Ungasinda kanjani: amathiphu awusizo
Isinyathelo 1
Ziphendule ngobuqotho: mangaki amaphesenti kwayikhulu osanethemba lokubuyisela ubuhlobo obulahlekile? Thatha ishidi bese ubhala amakholomu amabili: yini obuyithanda ngomlingani wakho nokuthi yini owahlupheka ngayo naye. Qhathanisa lapho kunamaphuzu amaningi.
Isinyathelo 2
Hlaziya izinga lobudlelwano benu. Uma uke wahlukunyezwa (ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba, ngokwezimali), kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ufuna ukubuyela othandekayo wakho, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi uncike ngokwengqondo kumlingani wakho wangaphambili. Kuze kube yilapho uxazulula le nkinga, uzoqhubeka nokuvumela ozakwethu ababhubhisayo empilweni yakho abazokulethela ukuhlupheka kuphela.
“Cabanga ngokuthi yini eyakugcina uthandana. Uma lezi kuyizingane, ukwesaba ukukhokhwa ngokwezimali noma isizungu, khona-ke, okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukusebenza ezindabeni zokuvuthwa komuntu siqu, hhayi ngokubuya komlingani, "kuphawula. Natalya Legovtseva, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eMoscow Service for Psychological Assistance to the Population.
Isinyathelo 3
Uma usalangazelela uthando oluqotho, inhlonipho kanye nobuntu (!) bomuntu othandekayo, bese umtshela ngokukhululekile ngakho, ngaphandle kwezinsongo kanye nokukhwabanisa. Nikelani ukusebenzisana ngalezo zinkinga nezikhalo ezinqwabelene phakathi nobudlelwano benu. Funa iseluleko kuchwepheshe wezengqondo womndeni. Ngaleyo ndlela okungenani ungazitshela ukuthi wenze konke okusemandleni akho. Uma umlingani ehlukanisiwe esinqumweni sakhe sokushiya, kufanele nje wamukele ukukhetha kwakhe futhi uqale ukuphila impilo yakho entsha, ehlukene.
Isinyathelo 4
Yamukela futhi uvume iqiniso lokwehlukana. Ungashiyi indawo yamathemba okuthi ubuhlobo buzoqala kabusha. Ngokunamathela kumuntu ongakuthandi, uchitha amandla akho futhi uchitha isikhathi sakho.
“Hlukanisa ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Isibonelo, yenza ngokuzimela izinqubo zokuxolela ezitholakala esidlangalaleni ku-inthanethi, noma ucele usizo kudokotela wezengqondo. Umsebenzi oyinhloko ukwamukela iqiniso lokuhlukana, ukuthethelela, ukuyeka umuntu kanye nesimo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungisa ukucasuka, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzothatha amandla amaningi, impilo namandla. Okufanelekile, kufanele uzizwe sengathi awuthathi hlangothi ku-ex yakho. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo esikhathini esizayo. Uma kungenjalo, kunengozi yokudlulisa umthwalo omdala wezinto ezingezinhle ebudlelwaneni obusha. Ngokwesibonelo, owake wamthanda ukukhohlisile. Uma ungasebenzi kulokhu kuhlukumezeka, kungenzeka ukuthi ebudlelwaneni obusha uzosakaza umona ongenasisekelo, ”kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Isinyathelo 5
Zinzisa isimo sakho somzwelo. Lokhu kungasizwa yimikhuba yokuzindla yansuku zonke, ukuvivinya umzimba nokudla okufanele. Umzimba owunakekelayo uzokubuyisela ngamahomoni enjabulo. Amakhono okuphumula angenziwa futhi ezikhathini zokuvuselela ingqondo.
“Thuthukisa ukufunda ngengqondo. Funda izincwadi, uye kumasemina, ama-webinars kanye nokuqeqeshwa kokuthi ungafika kanjani ekuvuthweni ngokomzwelo futhi wakhe ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo, ”kuncoma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Isinyathelo 6
Thola insiza yangaphakathi. Suka ekucabangeni kokuzinikela futhi ulindele ukuthi othile azokujabulisa. Yeka ukufuna uthando ngaphandle. Yiba ijeneretha yokufudumala nokukhanya kwakho. Phatha umuntu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho (nguwe lowo). Thola into othanda ukuyenza, nento ezokuthuthukisa, ikwenze uzethembe futhi ujabule kakhudlwana.
“Isibonelo, thola umsebenzi omusha ozokuxosha, naphezu kwakho konke ukwesaba nemikhawulo. Noma ekugcineni thatha umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa obulokhu ucabanga ngawo isikhathi eside. Yeka ukwenza izaba zokuthi kungani ungakwazi ukukwenza. Ngale ndlela, ngeke nje uqede ukudabuka, kodwa futhi uthole ithuba lokuhlangana nomuntu ofanelana nawe ngempela, "kuncoma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Isinyathelo 7
Qaphela futhi wamukele iqiniso lokuthi nguwe kuphela oqinisekisiwe ukuba nawe zonke izinsuku zakho. Kodwa nansi indida: lapho sazi ukuthi singazinakekela kanjani, sizinakekele, siqaphele ukubaluleka kwethu nokubaluleka kwethu, khona-ke abantu abasizungezile baqala ukusihlonipha ngokumangalisayo, bakhangwa ukuxhumana futhi abafuni ngempela ukulahlekelwa. Kusuka esimweni esinjalo - ukuzithanda, ukugcwaliseka kanye nenjabulo - ukuthi ungakha ubudlelwano obuqinile nobuvumelanayo. Kuphela ngokuzithanda yena, umuntu uyakwazi ukuthanda omunye ngobuqotho nangokujulile.
Okungafanele ukwenze
Ungabheki umuntu ozomsola
Veza imizwa engalungile, wabelane ngobuhlungu nabathandekayo, kodwa lokhu akufanele kuthathe yonke indawo. Amandla akho nokunaka kwakho kufanele ukusetshenziswa kangcono.
Ungazami ukugcina othandekayo wakho ngezinsongo kanye nokukhohlisa.
Awufuni umuntu ahlale nawe ngenxa yokwesaba noma isihawu, akunjalo?
Ungagcwalisi isikhala sangaphakathi ngamanoveli osuku olulodwa
Kuyadingeka ukuthi uzinike isikhathi sokudabuka ngokuhlukana nomuntu omthandayo futhi uhlangabezane nokungabi nalutho kwakho kwangaphakathi. Abantu abaningi bayaseqa lesi sigaba esibalulekile, abaphili ebuhlungwini, kodwa bayabubalekela. Ngeshwa, ukushiya ezingalweni zomuntu ongathandwa kubuyisela emuva futhi ubuze buyaqina. Zinike isikhathi (isibonelo, izinyanga eziyisithupha) lapho uzobe unesizungu owazi ngaso. Ngalesi sikhathi, hlanganyela ekubuyiseleni ubungqabavu, ukuzithuthukisa.
Ungazami ukuqeda isithukuthezi sakho ngokudla, izikhuthazi, notshwala.
Le ndlela engabazisayo ngeke ilethe impumuzo oyifunayo. Ngemuva kokuthi umphumela wezikhuthazi usuphelile, uzodinga umthamo omusha nomusha. Ngenxa yalokho, umzimba uzoziphindiselela ngokukhululwa kwama-hormone okucindezeleka, ukuxhomeka ngokomzimba kanye nesisindo esiningi. Vulela kangcono emsebenzini wangaphakathi oqaphelayo ukuze uqede ubudlelwano ngokomzwelo futhi wamukele isimo sakho samanje.
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