Okuqukethwe
Iseshini yenhlalakahle yokulinganisa kabusha ubudlelwano bokuhlangana phakathi kukamama nendodakazi yakhe, ilandiswa ngu-Anne-Laure Benattar, udokotela wengqondo, noKatia, intombazane eneminyaka engu-7 ubudala.
U-Anne-Laure Benattar uthola namuhla uKatia nonina. Kusukela ekuzalweni kwentombazane encane, bebesondelene kakhulu, kodwa ubuhlobo babo buye bawohloka ngokufika kwengane yesibili. U-Katia uvame ukuba nolaka kunina futhi uyanyakaza phakathi kwezikhathi zokuzwana nezingxabano ezishubile.
Icala elingokoqobo
U-Anne-Laure Benattar: Ungangitshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani uma unomama wakho?
Vala: Kwesinye isikhathi ngiyamthanda uma senza izinto ndawonye noma engifundela indaba. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngiyamzonda lapho enakekela kakhulu umfowethu omncane, ngakho ngiyathukuthela!
A.-LB: Akulula ukuthola indawo yakho ngokufika kukabhuti omncane. Nokho umama wakho unothando olukhulu ngani nobabili, nakuba umfowenu omncane edinga ukunakwa okwengeziwe njengamanje. Uyafuna ukudweba isithombe?
Vala: Oh yebo, ngiyakuthanda ukudweba! Mina nomama wami?
A.-LB: Yebo, yilokho kuphela, ungazidweba ngokwenza izibalo ezimbili zenduku zomzimba nezingalo kanye nesiyingi sekhanda. Bese, ubhala igama lakho lokuqala kanye nesiqalo segama lakho ngaphansi komdwebo wakho nelikamama wakho ngaphansi kwelakhe.
Vala: Nakhu, sekwenziwe futhi manje, ngenzenjani?
A.-LB: Ungakwazi ukuzungeza umlingiswa ngamunye ngesiyingi sokukhanya, kanye nomunye umbuthano omkhulu wenu nobabili owuphawu lothando lwenu. Bese udweba izixhumanisi eziyisi-7 ngendlela yemigqa phakathi kwakho ngamapensela anemibala: kusukela emhlane ophansi kuya kweyakhe, bese kuba enye yezinso zakho kuye kweyakhe, bese kusukela esiswini sakho kuya esiswini sakhe, kusukela enhliziyweni yakho kuya enhliziyweni yakhe, kusukela emphinjeni kuya kuye. wakhe, kusukela phakathi kwebunzi lakho kuye kwelakhe, futhi kusukela phezulu kwekhanda lakho kuye kweyakhe.
Vala: Oh kulungile, ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi siboshiwe? Futhi imibala, ngikwenza kanjani?
A.-LB: Yebo, yilokho, kuhambisana nokunamathiselwe kwakho. Ngemibala, ungenza njengothingo, uqale ngokubomvu ngezansi, futhi usebenze indlela yakho uze ufike ekhanda ngokunsomi phezulu. Bese usika ishidi phakathi ngesikelo ukuze ususe izixhumanisi ezingezinhle. Ukhululiwe ekushubeni, kukhona uthando kuphela!
TRICK : Lapho inkinga iqhubeka, kungenzeka ukusebenzisana nomzali okhathazekile okungenzeka emlandweni wakhe siqu noma esikhathini esidlule nengane yakhe, izici ezichaza uhlobo lwalobu buhlobo. Uma kunesidingo, ngokuvamile kuyadingeka ukuzixazulula ukuze uthole ukuzwana ebuhlotsheni.
Izingane ngezinye izikhathi ziveza izimpawu zezinkinga ezihlobene nomlando wabazali bazo.
ukuwohloka
AMADODA AMANCANE AMAHLE IYAFANANA
Lesi senzo esihlongozwe nguJacques Martel, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseCanada, sivumela ukukhulula izibopho ezinobuthi, kuyilapho kugcinwa ubuhlobo bothando. Kungenziwa futhi phakathi kwezelamani ezimbili, noma enye i-duo enokungezwani okukhulu.
IZIKHATHI EZIKHETHEKILE
Ukuze uthole indawo entsha, ukudala izikhathi ezithile zokwabelana njengombhangqwana njengokuthi "ngaphambi", kukuvumela ukuba ube nesikhathi esihle futhi wenze izibopho ezintsha.
UKUKHISHWA KWEZWI
Ukuze kuthuthukiswe ukuqonda kokusabela nokucacisa ukungaqondi kahle, sikhuthaza abantu ukuthi basho imizwa ezwakale lapho ukushuba kwesimo sekudambile.
Incazelo yomelaphi
Lapho ubuhlobo be-fusional busungulwa ngokuzalwa kwengane yokuqala, ukufika komntwana wesibili, noma ukuvela kwale ngane ekuzilawuleni okukhulu, kungaphazamisa isibopho. Ubudlelwano bese buba yi-fusional-reactional.
Kulesi simo, kuyadingeka ukuthi ingane kanye nomama bathole indawo entsha maqondana nomunye nomunye, ukuze bahlale beseduze ngenkathi bevumela ngamunye ukuba aqhubekele ekuzilawuleni okukhulu.