Isikhathi somntwana sisuka ekuzalweni siye onyakeni owodwa. Yini okufanele ufundiswe ngalesi sikhathi?
Izingane zidinga ukufundiswa ukusebenzisa abazali bazo ngendlela efanele.
Isimo: UChristoph, onezinyanga eziyisi-8, unceliswe ibele ngokuphelele. Usanda kukhula amazinyo akhe okuqala. Kuthe kusenjalo waqala waluma kabuhlungu esifubeni sikanina. Umsebenzi - UChristophe udinga ukufundiswa lo mthetho: "Kufanele uqaphele amazinyo akho ngenkathi uncelisa."
Umama wakhe usebenzisa isikhathi sokuvala: ngamazwi "Kwakubuhlungu kakhulu!" ayibeke kucansi lokudlala. Bese efulathela umzuzu noma emibili, angamnaki uChristophe okhalayo. Ekupheleni kwalesi sikhathi, uyayithatha futhi uthi: "Sizozama futhi, kodwa qaphela amazinyo akho!" Manje uChristophe uphuza ngokucophelela.
Uma ephinda eluma, umama uzophinde ambeke embhedeni futhi amshiye engagadiwe, bese ulinda imizuzu engu-1-2 ukuze unamathisele esifubeni futhi.
Esinye isibonelo:
- Indaba kaPawulu, enezinyanga ezingu-8 ubudala, usuyazi kusukela esahlukweni sokuqala. Wayehlale engajabule ngokwedlulele, ekhala amahora ambalwa ngosuku, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi unina wayehlale emjabulisa ngezinto ezintsha ezisiza isikhashana nje.
Ngokushesha ngavumelana nabazali bami ukuthi uPaul kwakudingeka afunde umthetho owodwa omusha: “Kufanele ngizijabulise ngesikhathi esifanayo nsuku zonke. Umama uzenzela okwakhe ngalesi sikhathi. Wayengayifunda kanjani? Wayengakabi nonyaka ubudala. Awukwazi ukumane umngenise ekamelweni bese uthi: "Manje dlala wedwa."
Ngemva kokudla kwasekuseni, njengomthetho, wayesesimweni esihle kakhulu. Ngakho umama wanquma ukukhetha lesi sikhathi ukuze ahlanze ikhishi. Ngemva kokubeka uPaul phansi futhi wamnika izitsha zasekhishini, wahlala phansi wambheka wathi: "Manje sekumele ngihlanze ikhishi". Emizuzwini eyi-10 elandelayo, wenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikole. UPawulu, nakuba ayeseduze, wayengeyena isizinda sokunakwa.
Njengoba kulindelekile, ngemva kwemizuzu embalwa izitsha zasekhishini zaphonswa ekhoneni, uPaul, ekhala, walenga emilenzeni kanina futhi wacela ukuba abanjwe. Wayesejwayele ukuthi zonke izifiso zakhe zagcwaliseka ngokushesha. Kwase kwenzeka into abengayilindele nhlobo. Umama wamthatha waphinde wambeka kancane phansi wathi: "Ngidinga ukuhlanza ikhishi". Yebo, uPawulu wathukuthela. Waphakamisa izwi lokumemeza wakhasa ezinyaweni zikanina. Umama waphinda okufanayo: wamthatha waphinde wambeka kancane phansi ngamazwi: “Ngidinga ukuhlanza ikhishi, mntanami. Ngemuva kwalokho ngizodlala nawe futhi» (irekhodi eliphukile).
Kwenzeka konke lokhu futhi.
Ngokulandelayo, njengoba kwakuvunyelwene, waqhubeka kancane. Wafaka uPawulu enkundleni, emi eduze kwamehlo. Umama waqhubeka nokuhlanza, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ukukhala kwakhe kwakumhlanyisa. Njalo ngemizuzu emi-2-3 wayephendukela kuye athi: “Okokuqala ngidinga ukuhlanza ikhishi, bese ngidlala nawe futhi.” Ngemva kwemizuzu engu-10, konke ukunaka kwakhe kwakungokukaPaul futhi. Wayejabule futhi eziqhenya ngokuthi wakhuthazela, nakuba kwakungatholakali lutho ekuhlanzeni.
