Ukuzalwa komntwana kuyisiphithiphithi. Kuphinde kube wukufika kwezibalo ezintsha phakathi kwabazali abasebancane. Indlela yokunakekela umbhangqwana wakho ngemva kokufika kwengane? Nawa amanye amathiphu awusizo wenguquko ebushelelezi.

Ukufika komntwana, ikakhulukazi uma kungokokuqala, kungabeka umbhangqwana ovivinyweni. Abazali ngezinye izikhathi badidwa yile ndlela entsha yokuphila. Ngempela, umntwana udinga isikhathi esiningi nokunakwa. Umama omusha uyalulama kancane kancane ngemva kokubeletha kuyilapho ubaba ezama ukuthola indawo yakhe. Kulesi simo okwabelwana ngaso phakathi kokukhathala nemizwelo, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuthi umbhangqwana ungenziwa buthaka: asikho isidingo sokufuna injabulo ephelele.

Ukuze uzizwe ucindezelwe kancane ngobuningi bemisebenzi onayo, thuthukisa inhlangano yakho. Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, cabangela izidingo zengane yakho ukuze ugweme izimo "ezibucayi". Isibonelo, unganciphisa isici sokucindezeleka ngokugwema ukushoda kwama-diaper noma ubisi oluyimpuphu.

Uma ukwazi ukuzihlela njengombhangqwana, ukusiza omunye nomunye, khona-ke wonke umuntu uzozizwa ekhululekile futhi ngaleyo ndlela uzogwema ukungezwani. Umuzwa wokukhungatheka uvame kakhulu kubazali abasebasha ababona isikhathi sabo sokuphumula sincipha kakhulu. Ukusizana nawe wukuzivumela ukuthi uphumule ungenacala.

Ingane, ikakhulukazi ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila kwayo, ithatha cishe yonke indawo ekuphileni komshado. Ukuzivumela ukuba ukhungathekiswe yi-spiral yokuphila kwansuku zonke ngokushesha kuba lula kakhulu: kufanele ukwenze ngokwakho, ndawonye, ​​​​ukuqhubeka nokwenza umbhangqwana ube yigugu. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukubekela eceleni izikhathi ezithile ukuze niqhubeke nishintshana, nihlanganyele futhi nithulule isifuba komunye nomunye. Kunokuba ucabange ngaleli sonto elisekude lamaholide okulondoloza, zama ngangokunokwenzeka ukwenza isikhathi senu nobabili ngokushesha (uma ingane ilele embhedeni, isibonelo). Balekela izikrini futhi ugxile kakhulu kububele nokuthinta kothando.

Ngomntwana, ukuguqulwa kokuphila kukhulu, ngokuvamile kungaphezu kwalokho okwakucatshangwa abazali besikhathi esizayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Lokhu kungaholela ekukhathaleni okungenza abashadile bacasuke. Ukwehlukaniswa kwemisebenzi kuyisihloko esibucayi futhi lapho omunye wabalingani ezwakalisa isidingo sakhe sokuphumula nenkululeko, kungabhekwa njengobugovu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukucasuka kungavela kancane kancane. Yonke le mizwa ngezinye izikhathi ibonakaliswa ngamazwi okubulala, ukungezwani kwansuku zonke noma izimo eziphenduka inhlekelele. Ukugcina ukukhulumisana okunempilo kubalulekile lapho uba umzali, kuyasiza ukugwema ukucwila ebudlelwaneni obubi. Uyamazi umlingani wakho: ngokushesha nje lapho ubona ukholo olubi noma ukukhathala, thatha isinyathelo emuva futhi udambisa isimo ngamahlaya, ibanga, inkhulumomphendvulwano, ukuphulula ...

Ngemva kokubeletha, kuvamile ukuba omama abasanda kubeletha bangayiboni imizimba yabo. Isisu sihlala sivulekile izinyanga ezimbalwa, izitho zidinga isikhathi sokubuyela endaweni, i-episiotomy noma ingxenye yokuhlinzwa ingashiya izicubu ezibucayi. Akushiwo ukuthi konke ukunakwa komlingani kanye nezihlobo kushintshile kumfazi omuhle okhulelwe kuya kosanda kuzalwa. Kulo mongo, asikho isidingo sokuphoqelela ukubuya ngaphambi kwesikhathi kobulili obufana nobokuqala. Owesifazane udinga isikhathi esincane sokubuyisela umzimba wakhe, ukwamukela izinguquko nokuguqulwa; akukho okuthusayo ngalokhu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, indoda ingase izizwe inganakwa, ikhathele, futhi igxile ngokuphelele ezidingweni zomntwana. Lapho futhi, ungakhathazeki: kancane kancane uzokwenza isikhathi sesibopho sothando.

Kubonakala kungenakwenzeka phakathi nezinyanga zokuqala, njengoba ukufika komntwana kunamandla kakhulu. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho ingane iqala ukuzimela, ukuthi ulala ngokwesibonelo, ungakhohlwa ukwenza isikhathi sakho. Ukwelashwa ngobuhle nokuphila kahle, imihlangano nabangani bakho, ukufunda endaweni yokudlela, ukuhamba ngezinyawo okude noma imisebenzi yezemidlalo: umlingani ngamunye kufanele anakekele impilo yakhe yomuntu siqu ukuze alethe amandla amakhulu kubashadikazi. Ngeke nje uzizwe ungcono ngawe, kodwa futhi uzoba nezinto ezintsha ozokutshela zona kanye nokuhleka ozokwabelana ngakho, okuvela endaweni yonke engaphandle kwekhaya lakho.

Ukufika kwengane kumbhangqwana kushintsha yonke indlela yokuphila futhi kulula ukumuncwa impilo yansuku zonke enikezelwe enganeni. Ngezimiso ezimbalwa ezilula, ungagcina ilangabi lombhangqwana wakho liphila ekucushweni kwabo okusha. Izixhumanisi phakathi kwenu zizoqina nakakhulu: ubumbano, ukuhlonipha abanye, uzwela nokuphelelisana okuhle.