Okuqukethwe
- 1. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: sizicabangela thina
- 2. Sihlukanisa umthwalo wengqondo ngamabili
- 3. Silindele inhlangano ngengane egulayo
- 4. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: vumela ubaba azibandakanye
- 5. Siyadedela… futhi siyeka ukuhlola yonke into ngemva kukababa
- 6. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: phakathi kwabazali, sihlukanisa imisebenzi
- 7. Sibuyekeza ukuhleleka kwezinto eziza kuqala kithi
- 8. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: ukulungiselela ukwehlukana
- 9. Sibonisana ngokuhlanganyela
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1. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: sizicabangela thina
Ukubuyisana impilo yowesifazane, inkosikazi, umama kanye nentombazane esebenzayo kusho ukuba sesimweni esihle ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Nokho, akulula ukuthatha isikhathi nesimiso esimatasa kangaka. “Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqiniseka ngokubaluleka kokucabanga ngawe. Ukufunda ukuphatha amandla akho kukuvumela ukuba ulinganisele ukukhathala futhi ngaleyo ndlela ubekezele futhi unake kakhulu obathandayo, ”kuchaza u-Diane Ballonad Rolland, umqeqeshi nomqeqeshi ekuphathweni kwesikhathi kanye nebhalansi yempilo *. Weluleka, isibonelo, ukuthatha usuku lwe-RTT ngaphandle kwengane yakho, ngenxa yakho nje. Kanye ngenyanga, ungaphinda uyophuza egumbini letiye, uwedwa. Sithatha leli thuba ukubheka inyanga edlule naleyo ezayo. Futhi siyabona indlela esizizwa ngayo. "Ubuyisela ukwazi empilweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi uhlale uxhumene nezifiso zakho", kuphikisa u-Diane Ballonad Rolland.
2. Sihlukanisa umthwalo wengqondo ngamabili
Yize obaba bekwenza kakhulu futhi abaningi babo bakhathazeke njengathi mama akukho okwenziwa, bavame ukuthwala emahlombe abo (nangemuva kwamakhanda abo) konke okufanele bakulawule: kusukela ekuqokweni kukadokotela kuye kumama. usuku lokuzalwa lukamkhwekazi, okuhlanganisa nokubhaliswa enkulisa… Ngokuqala kabusha komsebenzi, umthwalo wengqondo uzokhula. Ngakho-ke, ake sithathe isinyathelo! Akubuzwa ukuthwala yonke into emahlombe akhe! Ngokwesibonelo, kanye ngesonto, ngeSonto kusihlwa, senza iphuzu nomngane wethu womshado, ohlelweni lwesonto. Sabelana ngolwazi ukuze sinciphise lo mthwalo. Bona ukuthi ubani ophethe ini, ”kuphakamisa u-Diane Ballonad Rolland. Ingabe nobabili nixhumekile? Khetha i-Google Khalenda noma izinhlelo zokusebenza ezifana ne-TipStuff ezisiza ukuhlelwa komndeni, zenze kube nokwenzeka ukudweba uhlu ...
3. Silindele inhlangano ngengane egulayo
Emaqinisweni, ama-pathologies ayishumi nanye aholela ekukhishweni emphakathini : i-strep throat, isifo sokusha kwesibindi kohlobo A, i-scarlet fever, isifo sofuba … Nokho, ukuya kungase kuncishiswe ezigabeni ezimbi kakhulu zezinye izifo. Uma ingane yakho igula futhi inkulisa noma umsizi wenkulisa engakwazi ukumudla, umthetho unikeza abasebenzi abasezimbonini ezizimele. izinsuku ezintathu zekhefu lengane egulayo (kanye nezinsuku ezinhlanu zezingane ezineminyaka engaphansi koku-1) lapho kwethulwa isitifiketi sikadokotela. Ngakho sithola ukuthi, isivumelwano sethu esihlangene singasinika okwengeziwe. Futhi isebenza kubo bobabili obaba nomama! Nokho, leli khefu alikhokhelwa, ngaphandle kwase-Alsace-Moselle, noma uma isivumelwano sakho sikuhlinzeka ngakho. Siphinde silindele ukubona ukuthi izihlobo zingakwazi yini ukugada izingane ngendlela engavamile.
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Akubuzwa ukuthatha indima kababa nomama ngezidingo ezimba eqolo. Sigxila kulokho okubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kithi. Sihlakulela inethiwekhi yethu ngangokunokwenzeka: umndeni, abangani, abazali basenkulisa, omakhelwane, i-PMI, izinhlangano… Uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, noma ngabe ubaba engekho ekhaya, unendima yakhe okufanele ayidlale. Uma kungenjalo, sizama ukufaka amadoda embuthanweni wethu wobudlelwano (umalume, u-papi…).
