«ukucabanga ngokweqile: Ngokwezwi nezwi, ukucabanga kakhulu. Umcwaningi waseMelika kwezengqondo, uSusan Nolen-Hoeksema ubuchaze kakhulu lobubi, nezindlela zokubulungisa: ubalandisa ngomsebenzi wakhe Kungani abesifazane behola? Ngoba, empeleni, ukucabanga ngokweqile kuthinta kakhulu abesifazane. USusan Nolen-Hoesksema uchaza, empeleni, ukucabanga ngokweqile ngokuthi “ukuthambekela kokuvuselela ngokweqile inani elithile lemicabango emibi noma imizwa“. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa okugwema ukuwela emaketangeni ayo… Noma ukuphatha ukweqa amanetha ayo!

«Abaningi bethu kwesinye isikhathi basindwa yizinkathazo, imicabango noma imizwa okuthi, ngaphandle kolawulo lwethu, kukhiphe imizwa yethu namandla ethu.. ”Ngakho-ke, kula magama lapho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSusan Nolen-Hoeksema sichaza khona ukucabanga ngokweqile:“ dizifufula zokukhathazeka nemizwa engemihle eyehlisa impilo yethu yansuku zonke nenhlalakahle yethu".

Abantu bathambekele ekukhanyeni okunjalo bese beqala ukulandela umkhondo ngamunye, becabanga amahora… Umphumela? Usizi luyanda kuphela. Imicabango igeleza njengokuma kwabo, ngaphandle kokuthi bakwazi ukuthola izimpendulo.

Abesifazane bathambekele kulezi zinhlobo zokukhanyisa ngokweqile kunamadoda. Futhi bangakwenza kunoma yini nakuyonke into, kusuka ekubukekeni kwabo noma isisindo sabo esingeqile emndenini wabo, emsebenzini wabo noma empilweni yabo. "Ukuphunyuka ekucabangeni ngokweqile, kusho uSusan Nolen-Hoeksema, kufana nokuzama ukuphuma olwandle. Ukuthola inkululeko, isinyathelo sokuqala ukukhulula imicabango ekucindezelayo.. "

Ucwaningo oluningana ebuchosheni luchaza ukuthi abanye (noma abanye) bethu bathambekele kakhulu ekuhleleni kunabanye. Le yindlela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uRichard Davidson aqonda ngayo, esebenzisa lokho akubiza ngokuthi “i-affective neuroscience”, izindlela eziningi zobuchopho zokucubungula imizwa. Ubuchwepheshe be-imaging yezokwelapha ngaleyo ndlela bukwenze kwaba nokwenzeka ukukhombisa “leyo mizwa engemihle yasebenza ngohlangothi lwangakwesokudla lwengxenye yobuchopho, ebizwa nge-prefrontal cortex, ngaphezu kohlangothi lwesobunxele“. I-prefrontal cortex yisifunda sobuchopho esivumela ukulawulwa kwemizwelo, okungukuthi amandla okukuhluza nokuwalawula.

Ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-correx ye-prefrontal ngaleyo ndlela kuzoba semsonjeni wokulawulwa kabi kwemizwelo, okungaholela ekucabangeni ngokweqile, noma ekuthambekeleni kokucindezeleka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izingxenye ezimbili zobuchopho nazo zingabandakanyeka: i-amygdala ne-hippocampus, okuyizindawo zokufunda nokukhumbula izimo ezingokomzwelo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuvela ukuthi bonakele kubantu abajwayele ukucindezeleka kanye namahemuhemu. Futhi-ke, i-amygdala eyeqile ngokweqile ngokwesibonelo ingaholela ekubeni "nozwelo kakhulu", ukuze ithathe kalula zonke izinhlobo zolwazi olungeluhle.

USusan Nolen-Hoeksema uyabhala: “Ukuzikhulula ekucabangeni ngokweqile akulula. Kudinga ukubuyisa ukuzethemba, ukuzihlukanisa nemicabango emibi engalawuleki. ”Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile… Kunezixazululo eziningi zalokhu. Ucwaningo oluningi olwenziwe ngokudangala, ikakhulukazi, oluholwa phakathi kokunye yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uPeter Lewinsohn, lukhombisile ukuthi “ukuze welaphe, kubalulekile ukwephula isiyingi esibi sokucabanga ngokweqile nokungakhathali". 

