Okuqukethwe
Ingane yakho ayikwazi ukubekezelela ukwenza amaphutha? Noma ingabe uhlale edinga ukunyakaza? Ngaphandle kwalapho echitha isikhathi sakhe esiza abanye? Ngoba qonda ukuthi kungani izingane ziziphatha futhi ubasize bathole ibhalansi, u-Valérie Fobe Coruzzi, i-coach-therapist kanye nomlobi womhlahlandlela osebenzayo we-enneagram (1), utusa leli thuluzi kubazali. Ingxoxo.
Abazali: Ungakwazi yini ukusichazela i-enneagram?
Lena ithuluzi lokuthuthukisa umuntu endala kakhulu yavuselelwa ngeminyaka yawo-70s. Ivumela ukufundwa kwezinqumo zethu zokuziphatha ngokwezimo. Ichaza amaphrofayili ayisishiyagalolunye ahlukene. Umuntu ngamunye ngokomlando wakhe, umbono wakhe weqiniso, ukwesaba kwakhe, imfundo yakhe, uthuthukisa ubuntu, ugqoka "imvunulo" ukuze aziphathe ngendlela akholelwa ukuthi yiyona esiyilindele. yena. I-enneagram inikeza ithuba ukuhlonza lezi zindlela ukuzivikela kanye nokuziphatha okuvela kukho, kanye nokusondela ngangokunokwenzeka “ebunjalo” bomuntu beqiniso.
Kungani leli lilithuluzi eliphumelelayo labazali?
Bonke abazali bangene ezinganeni zabo bengazi okungokoqobo kwabo (ukwesaba, ukudabuka, ukudumazeka…). Futhi wengeze kubo, njalo ngokungazi, ukulungisa amaphutha abo. I-enneagram ingakwazi ke siza khulula ingane yale miyalo, ukumamukela eduze ngangokunokwenzeka kulokho ayikho, ngaphandle kokumthwalisa kanzima ngamaphutha ethu. Injalo ingane umuntu onyakazayo, ubuntu bakhe bungashintsha, akukho lutho "olunqunyiwe". Esimweni ngasinye, umzali angasiza ingane yakhe ukuba ilungise ukuziphatha kwayo ukuze izizwe ingcono.
Ngabe, ngamafuphi, yiziphi izinhlobo eziyisishiyagalolunye zamaphrofayili ezingane ozichazayo encwadini?
Nawa amaphrofayili abantu abayisishiyagalolunye angacaciswa yi-enneagram:
- Owokuqala ufuna njalo ukuba ongasoleki. Ngephutha elincane, uyesaba ukungathandwa.
- Owesibili usadinga noma ukwenza kube nenzuzo,esaba ukushiywa.
- Elesithathu njalo ugqama ngezenzo zakhe, akazi ukuthi angaba khona kanjani ngenye indlela.
- Eyesine inamathele ebunyeni bayo, yona bomele ukuqashelwa.
- Owesihlanu ufuna ukuqonda konke okuphathelene nomhlaba lokho kumzungezile ngoba akaziqondi.
- Iphrofayili yesithupha yesaba ukukhashelwa ngaphezu kwanoma yini, uzizwa ukungazethembi ngokomzwelo.
- Eyesikhombisa ufuna ukuzijabulisa okungapheli ukubalekela noma yimuphi umqondo wokuhlupheka.
- Eyesishiyagalombili, ekufuneni amandla, izama ukuzivikela ebuthakathakeni bayo.
- Izifiso zesishiyagalolunye gwema ukungqubuzana ngazo zonke izindlela akhohlwe izidingo zakhe.
Ungayisebenzisa kanjani i-enneagram nsuku zonke?
Ngokukhomba enganeni yakhe ukuziphatha okumncisha ukuchuma nokumsiza. Kunjalo, ingane ayifani ncamashi nephrofayili. Kuye ngeminyaka nezimo, abazali bangakwazi bona ukuziphatha echazwe encwadini ngokusebenzisa amaphrofayili ayisishiyagalolunye futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani. Bangakwazi-ke, ngokubheka ingane yabo kahle, bamsize ukuba aziphathe ngendlela "eyiqiniso", ngendlela engokwemvelo. Isibonelo, intombazane ethanda ukuphelela kakhulu, ihluleka ukuzijabulisa ephathini yokuzalwa, iyahlehla, ayifuni ukungcola. Kukubazali bakhe vula inkundla ukuze ushintshe ukuma ngokumchazela ukuthi angazijabulisa, azidedele, futhi nangokumbonisa ngesibonelo! Esinye isimo: umfana omncane ulahlekelwa umdlalo wethenisi. Esikhundleni sokumqinisa embonweni wokuthi "uzowina olandelayo", umzali angamenza aqonde ukuthi into ebalulekile yindlela adlale ngayo, umuntu wakhe, nokuthi uyesabeka, noma ngabe yini. imiphumela yakhe yezemidlalo!
Ingxoxo ka-Katrin Acou-Bouaziz
(1) “Ukuqonda ingane yami kangcono ngibonga i-enneagram”, u-Valérie Fobe Coruzzi no-Stéphanie Honoré, ama-Editions Leduc.s., Mashi 2018, ama-euro angu-17.