba sengozini ephakeme ebonakala ingenakuchazwa yokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, okushintshile ukuzethemba, izinkinga zokulawula ukuziphatha, kanye nezinkinga zolaka, okwaphumela ekubeni futhi kubonwe kubazukulu babasinda ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe.

Ngisho nasesizukulwaneni sesithathu, laba bantu babika imizwa yokwesaba ukushushiswa, ukuhlukaniswa nabanye, izinkinga zokugwema kanye namaphupho amabi njengabazali babo nogogo nomkhulu, nakuba bengazange. awudingi ukusinda noma yini. Kusukela kule mibhalo, labo abasemkhakheni wokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo baye baqondisa ucwaningo lwabo encazelweni engase ibe khona yalesi simo.

Noma ubani angathinteka ekuhlukumezekeni kwe-transgenerational futhi kubalulekile ukukucabangela futhi akuguqule kahle ukuze akugweme esizukulwaneni esilandelayo. Kepha ungayithola kanjani iminonjana yokuhlukumezeka okungajwayelekile? Akudingekile ukwenza isihlahla somndeni wakho. Kuyifa ngakho-ke kumele kubonakale empilweni yakho. Ngakho-ke zibuze ukuthi ibuphi ubungozi bomndeni wakho, izingxabano eziphindelelayo, ikakhulukazi ukugula okuvamile. Ingabe bukhona ubunzima obukhona empilweni yakho obusindayo, obunzima kakhulu kuwena ukuba ubunqobe kunokwabanye, futhi obungachazeki ngolwazi lwakho? Ngokwezinto eziphilayo, zibuze ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nengcindezi yakho, ingabe ungumuntu onamazinga okucindezeleka ahambisana nalokho okwenzekayo? Noma ingabe une-hyperactivity, ukuthambekela kokukhathazeka, i-hypervigilance noma ngisho nokuthambekela kokucindezeleka? Bona ukuthi i-modus operandi yakho ingakutshela kanjani mayelana nokuba khona okungenzeka kokwanda kokucindezeleka.

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nabanye bayafunda futhi ukuthi imiphumela ebuhlungu ingadluliselwa kanjani ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Rachel Yehuda, PhD, umqondisi we-Division of Traumatic Stress Studies e-Icahn School of Medicine e-Mount Sinai eNew York, uhlola ukudluliselwa kwe-epigenetic ngokuqondile, kanye ne-epigenetics isethi yokuguqulwa komzimba. ukubonakaliswa kofuzo ngaphandle kokulandelana kwe-DNA kwalesi sakhi kushintshwa. Muva nje, iqembu libheke ngqo izinguquko ze-epigenetic ezizukulwaneni eziningi. Ocwaningweni oluqhathanisa amazinga e-methylation kwabangu-32 abasinda ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe kanye nezingane zabo ezingama-22 kulezo zokulawulwa okuhambisanayo, bathole ukuthi abasinda ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe nezingane zabo banezinguquko endaweni efanayo yesakhi sofuzo esifanayo - i-FKBP5, iphrotheni elinegciwane elixhunyaniswe ne-PTSD nokudangala, ngokungafani nezihloko zokulawula.

Njengabo bonke abantu, uzuze njengefa izinto ezinhle kanti ezinye ezincane. Bamukele njengoba benjalo. Ukusuka lapho, bona ukuthi ungenzani ngakho. Kunomsebenzi omuhle kulokhu kudluliselwa kokuhlukumezeka. Lelifa ungalithatha njengomyalezo ovela kokhokho bakho. Kukuwe ukubona ukuthi ucabanga kanjani ukuthi ukudluliselwa komndeni okuthile kukwenza uphinde noma amaphethini okungqubuzana okukhona, noma ubunzima be-metabolic kanye ne-somatic.

Qala, beka phambili umsebenzi wokudambisa uhlelo lwezinzwa ngoba sazi ngombono we-metabolic ukuthi i-epigenetics iwubufakazi bokuthi singaguqula ukuphinda kusebenze komzimba wethu ukugcizelela ukukuvumelanisa nemvelo yethu. Kepha kungenzeka uthole usizo.

Ukwelashwa okulandisayo

Kuhlanganisa ukwenza umuntu akhulume ngokukhululekile ngempilo yakhe. Umelaphi ubhala phansi konke, abuze imininingwane. Ekugcineni, kwakhiwa incwadi kusuka ekuzalweni kwesiguli kuze kube manje impilo. Lokhu kuyamphoqa ukuba abone izici ezibalulekile zokuphila kwakhe okungenzeka ukuthi akazinakanga.

Enye yezinzuzo eziningi zalolu hlobo lokwelashwa ukuthi ayisusi yonke inkinga kepha iphoqa umuntu ukuthi ayibhale kabusha ukuze akwazi ukuyinqoba. Inkumbulo yezehlakalo ezibuhlungu ibhalwa kabusha futhi iguqulwe ibe inkumbulo ehambisanayo, engacindezeli.