Yini eza kuqala kithi? Impendulo yalo mbuzo isula izingqondo zethu, yenza isimiso sethu sibe lula, futhi yonga isikhathi namandla. Kusinikeza ithuba lokwenza lokho okuyigugu ngempela kithi.
UTatyana uneminyaka engama-38. Unomyeni, izingane ezimbili kanye nesimiso esicacile kusukela ewashini le-alamu yasekuseni kuya ezifundweni zakusihlwa. “Akukho engikhononda ngakho,” uyazibuza, “kodwa ngokuvamile ngizizwa ngikhathele, ngicasukile futhi ngingelutho ngandlela-thile. Kubonakala sengathi kukhona okubalulekile okushodayo, kodwa angiqondi ukuthi kuyini.”
Amadoda nabesifazane abaningi baphila ngokuphambene nentando yabo ku-autopilot, esungulwe futhi ehlelelwe bona ngabanye. Ngezinye izikhathi kungenxa yokuthi bathi «cha» kubo ngokwabo, kodwa ngokuvamile kunalokho ngoba abazange alinge ukuthi «yebo».
Impilo yethu yomuntu siqu iyafana: ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokho esingene kukho ebudlelwaneni kubhalwe phansi impilo yansuku zonke - imisebenzi yansuku zonke kanye nezingxabano ezincane, ngakho-ke sibhekene nesidingo sokushintsha okuthile ebuhlotsheni nabathandekayo bethu. Uma singenzi lokhu futhi siqhubeka nokuhamba "esithupheni", khona-ke silahlekelwa amandla nesithakazelo ekuphileni. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lesi simo singaphenduka ukucindezeleka.
Isikhathi sokuba yi-amateur
“Amakhasimende anenkinga efanayo eza kimi kaningi,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezokwelapha uSergey Malyukov. - Bese-ke, okokuqala, ngiphakamisa ukunquma: yini ngempela ejabulisa wena? Bese uthola ukuthi lo muzwa uvela kanjani, kungani ngalesi sikhathi. Mhlawumbe lokhu ukugcwaliseka kwenye ikhwalithi noma isici sakho. Futhi zingaba nje intambo ezobuyisela ukunambitheka kokuphila. Kungaba kuhle ukuzikhumbula ngalezo zikhathi lapho yonke into ihlelekile, futhi uqonde ukuthi yimiphi imisebenzi, ibuphi ubudlelwano obabuthathe isikhathi esiningi empilweni yami. Zibuze ukuthi kungani bekubalulekile."
Ungahamba ngendlela ephambene: hlukanisa leyo misebenzi nobudlelwano obudala ukudangala, isithukuthezi, ukunganeliseki, bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi yini engalungile ngayo. Kodwa le ndlela, ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, inzima kakhulu.
UTatyana waphendukela kudokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo, futhi wammema ukuba akhumbule lokho ayekuthanda ebuntwaneni. “Ekuqaleni, akukho okwafika engqondweni yami, kodwa ngase ngiqaphela: Ngaya esitudiyo sobuciko! Ngangithanda ukudweba, kodwa sasingekho isikhathi esanele, ngawushiya lo msebenzi futhi ngawukhohlwa ngokuphelele. Ngemva kwengxoxo, wanquma ukuyiqhuba futhi. Ngemva kokuthola isikhathi sesikole sobuciko sabantu abadala, uTatiana uyamangala lapho eqonda ukuthi sonke lesi sikhathi wayentula ubuciko.
Uma siyazi imithetho nemithethonqubo kahle kakhulu futhi sisebenza ekushayeleni okuzenzakalelayo, silahlekelwa umuzwa wethu wobusha, ukumangala, kanye nesasasa.
Ngezinye izikhathi siyakuziba izidingo zethu iminyaka. Izinto zokuzilibazisa ngezinye izikhathi zibonakala zingasho lutho uma ziqhathaniswa nomsebenzi noma imithwalo yemfanelo yomkhaya. Kunezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani siyeka imisebenzi eyayibalulekile kithi.