Wenza okufanayo ngezinsuku ezilandelayo. Isikhathi ngasinye, wayehlela kusengaphambili lokho ayezokwenza - ukuhlanza, ukufunda iphephandaba noma ukudla kwasekuseni kuze kube sekupheleni, kancane kancane alethe isikhathi emaminithini angu-30. Ngosuku lwesithathu, uPawulu akabange esakhala. Wahlala enkundleni wadlala. Khona-ke akasibonanga isidingo sepeni lokudlala, ngaphandle uma ingane ilenga kuso ukuze kungenzeki ukunyakaza. UPawulu kancane kancane wajwayela iqiniso lokuthi ngalesi sikhathi akayena isikhungo sokunakwa futhi ngeke azuze lutho ngokumemeza. Futhi ngokuzimela wanquma ukudlala yedwa, esikhundleni sokuhlala nje nokumemeza. Kubo bobabili, le mpumelelo yaba usizo kakhulu, ngakho ngendlela efanayo ngethule enye ingxenye yehora yesikhathi esikhululekile kimina ntambama.
Unyaka owodwa kuya kwemibili
Izingane eziningi, ngokushesha nje lapho zimemeza, ngokushesha zithola lokho ezikufunayo. Abazali babafisela okuhle kuphela. Bafuna ingane ikhululeke. Hlala unethezekile. Ngeshwa le ndlela ayisebenzi. Ngokuphambene nalokho: izingane ezinjengoPawulu zihlala zingajabule. Bakhala kakhulu ngoba bafundile: "Ukumemeza kudinga ukunakwa." Kusukela ebuntwaneni, bathembele kubazali babo, ngakho abakwazi ukuthuthukisa nokuqaphela amakhono abo kanye nokuthambekela kwabo. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokhu, akunakwenzeka ukuthola into oyithandayo. Abaqondi neze ukuthi abazali nabo banezidingo. Isikhathi sokuphuma ekamelweni elilodwa nomama noma ubaba yisisombululo esingenzeka lapha: ingane ayijeziswa, ihlala eduze nomzali, kodwa noma kunjalo ayikutholi lokho akufunayo.
- Ngisho noma ingane isencane kakhulu, sebenzisa okuthi "I-Messages" ngesikhathi "Isikhathi Sokuphuma": “Kufanele ngihlanze.” “Ngifuna ukuqedela isidlo sami sasekuseni.” “Kuzomele ngishayele.” Ngeke kube kusesekuseni kakhulu kubo. Ingane ibona izidingo zakho futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ulahlekelwa ithuba lokuthethisa noma ukuthuka umntwana.
Isibonelo sokugcina:
- Khumbula uPatrick, "ukwesaba kweqembu lonke"? Ingane eneminyaka emibili iyaluma, ilwe, ikhiphe amathoyizi iwajikijele. Ngaso sonke isikhathi, umama uqhamuka futhi amthethise. Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ethembisa: "Uma uphinda futhi, sizobuyela ekhaya." Kodwa akwenzeki.
Ungakwenza kanjani lapha? Uma uPatrick ehlukumeze enye ingane, "isitatimende" esifushane singenziwa. Aguqe phansi (ahlale phansi), ambuke ngqo bese ebamba izandla zakhe, athi: "Ima! Yiyeke manje!» Ungamyisa kwelinye ikhoneni legumbi, futhi ngaphandle kokunaka uPawulu, duduza «isisulu». Uma u-Patrick eluma noma eshaya othile futhi, udinga ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha. Njengoba esemncane futhi akukwazi ukumkhipha yedwa ekamelweni, unina kufanele alishiye iqembu naye. Ngesikhathi sokuvala, nakuba eseduze, akamnaki kakhulu. Uma ekhala uyambona: "Uma wehlisa umoya, singangena futhi." Ngakho, ugcizelela okuhle. Uma ukukhala kunganqamuki bagoduke bobabili.
Kukhona futhi isikhathi: UPatrick wathathwa ezinganeni kanye nezinqwaba zamathoyizi athakazelisayo.
Ngokushesha nje lapho umntwana edlala ngokuthula isikhashana, umama uhlala kuye, amdumise futhi amnake. Ngakho ukugxila kokuhle.