Kunenganekwane esikweni lethu yokuthi abesifazane balahlekelwa uthando lwabo locansi ngemuva kweminyaka engama-40-45 futhi baqale impilo enesizungu, edabukisayo ngaphandle kwendoda. Kungani lokhu kungenjalo futhi kungani owesifazane ovuthiwe ekhanga kakhulu kunomusha?
Inkolo yobusha nobuhle, efakwe kithi ngokwenziwa yimboni yezemfashini, i-cosmetology kanye nendlela yokuphila enempilo, isho ngokuqondile izimo zengqondo ezinjalo. Kodwa qalani nxazonke. Abesifazane ngemva kweminyaka engu-40 bagqamile, banamandla, ba-sexy. Futhi eziningi zazo zinesathelayithi eduze. Owesifazane uba ngongathandeki ocansini kuphela uma engenantshisekelo ocansini. Uma ucansi lungekho phakathi kwamagugu akhe.
Iminyaka yobudala yokwehla ngokwengxenye kobulili besifazane yiminyaka engama-30-40. I-libido yowesifazane ikhula kuphela ngokukhula, kodwa kulesi sikhathi sokusebenza komphakathi lapho eminye imisebenzi ivela khona futhi awekho amandla anele okuphila kocansi okugcwele. Owesifazane uvame ukutholakala esebenza sekwephuzile ehhovisi noma enkundleni yokudlala enengane kunasembhedeni nendoda. Kodwa emva kwama-40 kufika i-heyday yesibili.
Kungani abesifazane abavuthiwe bekhanga kakhulu
Ku-40-45, owesifazane usevele efeze imisebenzi yakhe yezinto ezibonakalayo kanye nezenhlalakahle, uye wazibona njengomfazi nomama, futhi kancane kancane ubuyela emhlabeni wezinjabulo zenyama.
Kwabesifazane abasebasha, ubulili abuvamile ukuba yigugu ngokwako. Bafuna okungaphezu nje kozakwethu bocansi. Babhekene nomsebenzi wokushada, babe nezingane. Babeka okuningi okulindelwe okuhlobene nomlingani wabo. Futhi ubulili obuhle buvame ukuvinjelwa imicabango yentombazane mayelana nokuthi umlingani ukulungele yini ukushada nayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angakwazi ukondla umndeni.
Owesifazane ovuthiwe ubheka ubulili njengobubalulekile ngokwako. Udinga injabulo yenyama. Akukho okunye. Wayeseshadile kakade, njengomthetho. Ezimweni eziningi, usevele unezingane, isisekelo sezinto ezibonakalayo sakhiwe, abangane nomsebenzi wanelisa ezinye izidingo. Akukho okulindelwe okuhlobene okudala ukungezwani ebudlelwaneni bocansi. Ngakho-ke, impilo yocansi ingenzeka ngokucwiliswa ngokuphelele, ukuba khona kanye nokuzinikela.
2. Bathanda inkanuko kakhudlwana futhi bane-orgasmic
Ngokukhula kweminyaka, ubulili bowesifazane bukhula ngokukhula. Lokhu kuqinisekiswe yibo bonke abesifazane 45+ engixoxile nabo. Uma umuntu wesifazane eba nokuhlangenwe nakho okwengeziwe kwezocansi, yilapho ezwela kakhulu, yilapho eba ne-orgasmic eyengeziwe. Ubulili obuhle budinga ubukhona obugcwele okwamanje «lapha namanje», futhi lokhu kungcono kwabesifazane abavuthiwe ngenxa yokungabikho kwemicabango nokungezwani okungaphandle.
Abesifazane bayesaba ubudala, ngoba kuhlotshaniswa nokulahlekelwa okungenakugwemeka kobuhle bangaphandle. Isikhumba siyafiphala, imisipha ilahlekelwa ithoni, imibimbi ivela ebusweni, izinwele ziba mpunga. Bacabanga ukuthi ngokulahleka kobuhle bazoncipha.
Baphinde bakhathazeke kakhulu ngezenzakalo eziholele ekubukeni kwamaphutha angaphandle - izingozi, ukusebenza. Futhi ngokuvamile, ngenxa ye-inferiority complex, bona ngokwabo bayenqaba ukuya ocansini.
Angakwazi ukudlala ngothando, ukuyenga ngomlomo noma ngokungakhulumi, athathe isinyathelo kuqala ocansini
Ngifuna ukukuqinisekisa. Akuwona wonke umuntu "othanda ngamehlo abo." Okubonwayo kuphela. Kukhona futhi ama-kinesthetics "abathanda isikhumba", izinzwa ezithintekayo zibalulekile kubo. Kukhona abantu abazwayo "abathanda ngezindlebe zabo", futhi kukhona abantu abakhangwa yiphunga.
La madoda ngeke akwehlise inani ngenxa yemibimbi noma i-cellulite. Bayikhathalela kakhulu indlela ohogela ngayo, ukuthi usabela kanjani lapho uthinta noma uthintwa, noma ukuthi izwi lakho lizwakala kanjani.
