Beka izicathulo zabo, basize ekuhleleni itafula, benze umsebenzi wabo wesikole… Izingane ziphila ezweni elenziwe ngemidlalo namaphupho, kepha imithetho yokuphila ibaluleke kubo njengomoya abaphefumulayo. Ukuze ukhule kahle, udinga ukuba nodonga oncike kulo, ucacise futhi uchaze imingcele. Kepha uma imithetho isunguliwe, kuhlala kuyisebenzisa nokuyisebenzisa.

Akunasidingo sokumemeza nsuku zonke ukuthi izingane zifake izinto zazo kubhasikidi wezingubo ezingcolile ngaphambi kweminyaka yobudala engu-4. Ukungcola kwazo kungumqondo wakho konke. Kungcono ukubuza isibonelo ukuthi: "ngaphambi kokugeza, ufaka amasokisi akho kubhasikidi ompunga ngicela" futhi ukwenze naye amahlandla amathathu okuqala.

Phakathi kweminyaka ye-3 ne-7

Izingane zizofuna ukusiza, ukuthola ukuzimela, izibopho. Uma abazali bethatha isikhathi ukukhombisa, kancane kancane, igxathu negxathu, njengoba uCéline Alvarez, umcwaningi ekukhuleni kwengane, ekhombisa, abancane banake futhi banamakhono amahle.

Badinga nje umuntu omdala onesineke obakhombisayo, abavumele bakwenze, abavumele benze amaphutha, baqale phansi ngokuzola nangomusa. Lapho abazali becasulwa ngokwengeziwe, izingane ziyolalela imithetho.

Lapho ngineminyaka engu-7

Le minyaka ihambelana nokungena esikoleni samabanga aphansi, izingane zithole imithetho esemqoka yokuphila: yidla etafuleni ngezinhlamvu, uthi ngiyabonga, ngicela ugeze izandla, njll.

Abazali bangabe sebethula imithetho emisha njengokusiza ukubeka itafula etafuleni, ukukhipha imishini yokuwasha izitsha, ukunika ikati isichibi… yonke le misebenzi emincane isiza ingane ukuthi ikwazi ukuzimela futhi isuke ngokuzethemba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Kubalulekile ukwenza izingane zikhuthele ekwenzeni le mithetho. Isibonelo, ungathatha isikhathi ukumbuza ukuthi yini angathanda ukuyenza ukusiza, ngokumnikeza imisebenzi emithathu ongakhetha kuyo. Uyobe eseba nomuzwa wokuthi ube nokukhetha nokuthi uzwiwe.

Imithetho yomndeni wonke

Lapho imithetho isebenza, wonke amalungu omndeni kufanele ahole ngesibonelo. Imithetho kufanele ilungele ilunga ngalinye, isibonelo izingane ezindala zinelungelo lokufunda kancane ngaphambi kokulala futhi zicishe amalambu azo ngesikhathi esithile. Abazali bachazela abancane ukuthi badinga ukulala okuningi kunabadala ukuze bakhule kahle futhi kufanele bacishe phambi komfowabo nodadewabo omkhulu.

Le mithetho inganikeza ithuba lokuthi umndeni uhlangane uzungeze itafula futhi uvumele wonke umuntu ukuthi asho akuthandayo nongathandi ukukwenza. Abazali bangalalela futhi bakunake. Lesi sikhathi sivumela izingxoxo, ukuchaza. Kulula ukusebenzisa imithetho uma uyiqonda ukuthi yenzelwe ini.

Ukuze wonke umuntu azikhumbule, enye yezingane ingabhala imithetho ehlukene yasekhaya ephepheni elihle, noma izidwebe bese iyazibonisa. Ngokufana nokuhlelwa komndeni.

Bangathola futhi indawo yabo encwadini yokubhalela enhle enikezelwe kulokhu, noma isibopho lapho ungangeza khona amakhasi, imidwebo, njll.

Ukubumba imithetho yasekhaya kusho nokuletha ukucaciseleka kulokho okulindeleke kubo nokuguqula umzuzu ongabonakala ubheda-ukufaka kokuthile okujabulisayo.

Ukubhala futhi ukubamba ngekhanda. Abazali bazomangala ukuthola ukuthi u-Enzo, 9, ubambe ngekhanda imithetho yasekhaya eyi-12 ngokungafani nobaba wakhe osokola ukuthola owesithupha. Ukukhumbula ngekhanda kufanele kudlale. Kumnandi kakhulu ukudida abazali ukhombise amakhono akho.

Imithetho yempilo ayikho lapho ukuze ibukeke mihle. Ifilimu i-Yes Day iyisiboniso esihle salokhu. Uma abazali bethi yebo kuyo yonke into, kungaba yihlathi. Ukwehluleka ukulandela imithetho kunemiphumela. Kuyadingeka futhi ukunquma ngokunembile ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi, ngokuya ngeminyaka yengane namandla ayo.

Beka izicathulo zakho, isibonelo. Eminyakeni emithathu ubudala, ukunakwa kwengane kusheshe kuphazanyiswe umcimbi wangaphandle, umsindo, okuthile okufanele ukutshelwe, umdlalo ohudulayo… akusizi ukumemeza nokujezisa.

Abadala bayakwazi futhi bahlanganise imininingwane. Ukubachazela ukuthi usebenzisa siphi isikhathi esikhulula ngaso ukuqoqa (ukusebenza, ukupheka, ukubasiza ngomsebenzi wesikole) kungaba yisiqalo esihle.

Bese ngokumamatheka, vumanani ndawonye ngomphumela uma engazibeki izicathulo zakhe, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amagama athi unswinyo noma izijeziso. Kungaba ukuncishwa: ithelevishini, ibhola nabangane… kodwa futhi kumele abe nethuba loku: ukusula itafula, ukuhlanza ifenisha, ukusonga izingubo. Imithetho yokuphila bese ihlotshaniswa nesenzo esihle, futhi lokho kuzwakala kukuhle.