Okuqukethwe
Shaya, luma futhi uthephe ukuze uziveze
Mncane kakhulu, ingane ayikwazi ukuveza imizwa (njengobuhlungu, ukwesaba, intukuthelo, noma ukukhungatheka) ngamagama. Ngakho-ke uvame ukuziveza ngendlela ehlukile, esebenzisa ukushukuma komzimba noma kusho “okufinyeleleka” kakhulu kuye : ukushaya, ukuluma, ukusunduza, ukuncinza… Ukuluma kungamela indlela yabaphathi abaphikisayo noma abanye. Usebenzisa le ndlela ukuveza intukuthelo yakhe, ukucasuka kwakhe noma ukuvele abhekane nawe. Ngakho-ke ukuluma kuba yindlela yakhe yokudlulisa ukukhungatheka kwakhe..
Ingane yami iyaluma: ngenzenjani?
Naphezu kwakho konke, akufanele sikubekezelele lokhu kuziphatha, noma sikuvumele kwenzeke noma sikuthathe kalula. Kufanele ungenelele, kodwa hhayi nje noma iyiphi indlela endala! Gwema ukungenela ngokumluma ngokushintshana, “ukumkhombisa ukuthi kunjani”. Lesi akusona isixazululo esifanele. Ukusabela ekuziphatheni okunolaka komunye umuntu akusona neze isibonelo esihle esingasibeka futhi kusisusa esibonelweni esihle okufanele sibe yiso ezinganeni zethu. Kunoma ikuphi, ingane yakho encane ngeke ikuqonde ukuthinta kwakho. Ngokuluma, sizibeka ezingeni lethu lokuxhumana, silahlekelwa igunya lethu futhi lokhu kwenza ingane ingazethembi. I-NO eqinile ngokuvamile iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokungenelela ezinganeni kule minyaka. Lokhu cha kuzomvumela ukuthi aqonde ukuthi isenzo sakhe asamukelekile. Bese udala umdlalo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungagcizeleli ukuthinta (noma izizathu ezimgqugquzele ukuthi alume). Mncane kakhulu ukuthi angakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini emshukumisela ukuba enze kanjalo. Ngokuqondisa kabusha ukunaka kwakhe kwenye indawo, kufanele ubone lokhu kuziphatha kuhamba ngokushesha.
Iseluleko esivela ku-Suzanne Vallières, udokotela wezifo zengqondo
- Qonda ukuthi ezinganeni eziningi, ukuluma kungaba indlela yokuveza imizwa
- Ungalokothi ubekezelele lesi senzo (hlala ungenelela)
- Ungalokothi ululume njengokungenelela