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Umamezala nomalokazana: ukuxhumana okunzima
Phakathi kwenu, kunokungaqondi kahle, kungumbuzo wesizukulwane. Ngosuku lwakhe, sasivumela izingane ukuba zikhale, sizibeke eziswini zazo, siziphakele ngezikhathi ezimisiwe. Kwezinye izikhathi, eminye imikhuba… Ungangeni ezingxabanweni, letha izeluleko zochwepheshe. Mtshele: "Udokotela wami wezingane ungicebise ukuthi ...". Amasiko omndeni namasiko nawo angakuphikisa: UMam Durand uyaqinisekisa ukuthi akekho kwabancane baseDurands owake wadinga okokuthambisa ... Kuthathe ngokuncokola: uDurand wakho omncane ukukulinga kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha, uyiphayona!
Phakathi kwakho, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kukhona indoda, indodana yakhe, engasahlali naye kodwa nawe. Noma engelona uhlobo lwesikhukhukazi esithena, kusekhona isizinda somona kuye. Ngakho-ke, kunamandla kunaye, udumazekile: ubengakhetha wena kakhulu ekunambithekeni kwakhe, ubeyofuna ukuphelela indodana yakhe.
Ngasohlangothini lwakho. Uyamangala ukuthi uthando lwempilo yakho lungaba kanjani ukunethezeka kuye, ungawaboni amaphutha akhe, ubuxhwanguxhwangu bakhe, kanye “nokudlula” okungaka kuye, kuyilapho nawe engakwazi ukuyekethisa kakhulu.
Nokho, ningabesifazane ababili, bomama ababili, lesi sibopho singanisondeza. Uma ukuxhumana kungasebenzi, zama ukuhlangana naye yedwa ukuze uthole isidlo sasemini lapho ungakhuluma khona phakathi kwabesifazane futhi uthole, mhlawumbe, amaphuzu avamile.
Misa imithetho yokuhloniphana
Hlela imithetho nomlingani wakho. Kungaba yihlazo uma umamezala engaba yingxabano phakathi kwenu. Khumbula ukuthi umama wakhe. Khuluma ngakho ngaphambi kokuba kuvele inkinga.
Ungakhathazeki. Hlonipha ubumfihlo bomndeni wakho: ungakwamukeli ukuthi ufike ungalindele noma uzimemele esidlweni sakusihlwa, futhi ikakhulukazi hhayi ngomakhalekhukhwini wendodana yakhe. Ngokwakho, yamukela isidlo sakusihlwa endaweni yakhe ngezikhathi ezithile (hhayi njalo ngeSonto!) Futhi lapho ukhona, yiba nokubambisana. Mkhombise ukuthi ungumpheki endlini yakhe futhi umncome.
Ngokwesinye isandla, ungavumi ukuthi ugxeka indlela owenza ngayo phambi kwezingane. Kumelwe kucace kakhulu: uma enento afuna ukuyisho, akufanele neze kube phambi kwabo.
Mnikeze indawo yakhe njengogogo
Ungugogo wengane yakho, umele izimpande zakhe, kubalulekile ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle naye. Kuwusizo ukukwazi ukubala usizo lwakhe ngezikhathi ezithile, cabanga ngakho, kuzokusiza ukuba ubekezelele amaphutha akhe amancane.
Mnikeze ingane yakho ngezikhathi ezithile. Uma kufanele ayigcine, mazise imikhuba yakhe, kodwa ungamniki inqwaba yezincomo, mthembe. Ungamgada. Angenza okuhlukile kunawe ngaphandle kokuhlukumeza ingane yakho.
Lalela iseluleko sakhe, noma ngabe ubahlulela kwenye inkathi, noma ungashintshiwe nhlobo: akudingekile ukuba ubalandele. Ungamenzi angafaneleki, uzokubambela igqubu elinenkani. Ufuna ukwenza kahle futhi mhlawumbe eminye yemibono yakhe izokwamukela.