Izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthola isisindo

Noma yiziphi izinkinga ngesisindo ziphakama, okokuqala, ekhanda lethu, ngiqinisekile uMikhail Moiseevich Ginzburg. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uprofesa, udokotela wesayensi yezokwelapha kanye nomqondisi we-Samara Research Institute of Dietetics and Dietetics, wanikela iminyaka eminingi ekutadisheni lolu daba futhi wafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ezimweni eziningi izinkinga ngesisindo esiningi ziqala ekhanda.

1. Ukucindezeleka kusenhliziyweni yakho konke

Ngonyaka Omusha, silwela ukuqedela umsebenzi esiwuqalile futhi silethe konke ekupheleleni: thenga izipho, yenza ukuthula nezihlobo, sicela umamezala, sicela abaphathi ... Futhi asiboni ukuthi sigqoka. amahlombe ethu kakhulu kunalokho abangakuthwala. Ngakho-ke, ukuzishayela ekucindezelekeni. Ngokusho kodokotela, lena yindlela ukungqubuzana okucashile (okungaqondakali) kuqala phakathi kwezinto esizilindele kanye neqiniso elizungezile.

Okufanele ngikwenze: uma isimo sokungqubuzana sivele, udinga ukuzama ukusamukela noma ukusishintsha sibe ngcono. Isibonelo, awukwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nezihlobo zakho, uhlala ucasukile futhi uthukuthele. Bonisa umlingiswa, yehlisa umoya, ungaphenduli kumazwana, noma okungcono nakakhulu, phendula ngamahlaya. Ngokushesha lapho ukukhathazeka kuncipha, isisindo sibuyela esimweni esijwayelekile. Ngisho ngaphandle kokudla nokuzivocavoca.

2. Isisindo sincike kumlingiswa

Abantu bayashesha ukucasuka futhi bazolile, banolaka futhi bayavumelana nezimo, abaphumuli futhi abasebenzi. Iphrofayili ehlukile yezengqondo iphinde isho isisindo esihlukile. Ngokwesibonelo, ezinomsindo maningi amathuba okuba zibe mncane, futhi eziqinile, ezinesizotha zivame ukukhuluphala. Kodwa ungajahi ukususa umthwalo wakho ebuvilalini bakho. U-Mikhail Ginzburg ucacisa ukuthi izinhlelo ezibonisa ukuvumelana (futhi lokhu kungamandla nokuhamba) kukhona komunye nomunye wethu, ukuthi nje abancane abasebenzisa kaningi, futhi abanamafutha kancane kancane.

Okufanele ngikwenze: funda ukuhamba. Futhi uma kunzima, kwenze ngokusebenzisa "Angifuni".

3. Isisindo emphakathini sengeza isisindo emzimbeni

Imvamisa, abantu abasezikhundleni zobuholi ngokunganaki bafuna ukuzinika isisindo emphakathini, kodwa empeleni bathola amakhilogremu esisindo engeziwe. Imibukiso yokusebenza kwengqondo lapho umuntu eziqonda kangcono, uhlobo lwezenzo zakhe, kuvumelana futhi kuzolile emphefumulweni wakhe, kuba nempilo enhle, ephumelela kakhulu futhi ....

4. Ukudla njengekhambi lokukhathazeka

Abantu basabela ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene ekukhathazekeni. Abanye abazitholi indawo, bagijima besuka ekhoneni baye kwelinye (ukusebenza ngokomzimba kuyadambisa). Abanye baqala ukudla okuningi (ukuzola kokudla), futhi noma yimuphi umzamo wokulandela ukudla kulesi simo wandisa ukukhathazeka futhi ngokushesha uholela ekuqhekekeni.

Okufanele ngikwenze: Hambisa ngaphezulu, hamba, vivinya umzimba. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuzosiza ukunciphisa ukukhula kwesisindo futhi, mhlawumbe, kubangele ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo esithile. Kodwa kungaba okuqine kakhulu ukumfundisa ukuba angakhathazeki kancane.

