Ubuhlobo phakathi kukamama nendodakazi abuvamile ukuba lula. Ukuqaphela ukungaboni ngaso linye kwabo nokuqonda izimbangela zako kuzosiza ekudambiseni ukungezwani, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emndenini.
Isiko lisinikeza inkolelo-mbono yothando lukamama njengolufanelekile futhi olungenabugovu. Kodwa empeleni, ubudlelwano phakathi kukamama nendodakazi abukaze bube obala. Baxuba izigameko eziningi ezahlukene, phakathi kwazo ulaka akulona olokugcina.
Kuvela lapho owesifazane eqala ukuqonda ukuthi uyaguga ... Ukuba khona kwendodakazi yakhe kumenza aqaphele lokho angafuni ukukubona. Ukungathandi kukamama kubhekiswe endodakazini yakhe, kube sengathi ukwenza ngamabomu.
Umama naye angathukuthela ngenxa yokusabalalisa «okungalungile» kwezinzuzo zempucuko: isizukulwane sendodakazi siyawathola ngaphezu kwalowo yena ngokwakhe.
Ulaka lungazibonakalisa cishe obala, njengesifiso sokuhlazisa indodakazi, isibonelo: “Izandla zakho zinjengezidladla zenkawu, futhi abantu bebelokhu bengincoma ngobuhle bezandla zami.” Ukuqhathanisa okunjalo akuvuni indodakazi, njengokungathi ukubuyisela ubulungisa kumama, ukubuyisela kuye lokho «ekukweletayo».
Ulaka lungafihlwa kahle. "Awugqokile nje kancane?" - umbuzo okhathalelayo ufihla ukungabaza ukuthi indodakazi iyakwazi ukuzikhethela izingubo zayo.
Ulaka angeke luqondiswe ngqo endodakazini, kodwa kokhethiweyo wayo, ogxekwa kakhulu (“Ungazithola uyindoda engcono”). Amadodakazi ayaluzwa lolu dlame oluyimfihlo futhi aphendule ngendlela.
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Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane bayengeza: "Ngifuna afe!" Lokhu, yiqiniso, akukhona ukubonakaliswa kwesifiso sangempela, kodwa amandla emizwa. Futhi lesi yisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu ekwelapheni ubudlelwano - ukuqashelwa kwemizwa yabo kanye nelungelo kubo.
Ulaka lungaba usizo — luvumela umama nendodakazi ukuthi babone ukuthi bahlukile, banezifiso nokuthanda okuhlukile. Kodwa emindenini lapho "umama engcwele" futhi ubudlova bunqatshelwe, ufihla ngaphansi kwezifihla-buso ezihlukene futhi akuvamile ukuba abonwe ngaphandle kosizo lwe-psychotherapist.
Ebudlelwaneni nendodakazi yakhe, umama angakwazi ukuphinda ukuziphatha kukanina engazi, ngisho noma ake anquma ukuthi ngeke afane naye. Ukuphindwaphindwa noma ukwenqaba ngokuphelele ukuziphatha kukanina kubonisa ukuncika ezinhlelweni zomndeni.
Umama nendodakazi bangakwazi ukuzwana omunye nomunye nakubo ngokwabo ngokuqonda uma bethola isibindi sokuhlola imizwa yabo. Umama, lapho eqonda lokho akudinga ngempela, uzokwazi ukuthola indlela yokwanelisa izidingo zakhe futhi alondoloze ukuzihlonipha ngaphandle kokululaza indodakazi yakhe.
Futhi indodakazi, mhlawumbe, izobona kumama ingane yangaphakathi enesidingo esinganeliseki sothando nokuqashelwa. Lokhu akulona ikhambi lokuqeda ubutha, kodwa isinyathelo esibheke enkululekweni yangaphakathi.