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Ubuhlakani bokudala nobusebenzayo bengane engakafiki
Uchwepheshe we-precocity, uMonique de Kermadec, ukhumbula esingenisweni sencwadi yakhe ukuthi umbono we-IQ usalokhu uphikisana kakhulu nanamuhla. Ukuhlakanipha kwengane akukhona nje ngamakhono ayo obuhlakani. Ukuthuthuka kwakhe ngokomzwelo nobudlelwano kuyisici esibalulekile sokulinganisela kwakhe komuntu siqu. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siphinde sigcizelele endimeni enkulu yobuhlakani bokudala nobusebenzayo. Zonke lezi zici kufanele zicatshangelwe kumuntu omdala okhulayo omele ingane ngayinye engaphambi kwenkathi yokukhula.
Ubuhlakani bokudala nobusebenzayo
UMonique de Kermadec uchaza ukubaluleka kobuhlakani bokudala, obuzovumela izingane ezingaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi ziphume ephethinini evamile lapho amakhono amisiwe nawobuhlakani azokwaziswa kakhulu. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uRobert Sternberg sichaze lobu buhlakani ngokuthi "Ikhono lokubhekana ngokuphumelelayo nezimo ezintsha nezingavamile, ngokusekelwe kumakhono nolwazi olukhona". Ngamanye amazwi, yikhono lokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani obunengqondo obungenangqondo. Kulokhu kwenezelwa olunye uhlobo lobuhlakani, azoludinga empilweni yakhe yomuntu omdala: ubuhlakani obusebenzayo. UMonique de Kermadec ucacisa ukuthi “kuhambisana nesenzo, ukwazi kanye nokukwazi ukuzimela lapho ubhekene nesimo esisha”. Ingane kufanele ihlanganise ukucophelela kwengqondo, amaqhinga, ikhono nolwazi. Lolu hlobo lobuhlakani obusebenzayo kufanele luvumele ingane engaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi ivumelane nezwe langempela nelamanje, ikakhulukazi ngokusatshalaliswa kobuchwepheshe obusha. "Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlakani ezinganeni ezingaphambi kwesikhathi", kuchaza uchwepheshe. Lenza uchungechunge lwezincomo zokuvuselela nokuthuthukisa lamakhono kulezi zingane, njengokubaluleka kokudlala, ulimi, nokucobelelana ngolwazi okuvumela izingane ukuba ziveze ubuhlakani bazo kanye nemicabango yazo.
Thuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho bobudlelwano
“Ukulungiselela ingane yakho engakazalwa ukuthi iphumelele kusho ukumsiza ukuthi akhe ubudlelwano nabantu besikhathi sakhe, abafowabo nodadewabo, othisha nabazali bakhe”, dImininingwane kaMonique de Kermadec encwadini yakhe. Ubuhlakani bezenhlalo bubaluleke njengamakhono obuhlakani. Ngoba imvamisa, ngaphambi kwesikhathi, sibona izingane ezinobunzima bokwakha ubudlelwano bomphakathi. Kukhona igebe elithile nezinye izingane. Ingane engaphambi kwesikhathi ayikuqondi ngempela ukunensa ngokwesibonelo, iphelelwa isineke, ifuna izixazululo ezisheshayo neziyinkimbinkimbi, yenza ngokungacabangi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ama-comrades angahumusha lokhu njengolaka oluthile noma ngisho nobutha. Abanesiphiwo bavame ukuba yizisulu zokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi esikoleni, nobunzima bokuphila emphakathini nokuhlanganisa kokubili emndenini nasesikoleni. ” Inselele yonke enganeni engakafiki iwukuthola indawo yayo phakathi kontanga yayo. », Kuchaza uMonique de Kermadec. Esinye sezihluthulelo ukwenza abazali baqonde ukuthi kufanele bafundise ingane yabo ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngenkathi bekhula, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuhlakanipha kwabo ngokomzwelo, ubudlelwano nabanye ngokuziphatha okukhethekile kokuzwela abangani, ukwenza abangane kanye nabo. ukugcina, ukuphatha kanye nokuchaza imizwa kanye nemithetho okusebenza kuyo abanye, umphakathi. "Ukuhlalisana kusho ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuziveza, ukucabangela izidingo zabanye", kucacisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Amathiphu abazali
UMonique de Kermadec uyachaza: “Abazali bangabangane abakhulu bengane esanda kuzalwa. Ugcizelela ukuthi baneqhaza elibalulekile okufanele balibambe ngengane yabo encane enesiphiwo. Kuyaxaka ukuthi, “impumelelo yezemfundo yengane engaphambi kwesikhathi ingaba yinkimbinkimbi kunezinye izingane”, kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Izingane ezisakhula zinobuthaka kanye nobunzima bokujwayela umhlaba wangempela ozizungezile. Uphinde axwayise abazali mayelana nokunganikezeli esilingweni sokutshala ngokweqile ingane yabo enekhono, ukuze bafune ukuphelela nokucindezela okunamandla kwezemfundo okuvela kuye. Ekugcineni, uMonique de Kermadec uphetha ngokubaluleka “kokudlala nengane yakhe, ukuthola ukuvumelana kanye nokukhanya okuthile kokuhlala ndawonye. Ukuhambahamba ehlathini, ukufunda indaba noma inganekwane, kuyizikhathi zomndeni ezilula, kodwa okufanele uthandwe kakhulu ngezingane ezisakhula njengakwabanye ”.