5. “Ngizoqale nginciphe, futhi ngemva kwalokho ngiyophulukisa …”

Abaningi bethu bahlobanisa ukuqina kwethu noma amahloni nokukhuluphala kanye nokuzabalaza ukwehlisa isisindo. Silandela ukudla, senze izivivinyo, sivakashele izindawo zokuzivocavoca. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, sihlala sicindezelwe futhi sinamahloni. Ukube besiziphatha ngendlela ekhombisayo (izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi - ngokusobala), ukuncipha kwesisindo bekuyohamba ngokushesha okukhulu.

Okufanele ngikwenze: isizathu esivamile sokuvinjelwa ukuzethemba okungazinzile, inkimbinkimbi yokungabi nalutho. Uma ukwazi ukuyisusa noma okungenani uyinciphise, umuntu uyashintsha, aqale ukugqoka ngokugqamile, okujabulisayo ... futhi anciphe ngokushesha okukhulu. Ngendlela, le mfanelo ezuziwe ivikela ngokwengeziwe ekuzuzeni isisindo.

Ngakho, into eyinhloko kumuntu ukuzwa ukuzwana, okusho ukuzola. Ungakufeza kanjani lokhu?

Indlela yokwehlisa umoya futhi ulahlekelwe isisindo

Zama ukubhekisisa labo abaseduze kwakho bese uphendula imibuzo elula: ingabe uthanda lokhu noma lowo muntu noma awumthandi, ungaya kohlola naye noma cha. Lalela ngokucophelela imizwa yakho, intuition cishe ayilokothi isikhohlise.

Izimpendulo zizokusiza ukuthi uthole indlela yokunqoba lokhu noma lowo muntu nokuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukungqubuzana naye. Kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, ngenkathi sixazulula lezi zinkinga, siyabandakanyeka futhi sihlale sisesimweni esihle. Futhi lapho sinaka kakhulu abanye abantu, sizama ukuzuza ukunaka kwabo, ukwenza ukuxhumana kukhululeke, ngokushesha sizolahlekelwa isisindo.

Izinkinga zokulahlekelwa isisindo zivame ukuvela lapho kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwencazelo yokuzivikela kulokhu kugcwala okunciphisa ukukhathazeka. Uma le ncazelo ingabonakala, khona-ke inkinga ixazululwa kalula. Nokho, akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwenza umsebenzi onjalo uwedwa. Ngezinye izikhathi uchwepheshe kufanele asebenze ne-subconscious - isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma i-psychotherapist.

Lapho ukubamba iqhaza kochwepheshe kufiseleka ngokukhethekile

1. Udla njalo ukuze uzole. Ukuzama ukudla kwandisa ukukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka.

2. Empilweni yakho kunesimo esithile esiqondile, esiphazamisayo, ukungqubuzana emsebenzini noma ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, isibonelo, ebuhlotsheni nabathandekayo.

3. Ukuzuza kwesisindo kwenzeka ngemva kokushintsha kwendlela yokuphila: umshado, ukuthuthela kwelinye idolobha, njalonjalo.

4. Ujwayele ukulahlekelwa isisindo, kodwa, ulahlekelwe isisindo, ngokuzumayo wazizwa "ungekho endaweni", kwaba nzima ukuxhumana nabangane, futhi kwavela umuzwa wesizungu. Ukuncipha kwesisindo akulethanga izinguquko ezilindelekile empilweni yakho.

5. Ulahlekelwa isisindo njalo, futhi ngempumelelo impela. Kodwa njengoba uke wehla kancane emzimbeni, ukhuluphala ngokushesha futhi.

6. Bekungemnandi kuwena ukufunda ezinye izigaba zalesi sihloko futhi ufuna ukuthwesa umbhali ngokuthile.

7. Awukwazi ukuzichaza ngokucacile ukuthi kungani udinga ukwehlisa isisindo. Awukwazi ukuklelisa izinzuzo ezintathu noma ezine ezizonikezwa ukuncipha. Imibono ifika engqondweni, njengokuthi: ngena kuma-jeans angonyaka odlule noma ufakazele abathandekayo ukuthi wenza kahle ngokuzimisela.

8. Uzizwa uphoqelekile enkampanini yabantu ongabazi futhi uzame ukuhlala buthule eceleni, ukuze kungabikho muntu okunaka ngempela. Uhlobanisa lokhu nokukhuluphala futhi uhlehlise ukuziphatha okucacile esikhathini esingemva kokuncipha kwesisindo ("uma ngehlisa isisindo, ngizophila").