Ekugcineni, siyazinakekela ngempela futhi siyaziqaphela izimfanelo zethu. “Yiba khona manje. Imizuzu emithathu, lulama, phefumula ngobumnene, xhuma nawe ukuze uvuselele. “Ebhukwini lokubonga,” bhala phansi izinto ezintathu ozenzile ozibongayo ngazo. Futhi khumbula, ingane yakho encane ayidingi umama ophelele, kodwa umama okhona futhi ophilile, ”kukhumbula isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
4. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: vumela ubaba azibandakanye
Ingabe ubaba ungemuva? Ingabe sivame ukuphatha indlu kanye nomncane wethu ngaphezulu? Ngokubuyela emsebenzini, yisikhathi sokulungisa izinto. “Yingane yalaba ababili!” Ubaba kumele abambe iqhaza njengomama, ”kusho u-Ambre Pelletier, umqeqeshi womama kanye nodokotela wezengqondo. Ukumenza azithathele izindaba ezandleni zakhe, simkhombisa imikhuba yethu ukushintsha ingane, imfunze… Simcela ukuthi ayigeze sibe senza okunye. Uma simnika indawo, uzofunda ukuyithola!
5. Siyadedela… futhi siyeka ukuhlola yonke into ngemva kukababa
Sithanda ukuthi inabukeni igqoke kanje, ukuthi isidlo sithathwa ngesikhathi esithile, njll. Kodwa umlingani wethu, yena uqhubeka ngendlela yakhe. Amber Pelletier kuxwayisa ngesifiso sokubuya ngemuva kukababa. “Kungcono ukugwema ukwahlulela. Kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokulimaza nokucasula. Uma ubaba enza into angayijwayele, uzodinga ukuqashelwa ukuze akhulise ukuzethemba kwakhe. Ngokumgxeka, uzifaka engozini ngokumane ayeke futhi abambe iqhaza kancane. Kufanele uyekele! », Kuxwayisa udokotela wengqondo.
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6. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: phakathi kwabazali, sihlukanisa imisebenzi
UDiane Ballonad Rolland uyeluleka dweba itafula elithi “wenzani” nabalingani bethu. “Bhekisisa imisebenzi ehlukene yasekhaya neyomndeni, bese uqaphela ukuthi yenziwa ngubani. Ngakho ngamunye uyaqaphela ukuthi omunye uphetheni. Bese uwasabalalisa ngokulinganayo. “Siqhubeka ngomsebenzi: omunye uzoyisa uJules kudokotela wezingane, omunye uzonakekela ukushiya inkulisa…” Ngamunye ukhombisa imisebenzi ayithandayo. Abangabongi kakhulu bazosatshalaliswa masonto onke phakathi kwabazali, ”kusikisela u-Ambre Pelletier.
7. Sibuyekeza ukuhleleka kwezinto eziza kuqala kithi
Ngokubuyela emsebenzini, akunakwenzeka ukwenza izinto eziningi njengalapho sisekhaya. Okuvamile! Kuzodingeka sibuyekeze izinto eziza kuqala kithi futhi sibuze imibuzo efanele: “Yini ebalulekile kuwe? Kukuphi okubalulekile? Ungadlulisi izidingo ezingokomzwelo ngemva kokuthenga noma umsebenzi wasendlini. Akusho lutho ukuthi indlu ayiphelele yini. Senza esingakwenza futhi akukubi kakade! », Kumemezela uDiane Ballonad Rolland.
Sikhetha inhlangano eguquguqukayo, evumelana nendlela yethu yokuphila. “Akumele kube yisithiyo, kodwa kube yindlela yokukwenza uzizwe ujabule. Kufanele nje uthole ibhalansi efanele nomlingani wakho, ngaphandle kwengcindezi, ”uyanezela.
8. Buyela emsebenzini ngemva komntwana: ukulungiselela ukwehlukana
Izinyanga ezimbalwa manje ukuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke kuzungeza ingane yethu. Kodwa ngokubuyela emsebenzini, ukuhlukana akunakugwenywa. Lapho ilungiswa ngokwengeziwe, yilapho izotholwa ngobumnene yingane kanye nathi. Noma ngabe inakekelwa umsizi wasenkulisa noma enkulisa, sizonikezwa isikhathi sokuzijwayeza (kudingekile ngempela) ukuze kube lula uguquko. Futhi shiya ngezikhathi ezithile, uma kungenzeka, kogogo nomkhulu, udadewenu noma othile omethembayo. Ngakho-ke, sizojwayela ukungahlali ndawonye njalo futhi ngeke sikwesabe ukukushiya usuku lonke.
9. Sibonisana ngokuhlanganyela
Asisodwa ekucabangeni ukubuyela emsebenzini. Ngaphandle kwabashade nabo, asinqeni ukubona abantu esibathandayo uma bengaseseka ngamaphuzu athile. Ogogo nomkhulu bangase batholakale ukuze bathathe ingane yethu ngezinye izikhathi kusihlwa enkulisa. Ingabe umngane wethu omkhulu angagada ingane ukuze sichithe ubusuku bothando? Sicabanga ngemodi yonogada besimo esiphuthumayo. Lokhu kuzosivumela ukuthi sibuyele emsebenzini ngendlela ekhululeke kakhudlwana. Siphinde sicabange ukwabelana ngamanethiwekhi phakathi kwabazali ku-inthanethi, njengo-MumAround, inhlangano ethi “Umama, mina nobaba singamama”
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Umbhali: UDorothée Blancheton