Okuqukethwe
Izingane ezingamahlongandlebe zaziyophumelela ngokwengeziwe ekuphileni kwazo kobuchwepheshe!
Ucwaningo lwakamuva lwaseMelika lwethula itshe lokugandaya echibini. Izingane ezinenkani zivame ukuphumelela emisebenzini yazo yobungcweti kunabanye. Lolu cwaningo lwenziwa iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-40 ngochwepheshe bezengqondo. Izingane ezingu-700 eziphakathi kweminyaka eyi-9 nengu-12 ubudala zalandelwa zaphinde zabonwa lapho sezikhulile. Ochwepheshe babenesithakazelo ikakhulukazi ezicini zomlingiswa wezingane ezisacathula ebuntwaneni bazo. Isiphetho: Izingane ezishaya indiva imithetho futhi zidelela igunya labazali cishe zizophumelela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi empilweni yazo yobungcweti. Izincazelo…
Ingane enenkani, ingane ephikisayo
“Konke kuncike ekutheni kushiwoni ngengane enenkani. Ingane ingakwazi ukuqhubeka nokwenqaba kwayo, ingalaleli ngokushesha futhi ingabi yingane ebizwa ngokuthi intukuthelo, enezinkinga zokuziphatha ezihambisanayo ", kuchaza uMonique de Kermadec, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kuqala. Ocwaningweni, abacwaningi baseMelika bahlaziye izici zomlingiswa ezilandelayo: ukubekezela, umuzwa wabo wokungabi nalutho, ukuzizwa noma cha, ubuhlobo negunya, ukuhlonipha imithetho, umthwalo wemfanelo nokulalela abazali. Isiphetho sababhali sibonisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwezingane ezinenkani noma ezingalaleli kanye nempilo engcono yobungcweti lapho sezikhulile. Kudokotela wezengqondo, ” ingane iphikisana ngokukhethekile nalokho ekubona njengesinqumo esingenangqondo. Ukwenqaba kwakhe-ke kuyindlela yakhe yokuthi: Nami ngifuna ukuba nelungelo lokunquma », Uyachaza. Izingane ezingalaleli yilabo abangeke baphendule isicelo somuntu omdala. “Eqinisweni, abanye abazali bagxila ekwaliwa kwengane yabo encane futhi ababoni ukuthi isicelo sabo asifike ngesikhathi futhi sidinga ukuba ibulawe ngokushesha. Umntwana ube esebekwa endaweni yento enganyakaziswa ngaphandle kokulungiselelwa, ngaphandle kokuba nokwenzeka kokulindela. Lona kanye iqiniso lokuvusa, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi sizoya epaki, lizokwamukelwa ngendlela ehlukile kuye ngokuthi ingane izoba nethuba lokuzilungiselela ngokwengqondo lokhu kuphuma noma cha, ”kusho uMonique de Kermadec.
Izingane ezigomelayo
Kuchwepheshe, izingane ezingalaleli, ngokuphikisana nomuntu omdala, ngaleyo ndlela zizoqinisekisa umbono wazo. “Ukwenqaba akusho ngempela ukungalaleli, kodwa isinyathelo sokuqala esiholela encazelweni. Umzali ovumela ingane ukuba ibone kusengaphambili ukuthi, ngemizuzu embalwa, kuyodingeka imise into ethile, ngaleyo ndlela imshiyele ukukhetha ukuma ukuze azilungiselele noma adlale imizuzu embalwa eyengeziwe, azi ukuthi isikhathi sizoba esilinganiselwe. Kulokhu, umzali akalilahli igunya lakhe futhi ushiyela ingane ukukhetha,” enezela.
Izingane zoqobo ezigqama esixukwini
“Lezi yizingane ezingangeni esikhunjeni esimisiwe. Banelukuluku lokwazi, bayathanda ukuhlola, ukuqonda, futhi badinga izimpendulo. Bangenqaba ukulalela ezimweni ezithile. Ilukuluku labo libavumela ukuba bathuthukise indlela yabo yokucabanga nokuphila. Njengoba bekhula, bazoqhubeka nokulandela indlela yabo futhi abanye bazobonakala bekulungele ukuphumelela ngoba bazokwazi ukuzimela futhi bazimele, ”kuchaza ukuncipha. Okuthokozisayo ngalolu cwaningo ukuthi lunikeza umbono omuhle ngezingane ezivame ukubhekwa ngokuthi “zimbi” ngoba zingalaleli. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichaza ukuthi abantu bokuqala, abagqama esixukwini empilweni yabo yobungcweti, yizingane eziye zazibonakalisa zisebancane.
“Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bazibuze ukuthi kungani ingane yabo inenkani. “Ngabe ngimbuza kakhulu?” Ingabe akunakwenzeka kuye? », Kubonisa uMonique de Kermadec. Abazali banamuhla bayakwazi ukuzenza balalelwe ngokusungula inkhulumomphendvulwano eyengeziwe, ukulalela nokushintshana nengane yabo. "Kunganele ukubuza umbuzo enganeni" kungani ungitshela ukuthi cha njalo, kwenzekani, awujabule? “. Lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo zingaba yinzuzo enkulu enganeni. “Uma ingane inenkinga yokusho ukuthi yini engalungile, umdlalo wokulingisa onamathoyizi athambile ungasiza ekubambeni izinkinga ezithinta imizwa futhi uvule isimo ngokuhleka. Ingane isheshe iqonde ukuthi uma i-plush yakhe ithi cha ngaso sonke isikhathi, umdlalo uyavinjwa ngokushesha, ”kuchaza yena.
Abazali abakhathalelayo
Kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umuntu omdala onomusa nguye oshiyela ingane ukukhetha, okungadingi ukuthi enze into enegunya. Ingane ingakwazi ukuveza imizwa yayo, iphinde iphikise, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke iyaqonda ukuthi kungani kufanele enze into enjalo nokuthi. “Ukubeka imingcele, ukuphoqelela isiyalo esithile kubalulekile. Nokho, lokhu akufanele kuguqule umzali abe umashiqela! Izimo ezithile zifanelwe ukuchazwa futhi ngaleyo ndlela ziqondwe kangcono futhi zamukelwe kangcono ingane. Isiyalo akuyona ibhalansi yamandla. Uma iziveza ngale ndlela ingane nayo izohehwa ukuthi iphendule ngokulingana,” kuchaza yena.
Ingane ehlubukayo kodwa izethemba
Ochwepheshe abaningi babonisa ukuthi abantu abahlubukayo ngokwemvelo banikezwa ukuzethemba okukhulu.. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukuhlubuka, kufanele ube nesimilo! Ochwepheshe bezokuthuthukiswa komuntu baye basho kaningi ukuthi lesi esinye sezici ezichaza kakhulu impumelelo empilweni yakho yomuntu siqu. Lesi yisizathu esenza ukuthi ochwepheshe balolu cwaningo baphethe ngokuthi izingane ngezinye izikhathi ezibizwa ngokuthi “amakhanda omnyuzi” cishe zizosinda kamuva.