"Bayeka ukujabulisa lapho beba umkhuba futhi umqondo wokuqala ufiphalisiwe, ngenxa yalokho saqala ukwenza lokhu," kuchaza uSergey Malyukov. — Uma sikhuluma ngomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa noma ngomsebenzi, khona-ke lokhu kungaba lapho sicindezelwa imibono eminingi kakhulu yokuthi singayenza kanjani kahle. Isibonelo, imibono oyidingayo ukuze uzuze impumelelo ethile ngosuku oluthile, sebenzisa amasu athile, uziqhathanise nabanye. Ukufakwa okunjalo "kwangaphandle" ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kufihla ingqikithi yebhizinisi lethu.
Ubuchwepheshe obudlulele bungaholela kulo mphumela: lapho sazi kahle kakhulu imithetho nezinkambiso futhi senza ngokuzenzakalelayo, silahlekelwa umuzwa wobusha, ukumangala kanye nesasasa. Isithakazelo nenjabulo ivelaphi? Indlela yokuphuma iwukufunda izinto ezintsha, zama ukwenza okuhlukile noma ngendlela ehlukile. Khumbula ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba yimfundamakhwela. Futhi zivumele ukuba wenze iphutha futhi.
Akukona konke okulawulwayo
“Angazi ukuthi ngifunani, angizwa ukuthi kungilungele” … Isimo esinjalo singaba umphumela wokukhathala okukhulu, ukukhathala. Khona-ke sidinga ukuphumula okucabangelayo nokuphelele. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ukungazi izinto eziza kuqala kuwe kuwukwenqatshwa, ngemuva okulele ukwesaba ukwehluleka okungazi lutho. Izimpande zayo zibuyela emuva ebuntwaneni, lapho abazali abaqinile befuna isisombululo esiphuthumayo semisebenzi ebekwe kwabahlanu abaphezulu.
Okuwukuphela kwendlela engenzeka yokubhikisha ngokumelene nezimo zengqondo zabazali ezingayekethisi yisinqumo sokunganqumi nokungakhethi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokwenqaba ukugcizelela, sigcina inkohliso yokuba namandla onke nokulawula isimo. Uma singazikhethi, ngeke sibhekane nokunqotshwa.
Kumelwe siqaphele ilungelo lethu lokwenza amaphutha futhi singaphelele. Khona-ke ukwehluleka ngeke kusaba uphawu olwesabekayo lokwehluleka.
Kodwa ukungaqapheli okunjalo kuhlotshaniswa nokubambeka enkingeni yentsha yaphakade (i-puer aeternus) futhi igcwele ukumisa endleleni yokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu. Njengoba uJung abhala, uma singakuqapheli okuqukethwe kwangaphakathi kwengqondo yethu, iqala ukusithonya ngaphandle futhi iba yisiphetho sethu. Ngamanye amazwi, impilo izophinde “isijikijele” ngezimo eziphindaphindayo ezidinga ikhono lokukhetha - kuze kube yilapho sithatha isibopho ngakho.
Ukuze lokhu kwenzeke, kumelwe siqaphele ilungelo lethu lokungalungile nokungapheleli. Khona-ke ukwehluleka kuzophela ukuba uphawu olwesabekayo lokwehluleka futhi kuyoba ingxenye kuphela yomnyakazo endleleni esiyikhethelwe thina hhayi umphakathi, hhayi isimanje, futhi hhayi ngisho abasondelene, kodwa thina kuphela.
"Singakwazi ukunquma ukuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela kithi ngokulandela ukuthi izenzo ezitshalwe kulokhu noma lowo msebenzi zinikeza amandla nezinsiza," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Elena Arie. "Futhi lokhu kokugcina, kukuvumela ukuthi ucubungule ngempumelelo ukukhathazeka, amahloni, umuzwa wecala neminye imizwa ephazamisa ukugxila ekufinyeleleni izinjongo." Ukwazi ukuthi yini ebalulekile kithi, sizoqonda ukuthi ayini amandla ethu.