Amathrekhi amaningana akuvumela ukuthi uzikhulule kuwo: phakathi kwawo, lokho kwekhefu. Zinike isiphazamiso. "Ngokucwaninga, ngithole ukuthi kuthatha isikhashana ukuphazanyiswa kwemizuzu eyisishiyagalombili ukubuyisa imizwa yakho enhle futhi wephule isiyingi semicabango engalawuleki.“, USusan Nolen-Hoeksema. Izindlela zihlukile, kusukela kumkhuba wokuzivocavoca umzimba, ikakhulukazi lezo ezidinga ukunakekelwa okuphelele njenge-badminton noma ukukhuphuka, kuleyo yemisebenzi yezandla, noma ngotshalo-mali ngokuzithandela.

Abanye abantu babalekela imisebenzi engenampilo, njenge-bulimia noma ukuphuza ngokweqile. Kuyinkohliso: “Ngenkathi ukudla ngokushesha uzizwa ukhululekile, umphumela we-boomerang ucishe ube khona ngaso leso sikhathi. Siyazisola ngokunikela emaphaketheni amakhekhe, sicindezelekile ngokungabi namandla ethu. Kungokufanayo nangotshwala", Kubhala uSusan Nolen-Hoeksema. Ngubani ekugcineni weluleka yokuzingela phansi injabulo futhi siphile it…

Izikhathi zobumnandi, ukufuna injabulo, kwenza kube lula ukunqoba usizi oluhlukahlukene, noma ukufelwa. Amandla okujabula athinta nezinga lokucabanga. Imizwelo emihle inciphisa imiphumela emibi yengcindezi engapheli ohlelweni lwethu lomzimba. Ucwaningo olumangazayo olwenziwe ososayensi bezengqondo eKentucky luvamise ukukhombisa ukuthi izikhathi zemizwa emihle zandisa nobude bempilo: laba bacwaningi bakhombisile, kumanazaretha, ukuthi labo ababekwazi ukuhlala imizwelo emihle babephila ngokwesilinganiso seminyaka eyishumi ngaphezulu !

Umkhuba wokuzindla uvamile: cishe abantu abangama-40% okwaxoxwa nabo nguSusan Nolen-Hoeksema bathi baphendukela emthandazweni noma ekuzindleni ukuze baphule ukudideka kwabo nokucabanga ngokweqile. "Yize izikhathi zethu zilahlekelwe ngumqondo othile wezindinganiso zobuKristu, abaningi bakholelwa eQenjini Eliphakeme, uMholi Ophakeme“, Kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika.

Ukuzindla okugxile, okubandakanya ukugxila kakhulu kumzuzu wamanje, emshweni noma esithombeni, kanye nokuzindla okucacile, okugqugquzela ukwazi kahle imicabango, isithombe, umbono, umuzwa womzimba ngokushesha lapho befika, kungaba indlela enhle yokwehlisa umthwalo wakho… Sizobalula, futhi, ukubhala, noma iqiniso lokuzijabulisa okuncane kwansuku zonke, njengokubuka ifilimu yamahlaya, ukuhamba endaweni enhle, noma ukudlala nezingane ezincane…

Ngaphezu kwalokho, usizo lwelaphi noma lowomeluleki wemishado okhethwe ngokuqonda kungenza, lapho kunesidingo, ukwenza sikwazi ukulungisa isimo esivumela ukucabanga ngokweqile, njenge, ngokwesibonelo, phakathi kwezithandani.

Futhi uma, ekugcineni, silandela isazi sefilosofi uMaurice Bellet, manje sesivele sidinga “qamba indlela entsha yokuba semhlabeni"? Uyakwazi, ngokuzithoba konke, “ukuba isiqalo esisha"? I-Carpe Diem! Ake sisebenzise umzuzu wamanje…