Perfectionism - imfihlo yempumelelo noma isifo?

I-Perfectionism iyinkulumo evamile.

Ngokuvamile, mngane wami, ngiye ngizwe ukuthi intsha eneziyingi ezimnyama ngenxa yokukhathala ikhuluma ngokuziqhenya ngayo: “Kuthiwa ngingumuntu ongafuni ukuphelela.”

Bathi ngokuziqhenya, kodwa angiwuzwa umdlandla.

Ngiphakamisa ukukhombisa umbono wokuthi ukuphelela, kunalokho, okubi kunokuhle. Ikakhulukazi, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa.

Futhi okwesibili - yini engaba enye esikhundleni sokuphelela?

Wikipedia: I-Perfectionism - ku-psychology, inkolelo yokuthi okuhle kungafezwa futhi kufanele kuzuzwe. Ngendlela ye-pathological - inkolelo yokuthi umphumela ongaphelele womsebenzi awunalo ilungelo lokuba khona. Futhi, ukuphelela kuyisifiso sokususa yonke into "engaphezu kwamandla" noma ukwenza into "engalingani" "bushelelezi".

Ukuphishekela impumelelo kusemvelweni yomuntu.

Ngalo mqondo, ukuthanda ukuphelela kukukhuthaza ukuba usebenze kanzima ukuze wenze izinto.

Njengamandla okushayela - ikhwalithi ewusizo impela, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esiqanjiwe esiqinisekisa ukuphelela ekhanda lami siyangitshela.

Ngiyavuma. Manje, mngane wami, uhlangothi olumnyama lwenyanga:

• Ukuphelela izindleko zesikhathi esiphezulu (hhayi kakhulu ukuthuthukisa isixazululo, kodwa ukupholisha).
• Kanye ne ukusetshenziswa kwamandla (ukungabaza, ukungabaza, ukungabaza).
• Ukuphika iqiniso (ukwenqatshwa kombono wokuthi umphumela omuhle ungase ungafinyelelwa).
• Ukusondelana nempendulo.
• Ukwesaba ukwehluleka = ukungahlaliseki kanye namazinga aphezulu okukhathazeka.

Ngibaqonda kahle abantu abathanda ukuphelela, ngoba iminyaka eminingi mina ngokwami ​​ngizibeka ngokuziqhenya njengomuntu othanda ukuphelela.

Ngaqala umsebenzi wami wokumaketha, futhi lokhu kungumthombo nje wesifo esiwubhubhane (ikakhulukazi ingxenye yalo ehlobene nokuxhumana okubukwayo - owaziyo, uzoqonda).

Izinzuzo: imikhiqizo yekhwalithi (iwebhusayithi, izihloko, izixazululo zokuklama).

I-Anti-benefits: sebenza amahora angu-15 ngosuku, ukuntuleka kokuphila komuntu siqu, umuzwa oqhubekayo wokukhathazeka, ukungabi nethuba lokuthuthuka ngenxa yempendulo.

Bese ngiwuthola umqondo ukulindela okuhle (ebhalwe uBen-Shahar), yamukele, futhi ngikunikeza yona ukuze uyicabangele.

I-Optimalist nayo isebenza kanzima njenge-Perfectionist. Umehluko Obalulekile - Optimalist uyakwazi ukuma ngesikhathi.

I-Optimalist ikhetha futhi ayiboni efanelekile, kodwa elilungile - engcono kakhulu, evumayo kakhulu ngaphansi kwesethi yezimo zamanje.

Akulungile, kodwa izinga elanele lekhwalithi.

Okwanele akusho phansi. Okwanele - kusho, ngaphakathi kohlaka lomsebenzi wamanje - kwabahlanu abaphezulu ngaphandle kokulwela abahlanu abaphezulu ngokuhlanganisa.

I-Ben-Shahar efanayo inikeza izici zokuqhathanisa zezinhlobo ezimbili:

• Umphelelisi — indlela njengendlela eqondile, ukwesaba ukwehluleka, gxila emgomweni, «konke noma lutho», isikhundla sokuzivikela, ofuna amaphutha, oqinile, olondolozayo.
• Optimalist - indlela njengokuvunguza, ukwehluleka njengempendulo, ukugxila kuhlanganisa. endleleni eya emgomweni, vulekele iseluleko, ofuna izinzuzo, uzivumelanisa nezimo kalula.

Ngakho-ke isimiso sami sokungapheleli sithi: optimal — ikhambi elingcono kakhulu ngaphansi kwezimo ezinikeziwe ngesikhathi esilinganiselwe.

Isibonelo, ngibhala umsebenzi wokudala. Kunendikimba, ngizibekela umgomo. Ngizinika imizuzu engama-60 ukuthi ngibhale. Eminye imizuzu engama-30 yokulungiswa (njengomthetho, "imininingwane" ingithola ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa). Yilokho kuphela. Ngikwenze ngokushesha nangempumelelo, ngendlela engcono kakhulu ngaphakathi kohlaka lomsebenzi nangesikhathi ebesibekiwe, ngaqhubekela phambili.

Izincomo:

• Nquma umphumela oyifunayo ozokwanelisa
• Chaza umphumela wakho omuhle. Phendula, kungani udinga ukuletha umphumela owanelisayo endaweni ekahle? Yiziphi izinzuzo?
• Yehlisa okweqile
• Setha umnqamulajuqu wokuqeda
• Thatha isenzo!

