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Kungani ingane yami idinga umuntu omdala ozodlala
Wazuza ngokuba khona unomphela komuntu omdala. Kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe, ubelokhu ejwayele ukunikezwa imisebenzi nokuba nomuntu azodlala naye: umzanyana wakhe, umngane, umhlengikazi wasenkulisa…. Esikoleni, kuyafana, umzuzu nomzuzu wosuku, umsebenzi uyahlelwa. Lapho efika ekhaya, uzizwa engakhululekile lapho kufanele adlale yedwa! Enye incazelo: akazange afunde ukuhlala yedwa ekamelweni lakhe futhi azihlolele amathoyizi akhe eyedwa. Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi awumniki kakhulu emhlane wakhe, noma ukuqondisa kakhulu: “Kufanele ufake umbala wendlovu ngokumpunga, gqokisa unodoli wakho kule ngubo, qaphela usofa…”. Ekugcineni, mhlawumbe wayephucwe unina kakhulu. Ingane ngokuvamile ingaba nomuzwa wokungazethembi oyivimbela ukuba ihlole izwe langaphandle futhi ithathe ukuzimela okuncane.
Thembela ingane yami ukuthi uzoyifundisa ukudlala yodwa
Kusukela eminyakeni engu-3 ubudala, ingane iyakwazi ukudlala yedwa futhi ingakwazi ukubekezelela isizungu esithile; lesi yisikhathi lapho esebenzisa wonke umhlaba wakhe wemicabango. Angachitha amahora enza onodoli bakhe noma imifanekiso yakhe inkhulumomphendvulwano futhi ahlanganise zonke izinhlobo zezindaba, inqobo nje uma engakwenza ngenkululeko ephelele, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Lokhu akulula ukwamukela ngaso sonke isikhathi ngoba kuthathela kuwe ukuthi uke wahlanganisa iqiniso lokuthi angaphila ngaphandle kwakho futhi ngaphandle kokuba ngaphansi kweso lakho njalo. Zama ukuzenza uqiniseke ukuthi kuphephile ukuhlala wedwa ekamelweni lakhe: cha, ingane yakho ngeke ngempela ukugwinya plasticine!
Isinyathelo sokuqala: fundisa ingane yami ukudlala yodwa eduze kwami
Qala ngokumchazela ukuthi singadlala eduze komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokuhlala sindawonye futhi sicele ukuthatha incwadi yakhe yemibala kanye ne-Lego yakhe eduze kwakho. Ukuba khona kwakho kuzomqinisekisa. Ngokuvamile, enganeni, akukhona kakhulu ukubamba iqhaza komuntu omdala emdlalweni okukhona njengokusondela kwayo. Ungaqhubeka nebhizinisi lakho ube ugade ingane yakho. Uzoziqhenya ngokukukhombisa lokho akuzuzile eyedwa, ngaphandle kosizo lwakho. Ungangabazi ukumhalalisela futhi umbonise ukuziqhenya kwakho “ukuba nomfana omkhulu – noma intombazane enkulu – ekwaziyo ukudlala yodwa”.
Isinyathelo sesibili: yeka ingane yami idlale yodwa ekamelweni layo
Okokuqala qiniseka ukuthi igumbi livikeleke kahle (ngaphandle kwezinto ezincane engazigwinya, isibonelo). Chaza ukuthi umfana okhulayo uyakwazi ukuba yedwa ekamelweni lakhe. Ungamkhuthaza ukuthi athande ukuhlala ekamelweni lakhe ngokumbeka ekhoneni lakhe, azungezwe amathoyizi awathandayo, kuyilapho eshiya umnyango wegumbi lakhe uvuliwe. Umsindo wendlu uzomqinisa idolo. Mfonele noma uyombona njalo ukuze uzwe ukuthi ukahle yini, ukuthi udlala kahle yini. Uma ebonakala ekhungathekile, gwema ukumbuyisela eKapla yakhe, kukuye ukuthi athole ukuthi ufunani. Ubungakwandisa ukuncika kwakhe kuwe. Mkhuthaze nje. "Ngiyakwethemba, nginesiqiniseko sokuthi uzozitholela umqondo omuhle wokuzibamba wena". Kule minyaka, ingane iyakwazi ukudlala yodwa imizuzu engu-20 kuya kwengu-30, ngakho kujwayelekile ukuthi ime ukuze izokubona. umoya wokuzijabulisa, ngilungisa ukudla ”.
Ukudlala yedwa, yini isithakazelo enganeni?
Kungokuvumela ingane ukuthi ihlole amathoyizi ayo kanye negumbi layo iyodwa lapho ivunyelwa khona ukuthi idale imidlalo emisha, isungule izindaba futhi ithuthukise umcabango wayo ikakhulukazi. Ngokuvamile, usungula abalingiswa ababili, yena kanye nomlingisi womdlalo, ngokulandelana: okuhle noma okubi, okusebenzayo noma okungenzi lutho, lokhu kusiza ukuhlela ukucabanga kwakhe, ukuveza nokubona imizwa yakhe ephikisanayo ngenkathi eqiniseka ukuthi uhlala eyinkosi. womdlalo, umhleli omkhulu walo mcimbi owakhiwa nguyena. Ngokudlala yodwa, ingane ifunda ukusebenzisa amagama ukwakha imihlaba ecatshangelwayo. Ngaleyo ndlela angakwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba ukungabi nalutho, ukubekezelela ukungabikho kanye nesizungu asenze sibe umzuzu onezithelo. Leli “khono lokuba wedwa” futhi ngaphandle kokukhathazeka liyomkhonza ukuphila kwakhe konke.