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Ukugeza amathambo osaziwayo kuwumsebenzi ongenangqondo futhi oyihlazo. Kodwa kancane kancane wonke umuntu uyakwenza. Kuyini - isibonakaliso se-psyche yengane noma ukubonakaliswa kwezidingo ezijulile?
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Ezinsukwini ezintathu ezedlule, sikwazile ukuxoxa ngakho konke okuhlobene nesehlukaniso esizayo sikaBrad Pitt no-Angelina: ngubani oyisisulu esiyinhloko, ngubani onecala, kuzokwenzekani ezinganeni. Wonke amaqembu asebenzayo ahlangana emakamelweni okubhema nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana ezinikezelwe ekuhlaziyeni ubudlelwano phakathi kwabadlali ababili. Umphakathi wabalandeli wahlukana waba “ama-pittists” kanye “nama-jolists”, futhi eminye imibhangqwana yakwazi ukuxabana kwabayisishiyagalolunye ngenxa yokuthi omunye wabalingani basekela uPitt kanti omunye wayesekela uJolie. Kungani kunemizwa eminingi kangaka?
Abangazi kodwa izihlobo
Ngokombono wengqondo, imizwa esizizwa ngabantu esingabazi ikhuluma ngobudlelwano be-parasocial. Isiqalo esithi «umbhangqwana» lapha sisho ukuchezuka: lokhu akubona ubuhlobo ngomqondo ojwayelekile, kodwa umlingani wabo. Emuva ngawo-1950, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo u-Donald Horton no-Richard Wohl baqaphela ukuthi asivele sizwelane nabalingiswa esibathandayo esikrinini—sibenza babe yingxenye yokuphila kwethu. Kodwa ukuxhumana kuphenduka uhlangothi olulodwa: siphatha izilwane ezifuywayo ngendlela efanayo naleyo izingane ezincane eziphatha ngayo onodoli. Ngaphandle kokuthi ingane inamandla aphelele phezu kunodoli, ngokungafani neqhawe lefilimu.
Umhlaba wamaphupho usivumela ukuthi sihlole ukuthi singobani, ukuqonda kwethu ubudlelwano
Bunempilo kangakanani lobu budlelwano? Kungacatshangwa ukuthi labo abenza abangane abacabangayo kanye nabathandi abaneliseki ngokuphelele ngobudlelwane babo empilweni yangempela. Ngempela, ubudlelwano be-parasocial ngokuvamile bungenwa yilabo abangazithembi ngokwanele futhi abanobunzima bokuxhumana nabantu bangempela. Okokuqala, kuphephe kakhudlwana: umngane we-TV ngeke asishiye, futhi uma lokhu kwenzeka, sinamarekhodi amadala kanye nemicabango yethu esinawo. Okwesibili, izenzo zeqhawe zihlala zimangalisa kakhulu: akangeni ephaketheni lakhe ngezwi, akenzi umsebenzi ojwayelekile, futhi uhlala ebukeka kahle.
U-Angelina Omuhle noBrad uMninimandla onke
Akuwona wonke umuntu ovumayo ukuthi ukuba khona kwezibonakaliso zobudlelwane be-parasocial kithi kuyisizathu sokuphendukela kuchwepheshe. Ngisho noma ubudlelwano bungangokoqobo, imizwa engemuva kwabo ingaba usizo. “Izwe lamaphupho lisivumela ukuba sizihlole ukuthi singobani, ukuqonda kwethu ubuhlobo, izindinganiso zethu, nendlela esiyiqonda ngayo injongo yokuphila,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwabezindaba uKaren Dill-Shackleford.
Lapha kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi igama elithi "idol" ekuqaleni lalibhekisela konkulunkulu bamaqaba. Ngempela, kwabaningi bethu, osaziwayo basezingeni elingenakufinyeleleka kangangokuthi bathola isimo esicishe sibe saphezulu. Ngakho-ke, abaningi kangaka bavikela izilwane zabo ezifuywayo ngentshiseko ekuhlaselweni. Sidinga izibonelo okufanele sizilandele. Sifuna ukuba phambi kwamehlo ethu isifanekiso sempumelelo, Umusa, Ubuhlakani kanye Nobuhle. Kungaba hhayi kuphela izinkanyezi ze-pop, kodwa futhi osopolitiki, izishoshovu zezenhlalakahle noma othisha bakamoya. Wonke umuntu udinga umesiya alungele ukuya kuye, abangaphendukela kuye ngokwengqondo ukuze bathole ukusekelwa nogqozi.
EkaJenny noma eka-Angie?
Okokugcina, kunesici somphakathi othandweni lwethu ngosaziwayo. Sithanda ukuba yingxenye yeqembu elilodwa elihlangene, «isizwe» lapho wonke umuntu ekhuluma ulimi olufanayo, abonana ngezimpawu ezaziwa yibona kuphela, abe nemikhonzo yabo eyimfihlo, amaholide, amahlaya. Igama lesiNgisi elithi fandom (isisekelo sabalandeli) selivele langena olimini lwethu kanye nesenzakalo ngokwaso: imiphakathi yabalandeli ibala izigidi zabantu. Bashintshana njalo ngezindaba, babhale izindaba ngezithixo zabo, badwebe izithombe namahlaya, bakopishe ukubukeka kwabo. Ungenza ngisho "umsebenzi" ohlaba umxhwele kubo, ube uchwepheshe ku-biography noma isitayela somlingisi omthandayo.
Sithanda ukuba yingxenye yeqembu elilodwa elihlangene, “isizwe”, lapho wonke umuntu ekhuluma ulimi olufanayo, abonana ngezimpawu ezaziwa yibona kuphela.
Imiphakathi yabalandeli ifana namakilabhu abalandeli bezemidlalo ngezindlela eziningi: babona ukunqoba nokunqotshwa “kompetha” babo njengokwabo. Ngalo mqondo, isehlukaniso sika-Angelina Jolie singaba igalelo langempela kubalandeli bakhe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo sinikeze isizathu sokujabula kubalandeli bakaJennifer Aniston. Phela, ngu-Angelina owake "wacasula" intandokazi yabo, eshaya uBrad Pitt kuye. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Rick Grieve siphawula ukuthi imizwelo yeqembu itholakala ngokushesha kakhudlwana futhi ilethe ukwaneliseka okwengeziwe. “Uma wonke umuntu oseduze nawe ecula into efanayo, kukunikeza amandla nokuzethemba,” uyachaza.
Kukhona okuhle ebudlelwaneni bengqondo nezinkanyezi, kanye nezinhlangothi ezingezinhle. Sigqugquzelwa yizindinganiso zabo, indlela yokuphila kanye nendlela ezithinta ngayo izinkinga zokuphila ezihlukahlukene. Kudingeka kuphela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi okunamathiselwe akuthuthuki kube ukuncika, futhi abaxhumanisi abacabangayo abafaki esikhundleni sangempela.
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