Esinye isibonelo ongacabanga ngaso:

Ngonyaka odlule, ngathatha izifundo zamakhono okukhuluma, ngenxa yalokho, ngaba nengxenye emqhudelwaneni wokukhuluma.

Njengoba ngitshale ngempela kulolu hlelo futhi ngizuza umphumela, ngenza kahle ngokusho kwamajaji.

Futhi nansi indida - impendulo evela kumajaji inomdlandla, kodwa bavotela abamelene nami, ababebuthaka ngokusobala.

Ngiwine umqhudelwano. Ngokusetshenziswa kwamandla okuphezulu.

Ngibuza umeluleki wami, - Kunjani, njengempendulo "yonke into ipholile, umlilo", kodwa abavoti?

Wenza kahle kakhulu kangangokuthi uyabacasula abantu,” kusho umqeqeshi.

Yilokho kuphela.

Futhi ekugcineni, izibonelo ezimbalwa:

UThomas Edison, obhalise amalungelo obunikazi angu-1093 - okuhlanganisa amalungelo obunikazi belambu likagesi, igilamafoni, ucingo. Lapho eboniswa ukuthi uye wahluleka izikhathi eziningi lapho elungisa izinto azisungulile, u-Edison waphendula: “Angikaze ngibe nokwehluleka. Ngisanda kuthola izindlela eziyizinkulungwane eziyishumi ezingasebenzi."

Kuthiwani uma u-Edison engumuntu othanda ukuphelela? Mhlawumbe bekungaba isibani esasingaphambi kwesikhathi saso ngekhulu leminyaka. Nesibani nje. Kwesinye isikhathi ubungako bubaluleke kakhulu kunekhwalithi.

UMichael Jordan, omunye wabasubathi abakhulu besikhathi sethu: “Emsebenzini wami, ngaphuthelwa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwezinkulungwane eziyisishiyagalolunye. Ilahlekelwe imincintiswano ecishe ibe ngamakhulu amathathu. Izikhathi ezingamashumi amabili nesithupha ngiphaswe ibhola ngeshodi eliwinile ngageja. Impilo yami yonke ngehluleke kaningi. Futhi yingakho kube yimpumelelo."

Kuthiwani uma uJordani elinde ngaso sonke isikhathi isethi yezimo ezikahle ukuze athathe isibhamu? Indawo engcono kakhulu yokulinda le sethi yezimo kusebhentshini. Ngezinye izikhathi kungcono ukwenza ngisho nomzamo obonakala ungenathemba kunokulinda okulungile.

Indoda eyodwa eneminyaka engamashumi amabili nambili yaphelelwa umsebenzi. Ngemva konyaka, wazama inhlanhla kwezombusazwe, wangenela isishayamthetho sezwe, walahlekelwa. Wabe esezama isandla sakhe ebhizinisini - wehluleka. Lapho eneminyaka engamashumi amabili nesikhombisa ubudala, waba nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Kodwa walulama, futhi eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu nane, esethole ulwazi oluthile, wagijimela uKhongolose. Ilahlekile. Kwenzeka okufanayo ngemva kweminyaka emihlanu. Engadikibali nhlobo ngenxa yokwehluleka, uphakamisa izinga eliphezulu nakakhulu futhi eneminyaka engamashumi amane nesithupha uzama ukukhethwa eSenate. Lapho lo mbono wehluleka, ubeka phambili isikhundla sakhe sokuba yiphini likamongameli, aphinde angaphumeleli. Enamahloni amashumi eminyaka ezithiyo nokuhlulwa kochwepheshe, uphinde wagijimela iSigele ngobusuku bangaphambi kosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa lweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu futhi wehluleka. Kodwa eminyakeni emibili kamuva, le ndoda iba uMongameli wase-United States. Igama lakhe kwakungu-Abraham Lincoln.

Kuthiwani uma uLincoln engumuntu othanda ukuphelela? Ngokunokwenzeka, ukwehluleka kokuqala bekuyoba ukungqongqoza kuye. Umuntu ongafuni ukuphelela uyesaba ukwehluleka, umuntu osebenza kahle kakhulu uyazi ukuthi angavuka kanjani ngemva kokuhluleka.

Futhi-ke, enkumbulweni, imikhiqizo eminingi yesoftware ye-Microsoft eyashicilelwa "eluhlaza", "engakaqediwe", yabangela ukugxekwa okukhulu. Kodwa baphume ngaphambi komncintiswano. Futhi aqedwa ohlelweni, okuhlanganisa nempendulo evela kubasebenzisi abanganelisekile. Kodwa uBill Gates uyindaba ehlukile.

Ngiyafingqa:

Okuhle - ikhambi elingcono kakhulu ngaphansi kwezimo ezinikeziwe ngesikhathi esilinganiselwe. Sekwanele mngani wami ukuthi uphumelele.

PS: Futhi, kubonakala sengathi, kubonakale isizukulwane sonke sokuhlehlisa ukuphelela, sizokwenza konke ngokuphelele, kodwa hhayi namuhla, kodwa kusasa - ingabe uhlangane nabantu abanjalo? 🙂