Okuqukethwe
Ingabe uthando oluphelele lukhona? Uma kunjalo, lokho ku-a indodakazi kuyise. Kunconywa, kunconywe, kunconywe upapa uphelele futhi senza amehlo akhe athambe kusukela embelekweni! Thola izimpendulo zemibuzo yakho mayelana ubuhlobo phakathi kukababa nendodakazi yakhe.
Ingabe ubaba usabela ngendlela ehlukile uma enentombazane noma umfana?
Kuhlukile kuwo wonke amadoda, konke kuncike ebuntwaneni bakhe. Abanye bacabanga ukuthi bazoba ubaba ongcono womfana kanti abanye bayoba ngcono ubaba ngendodakazi.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ngemva kokuhlolwa kwe-ultrasound, ubonakala edumazekile ngokulindela intombazane, akusho ukuthi ngeke abe ubaba omuhle. Ubaba uzobunjwa ngendlela ehlukile kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iyintombazane noma umfana. Yingakho singeke sazi ukuthi sizoba muphi umzali size sibe nengane.
Kuthiwani ngobaba wesikhathi esizayo ofuna ngokuphelele umfana?
Kulokhu, kufanele azibuze ubuhlobo bayo nomuntu wesifazane. Ngokuqondene nendoda eyofuna amantombazane kuphela, lokho kuyindaba yokwesaba: ingabe ingayesaba imbangi?
Kodwa akuvamile ukubona ukweqisa okunjalo. Akungabazeki ukuthi namuhla, umuntu uveza imizwelo yakhe ngokwengeziwe.
Yini i-Electra complex?
Ithiyori ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20 ngudokotela wengqondo uCarl Gustav Jung, Electra complex lilingana nodumile I-Oedipus complex. Izovela kwamanye amantombazane aneminyaka ephakathi kuka-4 no-6. Intombazane encane ingakwazi ke ukuthuthukisa a imizwa yothando ebhekise kuyise. Lokhu kuholela ekuziphatheni kothando olunempahla kanye nomona ngakulowo umama kufaka phakathi.
Ingabe isithombe esizuzisa kakhulu sabesifazane sinomthelela ebudlelwaneni bobaba nendodakazi?
Yebo, lokho kuyasiza. Namuhla, abesifazane bayafunda, benza imisebenzi ezuzisayo, bangagcina amagama abo ngemva komshado, futhi bawadlulisele nasezinganeni.
Nokho, lesi akusona isizathu kuphela. Kukhona futhi yonke imibono "esiyiphethe": intombazane ithanda kakhulu, ithanda uyise, ngamafuphi, imnandi kuye. Kodwa qaphela, kunengozi uma engayibeki imingcele kulo mncane ozozama ukumkhanga kusukela ezinyangeni ezingu-18-20!