Uma indoda inazo zonke izinzwa ezisebenzayo, ingabazisa kakhulu ubulili bowesifazane ovuthiwe. Kodwa ngamadoda anjalo esiwabiza ngokuthi a-sexy futhi afuna ukuba ozakwethu.
3. Banentshisekelo eyengeziwe, isifiso kanye nesinyathelo sokuqala
Owesifazane ovuthiwe unokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi ekuphileni. Wayesezimweni ezahlukene, wenza amaphutha, wafinyelela iziphetho. Ikakhulukazi usezixazulule izinkinga nemikhawulo yakhe. Ngakho-ke, ekuziphatheni kwakhe ngokobulili kunenkululeko eyengeziwe kanye namahloni amancane. Iveza ngokuqondile izidingo nezifiso. Angakwazi ukudlala ngothando, ukuyenga ngomlomo noma ngokungakhulumi, athathe isinyathelo kuqala ocansini. Futhi ukuziphatha kwakhe ekuthintaneni ngokocansi kungaphezulu «kwesilwane», mahhala futhi ngokwemvelo.
Iqoqo elikhulu lamamodeli okuziphatha kocansi limnikeza amathuba amaningi okuba abe yimfuneko futhi abonakale kwezocansi, kanye nokuthola umlingani ofanelekayo wocansi ukuze abe nobudlelwano obuvumelanayo, obujabulisayo.
4. Banenkululeko eyengeziwe ekukhetheni abalingani.
Inkululeko yangaphakathi nengaphandle, kanye neqiniso lokuthi isezingeni eliphezulu kwezocansi, ivumela owesifazane oneminyaka engu-45+ ukuthi acabangele amadoda kusukela eminyakeni engu-25 ubudala njengabangane abangaba abalingani bocansi kuze kube yilapho indoda igcina amandla.
Ngokuvamile imibhangqwana ihlukana ngemva kokuba abashadile sebefinyelele iminyaka engu-40-45. Isizathu esivame kakhulu izinkinga ngempilo yocansi. Ngezinye izikhathi amadoda aya kwabesifazane abasebasha. Ngokuvamile, amakhosikazi aya emadodeni amancane.
Njengesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ngilalela izindaba eziningi zamaklayenti futhi ngazi izimo eziningi lapho intombi eyimfihlo yendoda indala ngeminyaka engu-10–20 kunomkakhe kanye naye. Isizathu sisemijikelezweni yebhayoloji yabesilisa nabesifazane.
Ucansi luyisiteshi onikeza ngaso isithandwa sakho uthando lwakho futhi uluthole. Ucansi wumnyakazo wempilo
Ubulili bowesilisa bufinyelela phezulu phakathi kweminyaka engama-25 no-30 ubudala. Izinga eliphakeme lobulili besifazane lingaphambi nje kokuya esikhathini eminyakeni engama-45-55. Ngakho-ke, umlingani wontanga ngezinye izikhathi uyeka ukwanelisa owesifazane ovuthiwe ngokocansi, futhi uthola umlingani osemusha osezingeni lakhe le-libido liphakeme njengelakhe.
Uma ukukhanga kwangaphandle kowesifazane kubalulekile kumuntu, ulahlekelwa isithakazelo sobulili kumlingani oneminyaka efanayo neminyaka yobudala futhi athole owesifazane omncane. Kodwa ngokuvamile, nakuba izinga lobulili bendoda engu-45-50 nowesifazane oneminyaka engu-25 licishe lifane, lisephansi kunelowesifazane oneminyaka engu-45-50 nomlingani wakhe osemusha.
5. Bavuthiwe ngokomqondo
Ucansi luxhumene ngokungenakuhlukaniswa nobudlelwano ngokujwayelekile, nemizwa yabalingani. Owesifazane osekhulile ngeminyaka futhi ovuthiwe ngokwengqondo, ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile, udala ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo. Unokuqonda okwengeziwe, ukwamukelwa, ukuthethelelwa, umusa, uthando. Futhi isizinda esijwayelekile somzwelo sobudlelwano bocansi sibaluleke kakhulu.
Yonke imingcele isemakhanda ethu. Abanye besifazane bathi: “Ngingayitholaphi indoda elungile? Abekho." Kodwa endodeni, ubulili abubalulekile kangako kunowesifazane. Ngokuvamile qaphela ukuthi amadoda akubuka kanjani, aphendule ekuncomeni, ungachithi ngokushesha imizamo yokwazana.
Bheka indoda ephambi kwakho, uyizwe. Baphinde bafuna umlingani ofanelekayo ocansini futhi bajabule kakhulu uma bemthola.
"Uma kwenzeka iphutha, khona-ke uhamba sengathi umbozwe uqweqwe lukashukela," umngane, owesifazane oneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-45 wokubukeka okungajwayelekile, wangitshela muva nje. Ukuqondana ocansini kuyisihluthulelo senjabulo kwezinye izici zobudlelwano.
Awekho amahloni ekuboniseni ubulili bakho. Ucansi luyisiteshi onikeza ngaso umlingani wakho uthando lwakho futhi wamukele uthando lwakhe, lapho nishintshana khona amandla. Ucansi wumnyakazo wempilo.