“Ngizizwa sengathi ngi-ovulating. Ngabuka uCécile, umkami, ngokungakholwa. Besibuyile emtholampilo esikhumulweni sezindiza saseMadrid, amahora ama-4 ngemuva kokufakwa kwakhe. Wayebukeka eqiniseka kakhulu ngaye kangangokuthi nami ngazizwa kukuhle. Wayeqinisile. Ukufakwa kwembewu kwakusebenze okokuqala. Kwasithathe ibanga elide ukufika lapho, thina mathupha nanjengombhangqwana.
Ngahlangana no-Cécile eminyakeni eyishumi nanye edlule. Umncane kunami ngeminyaka eyisithupha. Kwase kuphele amasonto amabili sindawonye, lapho engibuza ukuthi ngiyabafuna yini abantwana. Ngaphendula yebo ngokuzenzakalelayo. Savumela ukuba kudlule iminyaka embalwa, kwathi lapho ngisondela eminyakeni engamashumi amane, ngezwa kuphuthuma ukwenza kanjalo. Ngokushesha kakhulu, kwaphakama umbuzo othi “ubaba”. Sacabanga ukuthi, ukuze kamuva ingane yethu ikwazi ukuthola imvelaphi yayo, yenze “ikhono*” lokuzalanisa nomnikeli owaziwayo. Kodwa lapho sihlangana nabangase babe ngabanikelayo, sabona ukuthi kwakungalungile ngathi ukuhilela umuntu wesithathu.
Ngemva kwalokho, asizange sikhulume ngayo unyaka nesigamu. Futhi ngolunye usuku ekuseni, ngaphambi nje kokuya emsebenzini, endlini yokugezela, uCécile wangitshela: “Ngifuna ukuba nengane futhi ngifuna ukuyithwala… ngaphambi kokuba ngihlanganise iminyaka engu-35. Usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa lwaba ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva. Ngaphendula: “Kuhle lokho, ngifuna ingane efana nawe. Iphrojekthi yethulwa. Kodwa lapho ukuya? I-France ayizange ikuvumele imibhangqwana yabesifazane. Emazweni aseNyakatho lapho abaxhasi bengaziwa khona, ambalwa amadoda avumayo ukuhlangana nezingane ngenxa yomnikelo wabo. Sihambe ngomnikeli ongaziwa. Sakhetha iSpain. Ngemva kokuqokwa kokuqala kwe-Skype, kwakudingeka senze izivivinyo, kodwa udokotela wami wezifo zabesifazane ngaleso sikhathi wenqaba ukusilandela. Sathola omunye, onomusa omkhulu, owavuma ukuhamba nathi.
Lapho ngifika eMadrid, ngacabanga ukuthi ngisefilimini ye-Almodóvar: zonke izisebenzi ezinakekelayo, ezinobungane kakhulu, zikhuluma isiFulentshi ngendlela yeSpanishi futhi zikhuluma nawe. Ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kokuqala, ezinsukwini eziyi-12 kamuva, kwakungenayo. Kodwa sazitshela ukuthi: sizokwenza enye kusasa. Futhi ngakusasa, lapho sibona ama-bar amabili evela, sathula ngendlela eyinqaba. Besazi zisuka ukuthi isisebenzile. Ngenyanga yesine ngikhulelwe, lapho ngithi angikhethi, lapho ngazi ukuthi yintombazane encane, kwangiphatha kabi. Umthetho womshado wabo bonke abantu wawusuphasiswe cishe iminyaka emibili. Ngakho, emasontweni amathathu ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwami, ngashada noCécile ehholo ledolobha elisesigodini se-18, phambi kwemikhaya yethu nabangane. Ukulethwa kuhambe kahle kakhulu. UCléo, kusukela azalwa, wayemuhle futhi efana nomama wakhe. Ngesikhathi sokugeza kokuqala, ngemva kwamahora angu-12, lapho umhlengikazi esibuza ukuthi siyalifuna yini elinye, ngathi: “Hhayi bo! “Futhi uCécile, ngesikhathi esifanayo, naphezu kwe-episiotomy yakhe nezinyembezi zakhe, wababaza:” Yebo, kunjalo! “.
Kwakuyimpi ende. Ngaba nezingxabano eziningi. Ngangicabanga ukuthi sengimdala kakhulu, ngase ngihlanganisa iminyaka engu-45. Futhi kwaba ukucindezeleka komkami, owayefuna izingane ezimbili, okwanquma ukuba ngivume kuye. Saphindela eSpain, futhi saphinde sasebenza okokuqala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sakwazi ukusebenzisa umnikeli ofanayo, esasigcine kuye isampula. Lapho sithola ukuthi kwakungumfanyana, sazizwa saneliseke kakhulu. Ekugcineni umfana omncane ozoqedela isizwe sethu sabesifazane! Futhi samnika igama lokuqala elithi Nino, esasicabange ngalo kusukela ekuqaleni kumfana omncane.
I-PMA yabo bonke izokwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuphuma ebuzenzisi bamanje, kanye nokunikeza wonke umuntu amathuba afanayo. Namuhla, abesifazane abangashadile noma ongqingili abafuna ukuba nengane kufanele babe nesabelomali sokwenza kanjalo. Ngenhlanhla, izinto ziyaqhubeka, njengoba maduze nje, umthethosivivinywa omayelana nokwandiswa kwemishanguzo yegciwane lengculaza kubo bonke abesifazane uzokwethulwa ePhalamende. Lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi kube semthethweni isifiso sezingane zezithandani ezithandana nobulili obufanayo kanye nabesifazane abangashadile emehlweni omphakathi jikelele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba sazi, uma umthetho usuphasisiwe, inkulumo-mpikiswano ayibe isaba khona. Lokhu kungaba yindlela yokulwa nezingozi zokushiywa ngaphandle kanye nobunzima bezingane ezithintekayo ekwamukeleni umehluko wabo. “
* Isidoda somnikeli sijovwa ngomjovo (ngaphandle kwenaliti) ngqo esithweni sangasese ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa kwamaqanda.
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